8 Toxic Habits That Poison You And Drain Your Energy
Sometimes we accidentally engage in toxic habits without realizing that we are and without fully knowing how bad it can be for us. What are the eight habits we need to look out for?
1. Letting the pain from the past impact your present.
It's true, the things in the past that hurt us aren't always things we can get over in short order. But it's important not to confuse our past paints with what's happening in the present. If you were hurt by an ex partner, you can't impose the mistakes of your ex with someone you're seeing now. Take your time to get over past hurts in your own way at your own pace, but don't let them manage your life in this moment.
2. Pretending things are fine when they're not.
Ah this one is a killer. People often try to conceal their pain from others by pretending things are fine when they just so absolutely aren't. I'll tell you right now, it's okay to feel your sad feelings and to let people know how you feel. You don't have to be a superhero 100% of the time. If you did, you would have been born with a cape and tights.
3. Feeling like your glory days are ahead or behind you.
There is no such thing as a "glory day," never mind a period of time more glorious than you'll ever experience again. Every day is a glory day, because every day is a glorious today. The chances of you even being born were slim when you think about it, and this life will come to a rough end. Treat every day as your glory day.
4. Resisting the potential for growth.
This happens in a variety of ways. We say no to uncomfortable situations, we stay inside our bubble, we don't take new opportunities, and we generally fear change. But it doesn't have to be that way. Take a leap! Do something new! Learn something new! Accept the challenges and opportunities to grow that are offered to you. And if they aren't being offered, go find them.
5. Worrying about things but never taking action.
They say worry is just misused imagination, and it's true to an extent. It's okay to worry about things. If you're worried about your health, that's fair! But if you don't eat better and hop on a bike, then that worry is for nothing. If you're worried you won't get a raise but then don't ask about it, then the entire thought is a waste. Go ahead and worry, but back it up with action.
6. Sacrificing all of yourself for others.
There are people worth putting first. Your spouse, your kids, your closest associates, but always always always make time for yourself, make sure you're getting what you need, and make sure above all else that you're happy. It's okay to put others ahead of you, but it's not okay to put others ahead of you all of the time.
7. Taking innocuous things personally.
This is an easy trap to fall into. Say someone teases you or you just hear something that mildly offends you. How you react determines how you feel in so many ways. It's important to try not to take petty things too seriously.
8. Getting mired in negative thoughts.
When you feel yourself thinking negative thoughts, stop, take a deep breath, clear your mind, and think about all of the positive things in your life. Visualize pushing those negative thoughts right out of your ears.