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17 Things You Should Expect If You're Dating Someone Who's Been Single For A While

Being single can be great and rewarding at times.

It can allow us special privileges we just wouldn't get to enjoy in a relationship, like not worrying about upsetting a partner when you make a big decision on your own, or never having to share a bed or a bathroom or the couch.

This also makes it kind of a big transition when you do get into a relationship with someone.

Here are 17 thing to consider if you're going to date someone who has been on their own for a while.

1. They don't always let you know when they're doing things.

When you're single it's easy to get into the habit of doing whatever you want whenever you feel like it.

You don't have anyone to talk to or tell about it, so it's just not something you're used to considering after a while.

This will change once the reality of the relationship settles in, but it may take some time.

2. They may want to take things slow.

Don't worry, it's not that they don't want to get close to you. They just need time to process and transition into something so different and new.

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3. Their friends may be skeptical or extra protective.

They've gotten used to their friend being alone, and it's odd for them to see another person around all the time.

Just be patient and polite. They'll see that your intentions are good.

4. They might not want you to do things for them.

Single people have become accustomed to doing everything for themselves.

That independence is often very important to them, and sometimes they can be a little defensive when someone swoops in and takes over.

5. They'll probably be stubborn about making changes.

It takes a little time for any two people to come together as a unit.

The partnership will develop after a little while, this is just like growing pains, a little obnoxious but an important part of the process.

6. Occasionally, they just want to be alone.

They've spent a long time enjoying their own company, and while it's certain they probably like you if they're dating you, they will still need that solitude every now and then.

It's become important for them, and you need to respect that.

7. They may get a little distant at some point.

Don't panic, let them take a step back to gather themselves and think.

They're just coming to terms with the idea of getting serious with someone, and that can be an intimidating thing.

8. They might be incredulous about your feelings.

They're used to only worrying about their own thoughts and feelings on things, but now there's someone else deeply involved in their life, and they want to know exactly how that's going to work.

They want to get inside your head and understand your thoughts and feelings too.

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9. In the beginning, they might be headstrong about things.

They're still clinging to that fierce single independence, and they don't want to give up control.

This will settle down eventually, as you become closer and more comfortable together.

10. They are naturally guarded.

As always, be patient. The walls will fall if you give it time. Be open and understanding, and you will get back what you give.

11. It may take a while for them to build trust.

Trust is a project that you continuously work and build on, not something that comes overnight. Don't expect it to be given fully from day one.

12. They can be intimidating.

Single people have fostered a strong sense of self reliance and this can come off as being a little stand-offish.

Don't be worried though, it's just a self preservation thing, a protective shell that will soften once they let you in.

13. They might be reserved at first.

It's the same concept as when you go to a swimming pool for the first time in the Summer.

Most people dip their toes in the shallow end to test the water. They are going to get into the pool, but they need to do it on their own time.

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14. They don't want to seem vulnerable.

They haven't had to open and share with someone else in a while. It can be scary to let yourself be vulnerable to another person after so long.

15. They don't really need you.

But they want you. They wouldn't be there, making the effort and trying to get to know you if they didn't.

16. They're probably scared.

People often end up staying single for a long time in reaction to being severely hurt by someone.

They let someone get close to them and that burned them.

They will probably be wary of doing it again, but they will find the courage to overcome the worry at some point. Everyone wants to be loved. It's scary, but it's important.

17. Solitude is what brings them comfort.

So give them their space. Let them have that alone time.

Let them bask in comfort. Don't let your insecurities make you jealous or upset. Just let them be, and they will come back to you when they're ready.

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Psychology Defines 7 Types Of Love, Yet Only A Rare Few Make It To The Last One

Psychologists have confirmed the average person will experience different types of love through their lives. A study has even shown that a person can fall in love at least three times in their lifetime. Howevr, the type of love that they experience often depends on the one they share it with. Some people bring out deep emotions that cause a whirlwind of a romance, which is sometimes toxic. Others, turn out to be nothing more than companions and are better off as friendships.

However, rare are the people who gets the experience the kind of love that truly feels everlasting, fulfilling and healthy. Find out which kind of love we mean and which type of love your current kind of love falls into

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This is the first step of all relationships but it remains on a shallow level. It's usually a fine line between lust and love and infatuation never usually makes it past the lust and into a meaningful connection. Yet, infatuation is often disguised as love and can be confusing.

The more both parties are physically attracted to each other, the more they want to spend all of their time together and move a relationship really quickly from the get-go. However, this kind of relationship is usually short-lived. When relationships get too intense, too quickly, they don't tend to take the time to build a solid enough foundation to grow on, and many of the red flags just get brushed off only to come back later.

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This is usually the second stage of a relationship. Once we decide that we are attracted enough to someone, we become open to getting to know them better. From there, the more we get to know them, the more feelings are developed based on what we know. This is still an introductory stage to relationships, because the more layers are peeled, the higher the risk of finding some sort of dealbreaker that ends the relationship there.

During this stage either feelings will develop closer to love, and increase passion or commitment, or they will eventually fade and grow closer to a friendship It all depends on shared values, interests, and needs.

Empty Love

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This is a tricky kind of relationship. On one hand, it is an exclusive relationship with an agreed-upon commitment. Couples experiencing this type of love could spend years on end together but still lack intimacy and passion. They may truly enjoy each other's company and care deeply about one another but still be missing that special spark that makes everything come together.

Over time the relationship becomes comfortable but boring. It's not necessarily that anyone is doing anything wrong, but there is no denying that the relationship is just missing something to make it feel passionate and exciting.

Fatuous Love

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This is the most common type of love as it includes two of the three foundations: commitment and passion. Couples often find that enough to pursue their relationship and exchange their vows. Yet, this kind of relationship despite having attraction lacks true intimacy.

These kinds of relationships go through many ups ad downs, they have their good days but they also have the days where they feel like they're not truly happy or like their needs aren't being fully met. This could be due to differing love languages or because the couple isn't able to reach a high enough level of vulnerability to fully give themselves to someone else.

Romantic Love

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This kind of love has another combination of the three pillars of love: passion and intimacy. The feelings are there and so is the attraction. Couples in this kind of relationship feel really close to one another and it's easy for them to open up. They fall deeply in love, rather quickly and naturally. The only problem is they can't necessarily agree on where the relationship is headed so they just brush it off.

They put off serious commitments hoping to just go with the flow and figure the rest out in time. Unfortunately in many instances, the relationship reaches a termination point because of major commitments that can't be agreed on.

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Companionate Love

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Companionate love consists of commitment and intimacy, another combination that is still lacking. This type of love is somewhere between the line of friendship and love. There is somewhat of an attraction that makes the friendship feel stronger but it's mostly due to the strong bond that's shared. This kind of couple is each other's best friend, They trust each other fully, and are able to be completely themselves.

The attraction is there and the love is genuine but it's missing that head over heels super-in-love kind of feeling. Many relationships develop into this kind of love after many years of marriage.

Consummate Love

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This is the ideal kind of love and yet it is the rarest of all. It is made of all the pillars of the perfect relationship: love passion, emotional and physical intimacy, and commitment. The levels of each vary throughout time but there is enough of each to keep the relationship young even after years of commitment. Arguments are resolved peacefully, affection is given freely and plans of the future are carried out.

These couples are just as in love as the day they met during their final days. They find ways to keep their relationships exciting and keep on surprising one another. They never allow themselves to truly get comfortable and stop appreciating what they have. They trust each other fully while still pursuing their own independence.

Healthy Love

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All that matters in love is that you are happy and the love is healthy. The rest can be developed and worked on with the right person. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it's much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.