Life is hard, there is no getting around it. Sometimes life gets so bogged down in the bull, it can be hard to see the point. When we give into that kind of hopelessness, it not only affects us, but those around us.
Misery loves company, mainly because it never has guests. People don’t want to be around a negative person. Life offers enough suffering, we don’t need to create or nurture more of it.
Allowing yourself to be bitter is bad for your health and your future. You stop developing internal resources of happiness and strength. It is a self propagating cycle. Negative things keep happening to you because that’s all you set yourself up for.
Below are the common traits that breed a cynical and bitter mentality. You deserve more than this, and the sun is shining even if you can’t see it.
Don’t go through life lugging around all the ways you have been wronged. Not only does it eat up energy and time, but it keeps mental and emotional focus on negative aspects.
You can’t change what has happened, so the most productive course of action is to learn from that situation and move on.
People that hold on to grudges often say they hold on so that it doesn’t happen again or because ‘it keeps things in perspective’.
Letting go doesn’t mean that you forgive or forget, it just means that you aren’t focusing on it or letting it rule you.