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8 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Need To Make Cool Again
Dating is something that changes over time, that much is clear.
We don't often get to bring our favorite guy and gal pals out to ice cream socials followed by doing the Madison over at the hop.
Things are different, and that's fine. I wouldn't trade 2015 for 1950 any day of the week. But there are some cool old fashioned relationship habits that we should, well, make cool again!
1. Bringing flowers on the first date.
In my case, I'd take a nice houseplant. Venus fly trap or something like that. But showing up to that first date with a handful of flowers lets your date know that you really like 'em already, and that you have respect for them.
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2. Going dancing to live music.
I don't know about you, but I really dislike clubs. grimey, sweaty people "dancing" to noises that don't pass for music. Instead, why don't we make going dancing to live music a thing again? It makes such an awesome date.
3. Asking someone out directly instead of complaining about the "friend zone."
"Do you want to hang out sometime?" "Sure, person who clearly wants to be my friend!" Com on, if you want to go out with someone on a date, ask them if they want to go on a date.
If you just ask them to hang out and they don't pursue you romantically, you absolutely may not complain about the "friend zone."
Frankly, you need to grow up if you think it's appropriate to complain about someone who won't have sex with you. The great thing about sex is that I don't have to give it to you. It's mine, dammit.
4. Being clear about expectations.
It's always awkward to ask what your relationship with someone is when you're still in the early throes. Are you just two consenting adults enjoying each others' company?
Are you actually going steady? Be clear about it! And be proud of the chance to ask.
5. Turning off electronics and being together.
I'm a firm believer that when on a date, you turn off your smart phones and be there with each other.
It's ridiculous when your date pulls out their phone and starts texting in the middle of the date. It tells me you're not interested. Don't expect a call back.
6. Giving free romantic gestures.
Little gifts are fun, but there's nothing quite as amazing as receiving a poem or, sometimes, a super romantic voicemail. These nice gestures let your date know you care.
7. Dressing up a bit for a date.
You know, I'm a free spirit. I say dress however you want.
But I can't tell you how many times I've seen a couple people out on a date where one is dressed up a bit and the other is in basketball shorts and a tank top
. Come on. Let's up our game a little bit. They'll see you in your "Sunday best" eventually. Act like you care.
8. Not expecting sex on the first date.
There are many men and women alike who go on a date and expect it to result in sex if there's a mutual attraction. It'd be nice to not assume there will be sex at any point, let alone on the first date.
If you do decide to go home with them, I have two cardinal rules:
1. If your date isn't nice to the waiter or waitress, don't have sex with them.
2. If you go home with your date and they don't own any books (kindles are okay!), don't have sex with them.
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