Being aware of a narcissist's tactics means you've likely had an unfortunate run-in with one before. They're not pleasant to deal with since they're always trying to sink their claws into you or a loved one, and once they're in, it's hard to shake them loose.
That being said, there are some defense measures you can take that keep them away in the first place, and that includes adopting a few personality traits that will scare them off from ever trying to mess with you.
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When it comes to dealing with the grand social enemy that is narcissists, the best offense is a good defense. They immediately become far less of a problem if you adopt some behaviors that will ward them off completely. If they notice that you're the type of person who isn't easy to manipulate, who will stand strong in the face of their attempts at coercion, they'll leave you alone.
What are these types of people? There are four notable personality profiles that will have a narcissist walking the other way, all of which are possible for you to become.
1. People They Can't Control
Narcissists operate under the belief that empathic individuals will always succumb to their manipulations. They choose targets that display kindness as their guiding moral point and value loyalty. They then love-bomb these victims, expecting them to invest fully in the relationship and fulfill the narcissist's wishes. However, unpredictable victims disrupt this pattern.
Someone immune to a narcissist's control prioritizes self-preservation, refusing to be won over by a manipulator's fake charms. When provoked, they detach, pursuing other interests, leaving the narcissist baffled as they're deviating from the expected plan.
Throw Them For A Loop
For instance, when faced with jealousy, this person won't get hung up or stressed out by it, perplexing the narcissist. These (potential) victims are patient and calculated in their analysis of the situation. They outsmart the narcissist, recognizing the predatory tactics being employed, and playing along until they can escape unharmed.
Unpredictable victims refuse to be victims at all. They don't indulge the narcissist's ego. They defy expectations, leaving the narcissist in disbelief. Ultimately, these individuals are the ones who discard the narcissist first, demonstrating resilience against the manipulator's games.
2. People Who Call Them Out
Those with the courage to confront narcissists and psychopaths early on often end up dropped, which is really the best-case scenario here. Narcissists aim to devalue and discard those who maintain healthy boundaries and assert their rightful anger against the injustices they face.
What frightens them most are people who can expose their behavior and issue some sort of consequence. They prefer victims inclined towards forgiveness, who endure abuse and turn the other cheek. Victims seeking intelligent, constructive ways to confront them terrify them, so much so that they'll cut and run when they see the opportunity.
Don't Stay Silent
Hinting that you don't easily let go of wrongdoings, or subtly sharing stories of holding people accountable, can make a narcissist rethink engaging with you. Narcissists prefer people who are overly considerate, who shower them with excessive compassion, and who always find an excuse for their actions by 'trying to see the best in them.' They want to avoid individuals unafraid to seek justice.
Your strength lies in refusing to play their game, standing firm against their manipulations, and embracing the power of accountability, rendering their toxic tactics ineffective in your resilient presence.
3. People More Successful Than Them
People who are emotionally secure recognize the insidious nature of narcissism. Narcissists, unless exploiting them for resources or status, harbor a deep-seated envy toward those who outshine them in success, talent, or attractiveness. With all this external validation of their intelligence, looks, status, whatever it may be, they immediately become tougher to pin down.
Jealous of the attention others bestow upon this type of victim, the narcissist will swiftly devalue them to assert dominance. This behavior stems from their entitlement and insecurity. They seek control, not a challenge.
Crush Their Ego
Confident victims who refuse to be affected by their manipulations are one of their greatest enemies. If you exude self-assurance, placing yourself on a pedestal, they might lose interest. This is also true if you have a big support network, as they'll immediately note how much harder it will be to isolate you from all those people.
By fortifying your strengths and building up your self-worth, you create a shield against their toxicity. Remember, their power diminishes when you stand tall, so hold that head high.
4. Other Narcissists
Now, we're not suggesting you morph into a narcissist yourself, but that doesn't mean you can't use some of their tactics. Withhold your empathy for this person, refuse to let their fake self-pity get under your skin, and see how quickly they run.
Narcissists thrive on 'narcissistic supply,' which is the praise, attention, and resources they extract from others. They typically seek partners rich in empathy, compassion, and forgiveness so they have a supply to feed on. By toning down these traits, it might just keep you off their radar.
Learn From The Enemy
Though they share so much in common, narcissists rarely seek the company of other narcissists, and if they do, it's not in the same capacity. They see other narcissists more like coworkers while their victims are underlings, minions even.
So no, you don't have to become a narcissist to ward off a narcissist, but you can don a narcissist mask in order to keep them at a distance. When their goal is to manipulate you and put you down, they're not deserving of your empathy anyway.
Whatever Keeps You Safe
You should never feel pressured to change your entire personality and demeanor just to ward off a few less-than-savory types, but being able to at least enhance or emphasize a few specific traits in order to keep yourself safe is a means of survival.
When it comes to a narcissist encroaching on your life or the life of a loved one, don't ever feel bad for the measures you have to take to get rid of them. They don't have good intentions, no matter how much they try to lie and say that they do, so don't feel bad for standing up to them. It's the best way to protect your circle.
Being able to change on the fly to protect yourself can be tough, especially for those with limiting beliefs that cause them to suffer from tremendous feelings of doubt. It doesn't have to stay that way, though, for you have the power to rid yourself of those beliefs.