5 Red Flags You’re In A Relationship With A Cheater

When you're falling for someone, or in a steady relationship, you want to assume the best. But you don't want to be blind-sided if things come crashing down. With the world of social media, it's easier than ever to cheat - both physically and emotionally.

Without assuming the worst, it can be helpful to recognize potential signs that you're with a cheater. Here are 5 red flags that you're with a cheater:

1. They don't make an effort in the relationship.

They put little effort into growing or deepening your relationship. They may even struggle to maintain your relationship.

They don't say "I love you" often. They don't show affection much. They may give you a quick kiss as they run out the door, but they avoid eye contact and non-sexual intimacy.

Not putting forth effort in a relationship is typically an issue, but it doesn't always mean that person is cheating. However, it is a red flag and it is a behavior associated with cheating.

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2. They don't allow for quality time.

When spending time with one another, they're never fully present. They don't allow for quality time with you and may act distracted.

It can be as simple as scrolling through their phone while watching a show with you, or texting someone else while at dinner with you.

Phone use is a common distraction, but they may be distracted in other ways too. They may just have their head in another place, thinking of other things and obviously not present with you.

If they're not being present or allowing for quality time, you'll know. It doesn't necessarily mean they're cheating, but it's a common behavior among those who are.

3. They talk about others - a lot.

They regularly bring up a certain someone, whether that be a co -worker or friend. Their relationship may seem a bit flirtatious, but they swear there's nothing to it. No matter what comes up, they claim it's totally platonic.

They may even try and justify inappropriate behavior, like late-night texting or confiding personal information, by saying they're just a friend. And yet, they keep bringing that person back up.

If you've got a gut feeling about it, there's a good chance you're right.

4. They're secretive with their phone.

They don't allow you to know their passcode or use their phone. If you do have to use their phone for some reason, they go through it first and make sure it's "ok" before handing it off to you.

They may even give you their passcode for something, but change it as soon as you hand it back. It gives you a false sense of trust, and they hope you won't get suspicious since they handed their phone and passcode off that one time, no questions asked.

Despite being secretive with their own phone, they may have the desire to go through yours. They may expect to have your passcode, and if you don't care, they may browse your search history, messages, texts, and DMs, to make sure you're not cheating. It's a form of projecting their own guilt onto you and prevents privacy and trust from forming in the relationship.

5. You're regularly excluded from plans.

They regularly make plans without you. They may have late nights with friends, where you're not invited. Or, they may go to work events, parties, or trips and not offer to bring you along.

You may have not even met their friends or co-workers, despite them spending a lot of time with them.

It's normal and healthy to have friendships and make plans without one another, but they do it to an extent that goes beyond healthy.

It may feel like they don't like to do stuff with your or include you in anything. Or, they may even try to "hide" you from their friends. It's a lot easier to cheat if their friends don't know much about you. You two could be on a "break" for all they know, since you're never around.

What to do if you think you're with a cheater?

How to move forward if you think your partner is cheating, is entirely personal to you. It can be an emotional time, so taking a moment to pause and reflect, or seeking help from an outside source like a therapist, may help you to move forward with ease.

You may want to try and salvage the relationship, or move on gracefully. Whatever you choose to do, do it with a heart full of love and a mind open to new possibilities.

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The Four Zodiac Signs That Make The Best Husbands

Women give a lot of time and thought to their idea of the best husband. Most would agree that he must be caring, loyal, attentive, understanding, and independent. No woman is looking to marry a man-child who is just looking for someone to mother him while he contributes the bare minimum. The tricky part is that most men are skilled at charming women into thinking that they will give them the world only to later find out that this was nothing but a facade, an idea they presented but had no intention of maintaining.

Luckily astrology has shown that some signs hold traits and characteristics within their core that naturally give them an advantage. Their personalities hold the traits of the best husbands.

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Aries: A Man On An Honest Mission

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​Aries is the kind of man who steps up to the plate without waiting for an invitation. You don't need to ask him twice to take out the trash, because he loves to take charge and be proactive. When they're at their best, Aries men want to become the financial head of their family. They want to ensure that they are working independently to provide and care for the one they love to the best of their abilities.

What makes Aries men great husbands is that they take care of themselves first so that they can actually care for a partner. Sometimes this means that they'll avoid relationships and stay single for long periods of time before they feel like they're in the right place for marriage. However, they tend to be honest about where they are along their path and with their intentions, making them easy to trust and later upfront husbands. You usually don't have to play guessing games, as they'll lay out their cards for you straight on the table.

Leo: Carefree Nature

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Leo men usually have a carefree nature and are happy to do their own thing while letting their partner do theirs. They are easy to plan with and communicate with because they are just happy if you are happy. They're not the jealous type or the overprotective kind that needs you home by a certain time and feels the need to check your phone when you're not looking. The trusting and natural connection they build makes for healthy relationships where both partners are independent in their own ways but can unite in an equal partnership.

Leos are also known to be courageous. Their carefree nature allows them to take risks without overthinking the outcomes. They are likely to go out of their way to make the first moves and put in the effort. They will make their wives feel supported, protected, and lifted.

Virgo: Supportive And Thoughtout

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A Virgo man is husband material because he actually takes the time to think things through. He doesn't rush into relationships and commitments unless he truly feels that it is right. This means that once he chooses the woman he wants to marry, he becomes entirely loyal and dedicated to her. He's willing to work through the hard times and doesn't give up easily. He takes time during arguments to think of logical responses rather than fight in the heat of the moment.

Virgo men are good at providing validation and reminding their wives that they are loved and cared for. They take their hard work ethic with them in their relationships because they understand that love is a muscle that needs to be trained in order to keep functioning at a healthy level. When Virgo men make a promise, they keep it forever.

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Taurus: Protective Of The Heart

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​A Taurus man is both caring and loyal. He is the kind of husband who will always reassure you that he's on your team. He wants to face all your problems with you, not against you. You can count on him when you need support or even just a little help around the house. His reliability means that he always shows up, and remembers birthdays and anniversaries.

Taurus men have a great moral compass that easily guides them in their relationships. They hate to disappoint you so they go out of their way to make sure that you know how much they are trying to love you. Taurus is a romantic at heart, which makes him the ideal partner for a stable relationship that doesn't get comfortable and boring. From the moment he marries the woman he loves, he becomes protective of her heart

Cancer: A Lover Of Love

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Cancer men can't help but love everything about love. They can come off as needy but they are just craving to be loved the same intense, everything in, passionate way that they give love. They are emotional and sentimental making them some of the most romantic partners. They love to surprise their wives with flowers, or acts of service without being asked, just to see her smile at the end of the day.

They give a lot of affection and actually enjoy spending quality time with their wives. They are not confrontational and are great communicators. Marriages with them tend to be calm and patient because they don't let issues bottle up and talk calmly whenever there is an issue. They are genuinely kind and make caring partners.

Get Personal And Break The Cycle

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We don't blame you for being frustrated with dating but if you're struggling to find and keep a quality man click here to find out how to break the cycle. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it's much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.

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