As if dating wasn't hard enough, it seems that having even slightly higher standards these days eliminates a lot of the dating pool, as too many people don't want to put any effort into building a strong, communicative, and lasting relationship.
That doesn't mean all hope is lost though. For the strongest among us, especially the strong women out there who have done nothing but put up with the worst their entire lives, there are definitely still those out there who want to commit.
That being said, dating a strong woman can be a rather unique experience, so there are some things they should know their new partner won't put up with.
A Woman's Strength
Strong women are a unique, confident, and powerful breed. Some are born, while others develop into the role, embodying the inherent strength that comes with being a woman and using it to combat everyday injustices, defying typical gender roles regarding how women should behave, and trailblazing new visions for womanhood.
Because of their distinctive personalities, they can sometimes be considered intimidating, which can cause issues in the world of romance. Dating a strong woman is no harder than dating anyone else, there are just certain things they refuse to tolerate in a relationship.
1. Her Needs Not Being Valued
A strong woman will not take being undervalued by her partner. There are two major ways that undervaluing manifests, in words and in actions. Through verbal communication, undervaluing can look like brushing off ideas, dismissing aspirations, or disrespecting opinions.
If you have a strong woman in your life, you have to know that she knows her worth and will not tolerate being dismissed or allow you to degrade her confidence. She sees the inherent value in her words and won't let anyone make her think otherwise.
She Won't Be Made Lesser Than
In actions, undervaluing can look like not appreciating the work she does in the relationship, calling her tasks or her job 'easy', and downplaying her contributions. Like with words, strong women know how much their actions mean to others, and the importance they bring into a relationship. She's confident in this fact too, unshakeable in her knowledge that what she does is important.
By attempting to shrink her down, you'll only be pushing her away, so don't be surprised when she eventually leaves because of it.
2. Lack Of Emotional Communication
Strong women are not the stoic, stone-cold caricature society has painted of them. They need deep emotional connections to feel fulfilled just like the rest of us, and what better way to strive for that than through romantic endeavors?
That doesn't mean they'll be easy catches though, nor are they the type to fall in love quickly, quite the opposite actually. They have high standards that you'll need to prove you can hit before they'll really entertain the thought of settling down.
You'll Have To Know By Now
One of those standards is having open, intelligent, and intuitive communication with one another, especially when discussing your feelings. Strong women will not settle for someone who still presents immaturely, or who cannot communicate their own needs, wants, and issues in a relationship.
To maintain a relationship with a strong woman, you're going to need to learn how to be vulnerable, and to rid yourself of the societal shame that comes with it. At this point in your life, she won't want to stick around to teach you something you should have learned on your own.
3. Being Disrespected
This seems obvious, but there are some people out there who don't fully understand just how disrespectful some of their words or actions are, especially toward their partner. As mentioned earlier, many forms of undervaluing and undermining someone else's thoughts, opinions, or idea stem from a lack of respect for them, and that behavior can seep into your relationships if you're not careful.
Women are often raised to not speak up when they're feeling disrespected, to just take the hit and power through it as not to upset others, but a strong woman will not take that type of behavior laying down.
Take The Lesson
She will call you out and hold you accountable, making sure you clearly understand that she didn't enjoy whatever it was you did, and that you better take the steps to prevent it from happening again in the future. For those who haven't faced this type of check before, it might feel jarring. You might feel the urge to defend yourself, or think that she's the one in the wrong here, but this reprimand is an invitation to look inward.
Strong women will never tolerate a partner with a fragile ego that tries to explain away disrespectful behavior. She will expect you to learn and grow when chastised, and if you can't handle that, a strong woman might not be for you.
4. Being Manipulated Or Controlled
Strong women are able to spot manipulative behavior from a mile away. They don't fall for the common tricks that less-than-savory people try to pull on those more impressionable, nor will they bend to even more complex, covert tactics that manipulators think are undetectable.
They've spent a lifetime putting up with terrible acts from terrible people and have learned the rulebook inside and out. They know the secrets, they know the tips, and they won't take any of it.
Let Go Of The Reigns
This also goes for controlling behavior. Strong women place great importance in their autonomy, valuing their independence and self-reliance above all else. After bending over backwards for others their entire lives, they've finally come into their own and learned how important it is that they always put themselves first, which means they won't hesitate to leave someone if that person is trying to dictate too much of their own life.
These women have simply had enough. They're no longer afraid to put their foot down, meaning more and more people won't be able to get away with their usual antics when she's around.
5. Her Ambitions Not Being Supported
A strong woman is likely to have lofty goals. She sees her true potential and knows what she could be capable of if nothing were to get in her way, but as with everyone, there's a lot of general day-to-day weight that keeps us held down. She'll still strive for what she believes she can reach anyway, and won't be shy about her true desires either.
As her partner, you'll need to support her in whatever way she needs.
Be A Respectful Helping Hand
Maybe she needs actual assistance with the steps needed for her to reach that goal, maybe she needs someone to do research for her behind the scenes, or maybe she just needs someone to cheer her on as she progresses. No matter what role she asks of you or you intuit she needs to move forward, be prepared to commit to that role enthusiastically. If it's what she truly wants, you should want it for her too!
A strong woman will also not tolerate any sort of dismissive notions toward her dreams. This isn't to say you can't inform her if she ever gets a bit in over her head, but shutting her down from the get go is a surefire way to see your relationship end.
6. Being Emotionally Dominated
Finally, a strong woman will not put up with being emotionally dominated. For centuries now, women have been pushed to the side, driven out of the limelight in favor of men who are equal in ability, sometimes even worse. They've faced endless years of oppression at the hands of those who thought themselves superior, and they're tired of even entertaining the idea that others should be held above them.
Because of that, they have a firey front, one that intimidates a lot of men in particular who aren't accustom to seeing women self-advocate so strongly.
Let Her Thrive
Because of this, strong women will seek to accomplish most of their activities on their own, be they work, home, or hobby related. Even when it seems like they need help, they'll push it away in an effort to maintain their independent values.
This is a tricky line to toe when in a relationship. You want to help her if she needs, but also don't want to impose. Learning how your partner appreciates and accepts being approached about their struggles is the best way to go about figuring out how you can assist her.
Just don't force your unsolicited advice or offers on her, that's the fastest way to drive a wedge between you two.
The Love Possibilities
Overall, strong women need to be given their space. Ensuring that she has room to express herself freely, creating a comfortable space for boundary setting, and ensuring her you don't want to encroach on her own personality will help her feel all the closer to you.
Strong women have been through a lot. They've dealt with a lot of awful things to get where they are today, so their tolerance for nonsense is low. Treat them well, treat them with kindness, and love them with all your heart to secure a wonderful, pragmatic, fantastic partner for life.
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