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5 Common Habits Of Bitter People (And How To Avoid Becoming One)

Life is hard, there is no getting around it. Sometimes life gets so bogged down in the bull, it can be hard to see the point. When we give into that kind of hopelessness, it not only affects us, but those around us.

Misery loves company, mainly because it never has guests. People don't want to be around a negative person. Life offers enough suffering, we don't need to create or nurture more of it.

Allowing yourself to be bitter is bad for your health and your future. You stop developing internal resources of happiness and strength. It is a self propagating cycle. Negative things keep happening to you because that's all you set yourself up for.

Below are the common traits that breed a cynical and bitter mentality. You deserve more than this, and the sun is shining even if you can't see it.

Holding Grudges

Don't go through life lugging around all the ways you have been wronged. Not only does it eat up energy and time, but it keeps mental and emotional focus on negative aspects.

You can't change what has happened, so the most productive course of action is to learn from that situation and move on.

People that hold on to grudges often say they hold on so that it doesn't happen again or because 'it keeps things in perspective'.

Letting go doesn't mean that you forgive or forget, it just means that you aren't focusing on it or letting it rule you.

Acting Out To Gain Attention

Misery loves company, and to get 'company' a bitter person will cause scenes and disturbances. Don't use drama to gain the attention or build the illusion of respect and empathy from others.

Let your actions and character do the talking for you. Energy spent on gaining this momentary recognition could be better spent on nurturing inner resources.

Being Jealous

Jealousy is one of the most productive traits a person can foster. It is also one of the ugliest. Be happy that the people around you are doing well.

To say that your need is greater or more deserving than another's is highly assumptive and does nothing to benefit anyone.

If you want something then work towards achieving it. Wishing and hating do nothing to help you achieve goals and just breeds negativity in your heart.

Being Jaded

Life can be a rough experience. Sometimes it seems like our lives are nothing more than trial after trial, picking yourself up just to get knocked down again.

If we don't actively resist it, we can build a natural resistance to positive expectations. We begin to think that past events and scenarios will pan out the same every time.

Being jaded doesn't protect anyone, it closes you off from the world and it's possibilities.

Being cynical sets up an environment to breed suffering. Remember that any expectation is a poor choice in energy and that every new moment has untapped potential. Stay open to the universe's possibilities and don't lose your hope for the future.

Focusing On The Negative

We have the power to manifest our desires and thoughts. Staying focused on negative elements and believing that is the only truth will make that a reality.

If you feed unproductive formations in your mind and heart, they will grow and gain more influence. Any energy you give them will be detracted from positive and productive formations.

We get what we put into life, so feeding negativity will breed negativity. It can be a hard cycle to break but that change begins within us.

Acknowledge the bad and be grateful for it's lessons. Smile at it, and let go. Always leave room for new and beautiful elements in your heart and life.

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Uplifting

Man Buys Stranger's Groceries When Overhearing Her Tell Her Daughter They Can't Afford To Eat That Night

Kindness is within us all

A man has recently been getting attention online for his inspiring act. One night, while he was minding his own business, he was confronted with a family in need. He had two options. He could have done the same thing everyone else did in the store and let them figure it out for themselves, or he could be their hero that day and help them out within his means.

The thing is, the man didn't have much money himself, and he was working two jobs to support himself and his kid. Here's how he decided on what to do.

Meet Bear, A Man Who Works Double Shifts To Live

Bear's shirtless selfie covered in tattoos and smirking

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It was a day like most for Bear, as he had just pulled two fourteen-hour shifts in a row and needed some food, but had no energy left to make it. He writes this on a post on Facebook and explains that this actually didn't turn out to be like most days: I stopped by the grocery store to grab food for dinner and as I was checking out a woman started crying in the next checkout line."

Bear listened in on the conversation between a mother and her daughter, and it was heartbreaking.

The Little Girl Asked Her Mom Why She Was Crying

woman walks with basket in grocery store with empty aisle

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At first, it's easy to assume the mom is just having a bad day, maybe she got into a fight with her husband or is tired from looking after her kid. As he listened in, ge overheard the girl ask her mom what was wrong, as she continued to stand crying in the lane right next to hers.

"Her daughter asked her what's wrong and she all she could say was, 'we can't afford to eat tonight.''" These are the words that no parent wants to imagine ever needing to say to their child, who depends on them just to live. Yet, it is the unfortunate case for many.

Food Insecurity Is A Real Problem

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Food insecurity is a problem for many families across the country. This problem has gotten even worse with the pandemic as many families who relied on their small businesses had to shut down and couldn't make do anymore.

Even then, this problem existed before the pandemic and still continues today. In fact, the U.S Department of Agriculture reports that 10.5 percent (13.8 million) of U.S. households were food insecure at some time during 2020 and this number is unchanged from 2019.

This Time It Would Be Different

Bear and son take selfie in the city with red masks on

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For a lot of food-insecure families, they simply would have had to walk out of that grocery store empty-handed, with a kid possibly going to bed hungry that night. For this mom, kindness was in the cards, At first, another person who also overheard her gave them a few dollars towards their groceries.

But Bear knew she needed more than that. He walked over to the mom and her daughter and told them he would pay for their food and to get whatever they want. He writes on Facebook: "A person behind her gave her a couple of dollars and she bought her daughter a Kids Cuisine TV dinner. I told her to grab what she wants, I'll pay for it."

All In Divine Timing

walart staff stands in front of entrance with "thank you" sign

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Was Bear's presence in that mothert's life at that time and place just a coincidence? Bear doesn't think so. He explains that he never actually shops at that store but for whatever reason, he felt inclined to do so that night. He think the reason for it comes down to divine timing…

"I NEVER stop at this Walmart. I'm simply saying GOD puts you where he needs you to be WHEN he needs you to be there"

People Find Bear Inspiring

Bear and son pose for picture while sitting on green chair

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Bear's Facebook post has gotten a lot of attention as many who read it are inspired by his selfless act. For all he knows, he could have saved that family that night.

"That's my little Brother doing what moms told us to do when women and children are in need, we help them out with whatever they need. GOD put you in the right place last night. Thanks for helping a woman and her children with the food they need to eat so they don't go hungry. God's got you," a person commented.

Whether it was a divine intervention or simply the actions of a kind man, it brought good into the world and we only hope things like this continue to happen to make it a better place.

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