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8 Reasons Why Empaths Subconsciously Attract Manipulative Partners

Having an empathetic nature is almost like having a super power. It's ability to read behavior without words, to pick up on someone else's thoughts before they share them, to understand their feelings when they don't, and to pick up on their body language when their words don't match.

However, with every gift, comes a curse. Empaths are empathetic to a fault. They struggle with boundaries and often excuse red flags. These are some of the reasons why even with the best intentions, empaths can attract manipulative partners.

They Fill Up Half Empty Glasses

Manipulative people have a really skewed view of the world. Their glass if often half empty and they're trying to fill it by any means necessary. They feel as though they need to extort their demands and that this is the only way they'll get what they want.

Once they see that as an empath, you have a giving nature, they'll try to take as much water out of your cup as they possibly can. They end up leaving you high and dry once you're all drained out.

They See The Good In Everyone

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​Empath have an ability to see the good even in the worst in people. They're able to put themselves in other people's shoes and understand where they're coming from.

However, they end up justifying wrongful actions and feeling guilty if they don't take responsibility for someone else.This often acts as a blinder to the red flags and makes them easier to manipulate.

They Take The Blame

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Empath often have an easier time taking the blame themselves, then painting someone else in a bad light. Even when they're the ones who are wronged they'll convince themselves that it's because they didn't see it coming, or didn't do enough to prevent it from happening.

This often gets them stuck in toxic relationships where they unknowingly excuse wrongful behavior and allow manipulators to continue to push the boundaries against them.

They Form Trauma Bonds

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​Manipulative partners, like narcissists for example, tend to form relationships with extreme highs then extreme lows. The push and pull nature of these types of relationships can generate a trauma bond.

This bond makes the empath feel like it's impossible to leave the relationship. They feel like their partner might completely break without them, and that they will never find someone else with whom they share as strong of a bond. They hold on to the highs, even when the lows are destructive.

They Forgive Easily

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Just like empaths are skilled with feelings, manipulators have a way with words. They can lie through their teeth, and tell the empaths a sob story that guilts the empath into forgiving them every time.

They know exactly how to play on the empath's heart strings to take advantage of their nurturing nature. They put the responsibility on the empath to "fix" them rather than try to do it themselves.

They Are Good listeners

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As manipulators love to boost their ego, they tend to talk a lot. They also tell a lot of stories to make it harder to catch their lies and deceit. On the other hand, empaths are some of the best listeners.

They retain information because they care about what the other person has to say. However, because they're so trusting, this makes it easier for the manipulator to gaslight their memories when they attempt to call back events and conversations.

They Don't Like Confrontation

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Empaths have a really hard time risking to upset someone else, even when it means putting their own feeling aside. They tend to avoid confrontation and look for more peaceful ways to put issues aside, even when it's necessary.

However, this leaves a lot of issues unsolved. They get pushed under rug but keep escalating. The more issues pile on, the harder it is to detect the underlying cause. The less they're able to fix, the more manipulation they are subjected to.

They Put Everyone Else First

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Empaths want to help and make the world a better place so badly, that they are almost naive to it. They put everyone else first even when they don't deserve it.

This often leaves them feeling burned out and gets them caught in situations where they feel obligated. They struggle to say no to favors and requests which leads others to take advantage of their kindness and generosity.


Death And Breakups Trigger The Same Unbearable Pain, Except For This One Crucial Difference

There is a false believe that true, intense grief is only experienced during the loss of a loved one to death. However, more and more we're realizing that any kind of loss can be grieved, even if it's just a breakup, Grief in all its stages, is experienced is whenever a person faces a life changing loss from intimate relationships, losing a job, a house to a fire, having to relocate, you name it. However there is still one major difference between death and breakups that make breakups even more painful.

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Depression From Loneliness

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Psychological studies have spent a long time trying to understand the pain receptors that are activated during grief. They found that the loss of a loved one has specific depression symptoms, primarily loneliness, which then leads to other depressive symptoms.

In both kinds of losses (death or breakups), the grieving person has to relearn how to be in the absence of someone they shared a bond with and gave a lot of time to. Not being able to see them anymore, whether by circumstance or choice, can feel really isolating and lonely.

Constant Triggers In Routines

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One of the hardest changes experienced in these losses is having to readapt to a whole new lifestyle. The longer the relationships before the losses, the harder it is to accustom to a daily life alone. A routine that was once taken for granted, or even mundane stops making sense, leaving the griever with a shattered sense of self.

Sometimes it's the smallest reminders that cause the greatest pains like having to go to the grocery store alone or walking past the favorite restaurant of a lost loved one. It's quite difficult to build a life from scratch.

Both Kinds Of Grief Impact The Physical Body

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Both breakups and death can take a toll on the physical body. A grieving person will often experience trouble eating, trouble sleeping, low energy, and even panic attacks. Not to mention that each one of those systems will lead to its own effect like trouble sleeping will lead to headaches, nausea, and an ability to concentrate. These symptoms create a vicious cycle of pain.

The feeling of loss is not just emotional but also physical, which makes sense when thinking that the person we lost is no longer physically there. The creates a longing for their physical body to be able to hug it or feel its warmth once again.

A Loss Of The Future

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One thing that breakups and death have in common is that no one really plans for them or can predict when they happen. No one enters a relationship thinking that it's just going to end. Usually, long-term plans are made together and when the person we made them with is gone, so is the hope we had of the future we had. Not only do we grieve the loss of that person but the loss of the future as well.

it becomes hard to live for tomorrow having no idea where it now leads ad it. Grief then creates a void and the grieving person feels like it's walking aimlessly, now lost in the vastity of the world. It takes time to then find hope in a new future.

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The Major Difference Between Death And Breakups: Ambiguous Grief

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We have no choice when it comes to death. It's the inevitable part of our existence and we have no control over its timing. When we lose someone to death we have no choice but to say goodbye and continue knowing that they no longer are a part of our world. However, a breakup is a choice. This is a lot harder to express because even when we say goodbye, we then have to continue living knowing that the person we lost still walks among us, but that we no longer have the privilege of sharing life with them. The grief of a breakup is not only in having to say goodbye to a relationship that's now over and a person that's gone, but also in having to watch that very same person live on with us.

Grieving someone that is still alive in that way is known as ambiguous grief. It means that we're experiencing a loss because someone has changed or disappeared and are stuck in limbo between hoping that everything will return to normal and trying to grasp that life as we know it is also fading away.

Abandonment Grief

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Experiencing grief can come with a complicated set of abandonment issues. Suddenly this person we had trusted to always be with us is gone, leaving us to figure life out alone. However, the abonnement is scarring when it is experienced through rejection. A breakup can actually feel traumatic and tap into insecurities and anxieties that date all the way back to childhood.

Suddenly we start expecting everyone who loves us to then also change their mind and leave us. In an attempt to protect ourselves from feeling that loss again, we can never attach fully again, and simply feel incomplete for a long time.

A Breakup Feels Like A Threat To Survival

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Another reason that grief from a breakup is worse is that the brain processes the loss of a partner as a threat to survival This triggers biological changes because it gets the body ready for self-defense. In a state of emergency, It increases heart rate and blood pressure, decreases appetite, and increases oxygen to the brain to put the body on high alert.

It can even start over-analyzing experiences from the past to learn and prepare for the new perceived danger. This all makes the person feel like they have become obsessed with their ex, and that the only way they'll survive and feel better is if they can go back to the source of their attachment, and get their ex back. When they fail to, it worsens their abandonment anxiety.

Leads To Revenge Or Planning To Get Them Back Are

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We as human beings are wired to connect. From the moment we're born we develop a deep need for attachment. As we get older we find people we connect with and attach ourselves to them. The attachment is even stronger when part of an intimate relationship as it becomes a primary attachment. When it's suddenly cut off, all the energy that was invested with it has no place to go and completely disrupt the biology of the brain.

To cope with this kind of grief, people resort to one of two methods before reaching acceptance. Either they try to execute revenge, which is just another way to keep holding on to the attachment while projecting their pain. Or, they desperately obsess over trying to get their ex back. Thankfully, the healing process and the stages of grief eventually all lead to acceptance.

It's Okay To Feel Pain, Because There's An End in Sight

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We're each on our own unique path and what some struggle with might not be applicable to you too.

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