20 Things You NEED To Do When You're 30 That Will Make Your Life So Much Better When You're 50
For many of us, health issues are not things that we like to deal with. It's easy to forget about going to the doctor or checking in with yourself from time to time to make sure that everything is healthy and in working order.
Perhaps there's something you're dealing with right now that is causing you undue stress and anxiety.
The unfortunate part is that gaining back your health is much harder once the damage has been done.
We regularly get told that we need to exercise on a regular basis, stimulate our brains in challenging ways, and eat foods that are good for us, but more often than not we choose to indulge in instant gratification, saving the real consequences for later.
Only time will tell if the decisions we're making in the moment will affect us in a positive or negative way somewhere down the line. And it's almost always in hindsight that we realize the things we should have been doing all along.
After asking over 50 people questions about the things they'd wished they'd done differently in their younger years, their answers are ones that not only make sense, but are incredibly simple.
If you're nearing 30 years of age, here are 20 things you can start doing now to make sure your life is better at age 50:
1. Avoid smoking cigarettes, or stop if you currently do
The first one on the list likely comes as no surprise. "If you could see me now, I'm down on my poor, crackling knees begging you to at least consider stopping smoking," writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink.
Not only will you save a ton of money, but you'll be much healthier because of it. Say no to cancer at age 50, stop smoking now.
2. Pay attention to the foods you're eating; stop eating junk food
"You can make a lot of money in 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s,…90s to buy the whole world when you are at age 50 or beyond," writes Quora user Sireesha Chilakamarri.
"But, you cannot buy your health. Give up on fast food right now at age 30."
3. Build (or repair) healthy relationships with parents, siblings, loved ones
"…Chances are you've come across ideas and changed in ways that mean you don't see eye to eye with them on many issues. But then – that's part of what a family can help with – to learn to get along with people you don't agree with on many issues," writes Quora user Robert Walker.
"I come from a family which is very argumentative. If you didn't understand the situation you might at times think we hate each other. But it isn't like that at all. Rather, we free to speak our minds because the family ties are so strong."
4. Avoid being in the sun without sun protection
"I was stupid. I didn't listen. Do you want wrinkles and thin skin from sun damage like I have and do you want bruises from just lightly touching the side of a box and having your skin peel off?
Go ahead, enjoy lying in the sun without sunblock," writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink.
5. Exercise as often as you can
"Don't gain weight. Exercise. Keep your weight at a normal level that's good for your body," continues Cyndi Perlman Fink.
"Weight does all kinds of bad things for you body. I've been fat, I've been thin, thin is healthier."
6. Put away money in savings whenever you can, even if it's just small amounts here and there
"Save money. I know this is a boring, trite, and unsexy suggestion, but it's true," writes Quora user Cliff Gilley.
"In your 30s, the average person has a lot of disposable income, some of which can almost always easily be set aside for use later in life.
Plus, building the habit of saving early means you'll continue it further down the line."
7. Practice being grateful for what you have
"…Happiness is what matters far more than worldly success," writes Quora user Robert Walker. "If you are content with what you have then you may be a bit less likely to end up a millionaire, but you will have a happier life.
And if you do become a wealthy person – is no reason why not, you'll be a more happy, fulfilled and productive wealthy person."
8. Try not to put off the goals you have for your life
"Want to buy a house? Have kids? Write a book? Get a second degree or advanced degree? Change your career? Learn to play a new musical instrument? Learn to cook gourmet meals? Try scuba diving? Run for public office? Start a business and be self-employed? Then start today," writes Quora user Bill Karwin.
"It's easy to put things off. 'I'll get to that someday.' But it's really true that time starts accelerating as you enter your 30's, and it keeps accelerating. The time that you'll get around to those dreams should be now."
9. Make sure you're getting a good night's sleep as often as possible
"Use stellar sleep hygiene," writes Quora user Nan Waldman.
"A dark room or sleep shades will block out light. No bright screens before bedtime. Go to sleep at the same time and wake up at the same time."
10. Make sure you're taking care of your teeth and mouth
"…Go to the freaking dentist already," writes Quora user Caroline Zelonka. "Get your little cavities fixed as they come up. Unlike many body health issues, dental problems only get worse — and things like crowns and implants are uncomfortable, time-consuming and expensive (like, close to five figures per tooth for an extraction, implant and crown).
If you have a good savings and income stream, the bills won't be the painful thing — but there's no getting around the pain and the time suck."
11. Place more value on experiences than you do material objects
You don't want to wake up one day with a garage full of useless things you've accumulated over the years.
If the saying is true, and we are the sum of our experiences, then your time is best spent seeking out experiences that leave you fulfilled, enlightened, and happy.
Your memories never lose their value. That new sports car definitely will.
12. Practice giving back to others in your community
"Give to others so you feel the goodness that service brings," writes Quora user Nan Waldman. "However you give, do it with your full heart, soul, and effort. Expect nothing in return."
13. Always be curious and willing to step out of your comfort zone to chase adventure
"Get out of the house and have an honest-to-God adventure right now," writes Quora user Mary Leek. "Make it as big as you can possibly manage, take lots of pictures, throw caution to the wind, take on the risk, grab the brass ring.
If possible, include someone you're close to – make a BIG memory. It has to be more than jumping out of an airplane – it needs to be measured in days, not hours or minutes. You'll still be smiling about it when you're old and creaky, I promise. I am."
14. Read as many books as you can!
How many 50-year-olds do you think wish they'd spent more time sitting on the couch watching television or playing video games?
Your brain naturally wants to grow; allow it to do so by giving it the media that it craves.
15. Travel to the ends of the Earth
"Traveling will change you like little else can. It will put you in places that will force you to care for issues that are bigger than you," writes Jeff Goins.
"It's about experiencing true risk and adventure so you don't have to live in fear for the rest of your life. And…inspiring others to step out of that fear, too."
16. Learn how to look inward with meditation
"The list of benefits is endless, it only costs you a small amount of time a day, the change in your life and the people you love will be amazing," writes Quora user Rens De Nobel.
"And compared to ten years ago, there are long lists of scientific studies to back it up."
17. Live your life without comparing it to others
"Trust me, the day your body starts to show the signs of wear & tear, you no longer see any fun in partying or trying to impress people around you," writes Quora user Satish Kumar Grandhi.
"You need to start your path of self discovery right now to become stronger by the time you are 50."
18. Maintain a journal or diary so you can remember your favorite moments in life
"You WILL forget more of your precious memories that you'll remember," writes Quora user Mark Crawley. "Your written records will entertain and endear in your future (wish I had).
Your computer should make this archiving all the easier to implement and retain / recall. Put files on memory sticks with photos. Your kids (or surviving spouse) may someday love you for it."
19. Look into buying a home
"Buy a house, it'll be nearly paid for by the time you're 50," writes Quora user Liz Read.
20. Fill your life with friends who are good for you, and then make sure you take care of them
"Choose people who make you feel like you already are your best self, who challenge you by their example, and who you genuinely enjoy," explains Nan Waldman.
"Nurture them. Laugh with them. Be silly too. Contribute to their survival and enjoyment of life. Take the time every week to be in touch."
When it comes to figuring out just exactly who you are and what it is you should be doing in this world, looking to the stars for answers isn't a bad thing.
Every single person on this planet is unique and different than the next in some way, shape or form. Some of us possess a great deal of creativity and are only happy when working with our hands.
In the U.S. alone, there are more than 12.5 million boats. From small fishing boats on inland lakes and rivers to giant cruise ships and yachts sailing the high seas, Americans love their boats. After all, a day on the water, with the wind in your hair and the sun on your face is an enjoyable pastime.
Unfortunately, it isn't great for the environment. Every time we take a boat out on to the water, it contributes to environmental harm.
The year has only just begun and yet people across the world are already gearing up for the biggest astronomical event to take place in North America in almost forty years.
On Monday, August 21, 2017 a total solar eclipse will sweep across the United States, darkening skies from the West coast all the way to the East coast.
The most isolated nation on Earth holds many secrets.
North Korea, otherwise known as the Democratic People's Republic of Korea (DPRK) is a unique nation for all the wrong reasons. It is easily the most backward, isolated country on the planet.
Because of this isolation, information about the nature of the country, and the regime in power, is scarce and often not widely known.
Human psychology is a truly fascinating subject. It's something that's always interested me since I was a child.
Many things about psychology come off as simply being common sense, but it's when you really dig in and understand the roots of why we do things, we truly begin to understand ourselves.
On a subconscious level, we interpret colors as having various different meanings, moods and emotions.
Have you ever wondered why so many fast food restaurant chains have chosen to use yellow and red as their colors? It's because the color combination of red and yellow makes us think "fast" and "gotta go."
Did you know that every single thought and feeling that you have in your mind manifests itself physically in your body in some way, shape or form?
This is why the body releases various different chemicals based on our mood or how we're feeling at the time, whether it be feel-good chemicals from being happy, or stress hormones from being anxious.
Pink Himalayan crystal salt is something that has popped up in the mainstream over the past few years, so there's a good chance you've heard of it and know what I'm talking about.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, I'm here to tell you all about pink Himalayan salt and why it's so great for you, especially when compared to sea salt and regular table salt.
People will always have their own opinions as well as their own reactions to whatever you say to them.
However, it's a good thing to know a thing or two about that persons zodiac before you decide to confront them about something you know is going to upset them.
Ancient Chinese legends describe the world, as well as the entire universe, being tied together by five elements: Water, metal, earth, fire, and wood.
Without a balance with all five elements, chaos is free to do whatever it wants. We must treat ourselves the same way as the five elements are since they are the essential building blocks for our world and many others scattered throughout the heavens.
We are all aware of the four common blood types we already know which are O, AB, B, and A. The reason why blood types are different in the first place is because each of those blood types depends entirely on the proteins within the blood.
However, with a newly discovered blood type that is RH negative could potentially mean that you could be a person who has alien DNA.
When you take this test you will be able to see what the emotional age you truly belong to based on which color you claim the brightest out of two different answers.
There is only one correct answer and that is entirely dependent on the way you see which color is darker and which is the lightest. The test consists of looking at a variety of shades of red, blue, and yellow.
Love is one of those things that almost every person on this planet is searching for.
Some of us want it so badly that we get swept up in the initial stages of romance, blinded by feelings of lust, affection, and desire. There's no better feeling in this world than finding a person who loves you just as much as you love them.
Understanding an Aquarius in love starts with one recognizing that it only refers to Aquarius that have the planet Venus.
Having Venus in Aquarius makes a person quite special. They take on an unconventional, almost rebellious persona that chooses to express love openly and flirtatiously.
Many of us have had that one friend or roommate that just didn't think it was necessary to take showers or maintain their personal hygiene. After a while, it gets pretty gross.
You start to emit foul-smelling body odors, your hair becomes super greasy, and sometimes your skin will start breaking out simply because of all of the filth accumulating on your epidermis.
Insomnia is one of the cruelest reasons for a person to not be able to go to sleep or get any rest to recharge their batteries for the next day. Not getting enough sleep has a variety of issues that are associated with lack of sleep.
However, there is now a solution to insomnia; this simple natural three ingredient recipe that you can make yourself!
The properties of this recipe entail enough potency for someone to be able to fall asleep, stay asleep, and finally get some well deserved rest.
If you have any friends or family that suffer from having insomnia, then you may want to make some of this for them to see if it helps their sleep.
Whenever someone has the misfortune of having insomnia, they may often find themselves having some of these negative symptoms:
Decrease in their immune system functionality, leads to drug abuse or become addicted, same with alcohol abuse and or addiction, various psychological disorders, anxiety disorders, depression, and can even lead to suicide in some cases.
Insomnia is not a fun thing for anyone that has to deal with it, whether you're the person that has it or you have someone in your life that has it.
With this amazing recipe, there is no need for anyone to deal with any of these harsh symptoms of not getting the rest they need.
-10 Drops of Roman chamomile oil
-10 Drops of lavender oil
-4 OZ of magnesium oil
The best way to concoct this formula is by combining all of the listed essentials into a dark colored glass spray bottle.
The reason as to why the glass needs to be dark is so that the essential oils will keep their potency since exposure to sunlight causes them to deteriorate.
Be sure to shake the bottle before applying the mixture to the bottoms of your feet. Just spray before you get into bed which will let you fall asleep within minutes of use.
You're body will begin to relax and all of your stress will soon evaporate allowing you a very restful night of peaceful sleep.
The combination of these essential oils will relax all of your muscles, soothing any tension that resides deep within your body. You will notice how easy it is to slip into slumber with just one try of this application.
Again, it's important to keep in mind all of the negative side-effects that can happen with a great lack of sleep in your life. Some of the previously listed symptoms can tie into a lot of other stresses that can make your life seemingly difficult.
The more you are able to finally let your body shut down for just a little while lets it regain all of the necessary strength to take on what might happen tomorrow. Do not allow yourself to fall to insomnia, you will beat this restlessness.
If you are concerned for anyone that you may know of that has insomnia, direct them towards this page so that they can learn how to create this easy DIY sleep application.
All of these ingredients are natural and can be found at local health food stores anywhere. The same can be said about the glass spray bottles, a majority of health food stores have them in stock for these kinds of things.
There are also a variety of other methods that you can try to getting a good nights rest, do not limit yourself to this one thing. Hopefully this was useful for you and achieving a good nights sleep.
Some men are not known for their capability of expressing their emotions. It can be hard to make into words just exactly what the mind and heart are feeling.
For those men, they prefer to let their actions speak louder than their words.
Men are brought up in today's society with expectations that they become the pillars of support for friends, family and loved ones. Showing emotion isn't considered "manly" by our peers.
But, when we finally decide to bring down the walls and let a person in, we make sure they know how much they're loved.
Here are five things a man does when he's truly in love:
He loves his partner for who they are, not what they look like
Ironically enough, as the world shifts more towards superficial beauty and a hook-up style culture, more and more men are choosing women for who they are rather than who looks the best.
Men that have fallen for their partners embrace them in every way. They've fallen in love with each and every flaw or imperfection they have, and want nothing more than to support that person's dreams.
He protects his partner
Men who are truly in love are always on guard of their partner, making sure both physical and emotional harm never reach their loved one. They're always ready to stand in harm's way if it means the safety of their partner.
Additionally, they never ever think to hit or abuse the people they love.
He wants to know your opinion
Men that love their partners always value what they have to say. Whether it's an extreme political view or a stance on religion or what color to paint the living room, he's always willing to hear your side of things.
He goes out of his way for you
A man who is in love will almost always drop whatever he's doing if his partner needs help. You're easily his top priority, and if there's any way he can fix your problem he's going to do it. This could mean walking across town to get something you left at home or simply leaving a party early because you'd rather be somewhere else.
He's confident enough to let you live your own life
A theme that commonly happens in long-term relationships is codependency. Some men struggle when their partners don't spend every single second with them. If a man truly loves you, then he'll be okay with you spending time with other people, whether it be girlfriends or coworkers.
He recognizes that we all need time to be independent and practice the things that make us who we are.
A lot of people think 'soul mate' is a term used to describe that one person that's a perfect match for them, but the truth is that soul mates actually come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.
And while not all of them are romantic, all of them have a significant influence in our lives in one way or another.
Some soul mates are only with you for a brief second, others are with you for a lifetime, but you'll undoubtedly remember all of them, as they all come into your life for a specific reason.
Here are five types of soul mates you will meet and learn to love in your lifetime:
Friendship Soul Mate
This person is often your best friend in life. It's someone you met and instantly knew that the two of you would become lifelong friends, because it already feels like you've been friends your entire life.
This is the person you can talk to for hours and who always has your back because they often understand you better than you do.
This soul mate is here for the long haul, so be sure to nurture the relationship and never take it for granted.
The Wrecking Ball Soul Mate
This type of soul mate comes into your life with one purpose: to rock the boat. They come into your life when you're in need of a change of perspective, challenging us to really think about our life and our plans.
You'll know when this soul mate has entered your life because they come in like a hurricane of love and passion. One that you willingly get swept up in because you've never felt such a rush.
But, just as the storm passes, leaving behind nothing but debris, so does this soul mate. The only difference is that you grow into a different person using the remnants of the relationship as a foundation.
The Lover / Affair Soul Mate
These soul mates make their way into our lives to teach us something that will be valuable later on in life. They could be a first love, a hidden affair while with someone else, or just a passionate, friends-with-benefits type of situation.
These relationships slowly grow and build into something significant over time. And because you both taught each other so much, your bond will not dissipate anytime soon. These soul mates often stay as friends for quite sometime.
Stranger Soul Mate
The stranger soul mate is someone you typically meet randomly on a flight, bus ride, at a party or just walking down the street. You'll immediately feel as though you recognize this person, even if you can't remember from where. If you're the type to believe in past lives, this person could be someone you've met in your past.
While your interaction with each other is brief, you both have words of wisdom that the other person needs to hear. Whether it's validation or a nudge in the right direction, it's always intimate.
Divine Love Soul Mate
This soul mate is the one that most people are referring to when they use the term 'soul mate.' It's the one that every person strives to find in life, because if we're lucky enough to find them, it usually means we're destined to spend life together.
These soul mates are the culmination of every other soul mate listed above. Instantly recognizing one another, feeling like you've known them forever, the compassionate friendship, and of course, the deeply passionate, miraculous kind of love you've never experienced before.
As if you needed anymore incentive to be having sex, there are actually a myriad of health benefits you gain when you regularly engage in physical intimacy with a partner.
Of course orgasms are great, and playing with a partner is always fun, but when you routinely jump in the sack to release sexual energy, your mental, emotional, and physical well-being get a much needed boost.
Here are six great reasons to be having sex regularly:
It fortifies the immune system
When you're having sex on a regular basis, your body naturally produces more Immunoglobulin A, an antibody that plays a vital role in the immune system's functionality.
This means your body has a better chance to fight off sickness, which is perfect come flu season. Build up those antibodies by having sex.
Improved emotional health
Sex, by nature, is extremely intimate and physical. This means that you don't need to be having sex with a significant other to create an emotional connection with another person.
Love is something that often grows from sex, but it's not required to share that closeness with someone. Physical intimacy floods the brain with feel-good hormones, immediately shifting your perception of reality in a positive way.
You can learn to have multiple orgasms
While most people think that only women are capable of achieving multiple orgasms, men can learn to do it as well.
The Kinsey Institute reports that about 20% of men, and 14% of women, have the ability to orgasm multiple times. Are you part of the lucky bunch that gets off several times?
It works your body physically
Exercise has been the clear answer to getting in shape and being healthy for decades now. It can be difficult to get motivated to go to the gym, but motivation to have sex usually comes naturally.
When you have sex, you typically build up your cardiovascular stamina, as well as muscles in the back, legs, hips, and abdominals. Shed a few extra pounds and improve balance by regularly having sex.
Practice makes perfect
Just as with most anything in life, practicing sex on a routine basis helps you get better at it. For men, this can mean lasting longer, which in turn helps women achieve their orgasm.
For women, it can often mean learning how to orgasm faster or easier. Whatever your specific benefit is, two people working at sex everyday will naturally become better at it.
It helps keep you young
Dr. David Weeks surveyed 3500 people and discovered that everyone reported sex as being the "most intense kind of pleasure."
He also found that sex stimulates the production of certain chemicals in the body. Routine, loving sex was seen as the second most important factor when it came to retaining youth, just behind physical and mental activity.
You are likely to meet quite a bit of people in your lifetime, and not all of them are going to have a positive effect on you. Certain people find a way to manipulate their way into your life just to fill you with self doubt.
What makes the presence of these toxic even worse, is that often times you don't even realize they have worked their way into your life until it's too late.
It may even be someone who has become very close to you like a co worker, your partner, or one of your best friends. These people have a variety of manipulation techniques that they use to maintain control of your life.
However, making yourself aware of some of their tactics could make them easier for you to see through, and break free from their manipulative spell. Let's take a look at a few of the most popular ones.
1. They find a way to make everything your fault.
You can try as hard as you want, but people like this will always find a way to put the blame back on you.
If you tell a toxic person something critical they are likely to respond with a harsh, uncalled for attack on your character. It can start feeling like an infinite game of hot potato throwing the blame back and forth to each other.
2. They knew you were going to do say that.
Another way toxic people attempt to manipulate you is by trying to convince you that they've got you all figured out. Everything you do has just become so predictable to them.
When they start saying things like "I knew you were going to say that," "I don't know why I should be surprised," they are just trying to find a way to get into your head without using any reasoning or logic.
3. Making a word salad.
This tactic seems to be a favorite among toxic people to get around questions that they don't want to answer. To do this they often give long complex answers that end up confusing you, rather than giving you the answer you wanted.
To find out if some one is doing this to you stay focused on what they were saying, and see if they stay on one topic, or constantly bounce around to random things that are unimportant and unrelated to the conversation.
4. The three stages of gaslighting.
The process of manipulating another person to the point that they begin questioning their sanity, and even their own rights is known as gaslighting and is presented in three different stages.
The toxic person begins by doing something to put their victim in an uncomfortable situation, known as the disbelief stage, in order to make them enter the disbelief stage.
Once the victim reacts to the unusual behavior, the toxic individual will often tell them that they are "acting crazy," or "being over emotional."
If they keep it up for long enough the victim will actually begin to believe that are acting overly emotional and crazy, which eventually leads to the depression stage.