This Is The Simple Tactic Narcissists Use To Keep You Addicted Forever

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If you’ve never dealt with a narcissists it’s pretty safe to say that they are some of the most violent manipulators that anyone could ever have the displeasure of being involved with on any kind of level.

These kinds of people do not care for whatever happens to anyone else, just as long as they are getting what they want out of you they are more than happy.

One of the main reasons that a narcissistic person is able to have such a hold on people is because of this certain type of method that they like to induce in every single relationship that they have: Intermittent reinforcement.

To explain what this means, this type of reinforcement is essentially when any kind of rules, personal boundaries, or rewards are being handed out/enforced occasionally as well as inconsistently.

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What happens as a result from this method is that a person will be pushed to their limits in order to get what they want without any kind of change in their own behavior.

A perfect example of this is how someone might post a picture of themselves onto any kind of social media platform, obsessing over how many likes they’ve gotten or any kind of negative feedback they can respond to.

This person could potentially be a narcissist simply because they have an endless obsession with themselves they can get over, or perhaps they are just another victim to intermittent reinforcement which allows them to feel something whenever being randomly praised for their looks.

For a narcissist, they will do everything in their power to make sure that you do everything for them and only for them. This can be said about every single relationship a narcissist has with someone.

Time and time again they prove to be nothing but bad experiences but then all of a sudden you come across that beautiful rare moment when they decide to give you some positive feedback for once, stringing you along until the next big rare “happy-moment” comes along and they can just do it all over again.

Feeding someone the belief that they are doing extremely poorly for an extended period of time until that one good occasion is a prime example of intermittent reinforcement.

A narcissist will talk about all of the positive aspects about your person, praising you for your beauty, intelligence, and whatever else they can think of in that moment in time to make you believe you are actually getting somewhere with them.

Always, without warning, they become a completely different person the next day. Insulting you on everything they complimented you on originally, saying how you’ve never cared for them or their needs, and any other kind of negative lie they can think of in order to make you feel worse about yourself than you did before.

One particular thing is very important to remember if you are ever caught up with a narcissist is that it is never your fault for feeling the way that you do.

You never did anything wrong to begin with, in fact, you were the person who made sure that this person was going to be happy one way or another and that’s exactly how they wanted you to be.

The moment you start to stand up for yourself and give them no other reason for being with them, they will immediately change their tune about you.

Suddenly you become the sun itself, radiant, loving, and every other possible compliment they can throw at you in that moment in time in hopes that you will listen to them and stay.

Trying to think up of anything else they can say or do to change your mind until you finally leave it all behind. This is when the relationship begins to break and they give you numerous amounts of sob stories on how they need you to come back into their life again.

Some people fall victim again and again, hoping that something different will change inside of them.

This is never the case and that is because once they know they have you in their cold grip, they will continue to do the same old things that made you question your existence before.

The best thing that you can do whenever being involved with a narcissist is leave them all together.

Block them from all your contact information, get a restraining order if you have to, and remove yourself from their life in every possible way you can think of.

The longer you wait to do this, the harder it is going to be for you to get yourself out of probably one of the most toxic relationships you will ever have.

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