6 Signs You're Maturing, Not Just Aging
Maturity isn't something that's associated with age. I've met some immature 80-year-olds in my life. Maturity is part of the development of self that may come naturally with age, but not exclusively. These are 6 signs of maturity that are often embodied in the most mature of people.
1. They have much greater patience.
This is a quality I see in the most mature people. Have you ever met someone who gets impatient when their phone doesn't immediately perform a certain action? Or when the line at the bank is too damn slow? Or have you been that person yourself? I know I have. Part of maturing as a person is realizing that no matter how impatient you are, the line at the bank isn't going to move any faster. Your smart phone isn't going to perform its functions any quicker. Life moves at the same pace, whether or not you're being impatient about it. Mature people have learned to take these moments of waiting to take stock of their lives and where they are. It's kind of nice to slow down for a second now and then anyway.
2. They've learned how to listen.
Have you ever met someone who just waits their turn to be able to say their part in a conversation? They're not actually listening to you, they just want to be heard. That's something mature people simply don't engage in. For many people who have matured, there's a real delight in listening to other people talk about their lives, tell their stories, and reveal themselves. There's a lot of perspective to be gained simply by listening to others.
3. They recognize that all things are prone to change and are ready for that.
Life is in constant flux. Everything is changing all the time, from the length of the days to the seasons themselves. Change impacts our day to day life too. We get laid off, we get divorced, we decide to move to a new place - all sorts of different things can happen to you. Mature people don't get hung up on the changes. They roll with the punches, realizing that it's largely out of their control.
4. They don't hold onto expectations.
Each of us have some degree of expectation. We expect things of ourselves, our friends, our lovers, our careers, our entire lives. But as people mature, they let go of some of those expectations. It goes back to #3, they're more interested in rolling with the punches and letting things happen as opposed to trying to control everything in life.
5. They've learned what love truly is.
This is a big one. My idea of love at the age of 16 was different than at the age of 20. It seemed like something else entirely at the age of 25. The idea of love changes as you mature.
6. They've let go of self-importance.
As you mature, you really realize that you're a cog in the machine. Human beings are meant to work together to better the situation for everyone. Mature people tend to become more and more selfless, taking action and working hard for the whole as opposed to themselves.