6 Ways to Break Free from Narcissistic, Manipulative Parents
Your parents, of all people in the world, are supposed to protect and defend you and help you grow into a functional adult. But like anyone, they can be deeply flawed.
Sometimes your parents can be manipulative and terrible to you. The key to being able to have a relationship with manipulative parents is knowing how to walk away from their behaviors. How do we do that?
1. Recognize they don't actually want to help you.
Manipulative people don't actually want to help you, they want you to conform to a specific way of living which they themselves endorse. If your parents try to, for example, send you to specific religious services or force you to take certain college courses, they're not really looking out for you. They're trying to manipulate you into being a specific person.
2. Don't fight with them.
Manipulative people can really grind your gears, there's no doubt about that. But don't get down in the mud with them. Don't get into knock-down, dragged-out fights. What they want more than anything is for you to feel bad, feel bad for them, and do what they tell you. This brings me to my next point.
3. Be immune to their guilt.
Don't let their guilt get to you. Guilt is the manipulator's tool for forcing you to do what they want you to do. Instead, walk away and do what YOU would prefer to do. Don't let their guilt penetrate your psyche.