Are You With The Right Person At The Wrong Time? It Depends On These Signs

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Everyone’s got that one person that marked them but for whatever reason, they didn’t end up together. Maybe you didn’t have the gut to ask them out and they started dating someone else, or one of you had to move away. Or maybe you’re with them right now but the relationship is harder than it should be and makes you wonder if the timing is just wrong. Usually these missed connections are of no fault of anyone. Call it the “one that got away” or “wrong time, right person” but there’s always a factor that makes it feel like a missed opportunity and turns it into a moment of regret.

Usually we console ourselves by convincing ourselves that it probably wasn’t meant to be anyway. But what if there were signs to tell the difference between the wrong person or just the wrong time? Here’s how to tell so that you can live a life without regret.

Do you want to learn a secret technique anyone can master that will make someone fall in love with you?

The Meaning Of “Right Person, Wrong Time”

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Henri Pham / Unsplash

What makes the right person? Well, it’s a combination of two things. First, they have to match up your standards, value, level of attraction. Upon meeting someone you think is right for you, you feel an undeniable spark and pull towards them. But that’s just one-half of the equation. The second half requires for the both of you to be in a place in life where you can be in a fulfilling and healthy relationship.

This has nothing to do with your feelings and values but is usually circumstantial. You both have to be headed in the same life direction, around the same life stage so that you can keep up with one another and respect each other’s needs. When that second part is missing, commitment becomes almost impossible and the person you undeniably are compatible with becomes “the right person” at “the wrong time.”

You’re Both Motivated By Growth

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One of the biggest reasons that even people who are completely perfect for another and in love separate is that they’re both motivated by growth. When two people are motivated, ambitious and are working towards something, it becomes too much to ask for one of them to have to sacrifice their individual dreams.

They end up leaving each other not because they didn’t love each other enough but because they loved each so much that they didn’t want to stand in each other’s way and limit each other’s potential. But, who’s to say that once they reach their destination they can’t come back together to celebrate the lives they have created?

One Of You Is Being Dealt A Challenging Card

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It can be impossible to be in a loving healthy relationship when one person is going through a difficult time. It’s not that they don’t want to be a good partner but their challenging situation can be draining of their energy and make them unable to contribute fairly to the relationship.

The human mind learns to prioritize. They can still think their relationship is of high priority and even use their partner for support. However, it sometimes gets to a point where they can only focus on the matter at hand and until it’s dealt with, they’re unable to give their attention to a relationship in the amount that it deserves.

One Person Is Emotionally Unavailable

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It’s not that they don’t want to give you love or don’t think that you deserve it, in fact, they wish they were in a place where they could shower you with the love you’re meant to have. If they have recently gotten out of a relationship or are simply still on their own healing journey, they might just not have reached yet a point of being able to give love on a physical, mental, and spiritual journey. This has nothing to do with their partner or the potential of the relationship.

Usually, it just means that they need more time to open themselves up and be able to receive love. This could take weeks or years but is their journey to go through.

Circumstances Are Keeping You Apart

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Often enough the factors keeping two people apart who could be a perfect match are purely circumstantial. Maybe they live in different cities, or one has to take a job or they have conflicting schedules or incompatible financial arrangements. While these external factors feel like they’re outside of your control, it could just be a matter of time before life finds a way to bring you back together.

Circumstances change! If it’s meant to be, trust that it will find a way to be when the time is right. For now look at your options, consider the compromises and determine the level of risk. Only try for as long as it feels realistic then let the other puzzle pieces fall together as they’re supposed to, and more importantly when they’re supposed to.

They Want Something You Can’t Give Them Just Yet

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Rodane Productions / Pexels

It’s not always the other person that causes a timing conflict. Sometimes, even if you don’t realize it, it’s you who presented yourself at the wrong time. You might think this person is as perfect as it can get but if for whatever reason it’s not yet working out, trust in that and listen to your gut. It could be that you still need to go on your own journey, travel, build your career, learn more lessons, or simply just go through more life to be able to let this relationship flourish and last.

If you push it, rush it or force it, you’ll build a shaky foundation and the relationship will risk failing anyway. Trust in timing. At the same time if it’s you who’s holding back, ask yourself why? If it’s just fear or regret, then the right time might be now!

Go Get Your Person! (Within Reason)

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A “right person, wrong time” situation doesn’t exactly reach a point of closure. It closes the door only partially and hopes that when the time is right it’ll open itself back up again. There is a healthy balance to be found between knowing when something isn’t right for you just yet, and living in fear and regret. Don’t keep on waiting forever. if you think you’ve found a soulmate connection. Don’t give up on it easily.

Sometimes to make connections work, you have to fight for them and compromise to make them work. But make sure you’re not sacrificing yourself for it either because if this is really your soulmate, then no amount of time passed will change that if you each need to take care of yourselves first. Remember that commitment is a choice that two people have to make on a daily basis.

Find Out What You Need In A Partner

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Chen / Unsplash

At the end of the day, in any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it’s much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.

For more great relationship advice and tips on how to attain the kind of love you deserve, watch this video from expert, Amy North: Click Here To Watch The Full Video.

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