5 Reasons You Are Attracting Toxic Partners
While it can be hard to admit, all of us have, at one point or another, acted like a total crazy person. Whether it be in a relationship with a friend or a partner, sometimes the things that we hate finding in others, are the very same things we dislike about ourselves.
Either way, toxic people are attracted to certain behaviors and emotions. If you're want to avoid them, do your best to not do any of these five things:
Taking things way too personally
It's easy to get caught up in worrying about what others think of us, but when we're constantly worrying about it, we often invite negativity from others. Most of the drama in our lives is brought in by us.
If your partner or friend is having a bad day, don't immediately get offended by their actions. The truth is that you have no idea why they're having a bad day, so just be there for them if they need you, but remind yourself that everyone needs space.
Showing jealousy is a great way to declare your insecurities to the world. Jealousy in a relationship is nothing but toxic. The ego is deadly as it uses traumatic childhood events, wounds from past relationships, and your old ideologies against you. Jealousy makes people invite drama into their lives.
What's worse is that you end up attracting people who are only interested in lying, manipulating and cheating on you.
Carrying emotional baggage from the past
Every experience thus far in our lives, be them good, bad, traumatizing or exhilarating, affects the many different facets that make up our present and current world.
When we start living in these past moments of pain and heartache, we disconnect from the present moment. We invite these old scars to relive their glory days.
Only once you've overcome your past, forgiven yourself for any transgressions, and moved on, will you be entirely pain free (and ready to pursue a healthy relationship).
Negative patterns of thought
Negative people attract other negative people. If we're miserable in all other aspects of life, there is a good chance that that same negativity will transfer over into our other relationships.
Toxic people will only use this against you, breaking your spirit by denying your dreams, self-worth, and capabilities.
Do your best not to be so hard on yourself. Using harsh language or words against yourself is incredibly damaging. Instead, use positive affirmations to build yourself up.
Learn to find joy in being a good person. And realize that you are in control of every aspect of your life. If you want to be happy, it is entirely within your means to do so.
Judging and Criticizing
One of the hardest lessons you may ever learn in life is that love is not always unconditional. Many people give love with certain expectations in mind. So, just as people are always changing and growing, relationships do the same.
And when our judgments and criticisms shift our expectations, love adjusts accordingly, be it up or down.
If you're constantly judging, criticizing, nagging and just generally being negative, it can be incredibly hurtful and dangerous. When a relationship exists in this manner, where constant demoralization of the other person is a regular thing, it can be considered a form of abuse.
Balance is a necessary part of every healthy relationship. Challenges are plenty when two people decide to come together, but that doesn't mean you have to make room for toxic energy.
You don't owe anyone anything. Find someone who is willing to love you, trust you, respect you, and accept you for who you are.