Science

THIS Is The Real Reason Why We Close Our Eyes When We Kiss

A study that was tailored together by Psychologists Sandra Murphy and Polly Dalton compiled evidence that involves human psychology of sensory perception that explains why people keep their eyes closed in order to avoid eye contact while they are kissing one another.

Their research that was published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance describe in detail as to why it's nearly impossible for us to kiss with our eyes open.

The real reason is because if we were to keep our eyes open during the time we were kissing someone we have feelings for, it would distract us from being able to experience all of those butterflies and rainbows we feel deep within our stomach.

What it boils down to is that you do not have the same kind of personal experience or depth than you would with your eyes closed.

You don't feel as sense of pleasure of stimulation that satisfies you the same way when you have your eyes closed and only use your body language to guide each other during the kiss.

It's like if you were multitasking thinking about how amazing this person looks and feels, compared to feeling how amazing they feel as well as the way they are making you feel deep inside.

Visually being distracted while kissing would completely alter our way of kissing entirely.

Both Murphy and Dalton made the discovery that with the multiple sensations that are being placed on the forefront, would only drown out any of the other sense that aren't being targeted by this stimulation.

The people who participated in these studies were told to perform letter-searching tasks all the while having a tiny vibration that was applied to their hands.

Their results were able to show that people felt less of the vibration in their hands because their eyes were open, giving them various visual distractions from actually feeling any of the vibration at all. Dalton states:

"These results could explain why we close our eyes when we want to focus attention on another sense. Shutting out the visual input leaves more mental resources to focus on aspects of our experience."

Sandra Murphy adds:

"It was already known that increasing the demands of a visual task could reduce noticing of visual and auditory stimuli."

Essentially, you could compare the exact same kinds of results that you would get that would be something other than kissing.

Although, it's understandable that our other senses would heighten if we weren't visually distracted all of the time. You would feel things on a completely different level than you do now.

Then again, these studies weren't exactly tested on actual couples, so who knows you might actually get similar results kissing with your eyes open just the same way you would having them closed.

Regardless, it's good to figure these kinds of things out with a little bit more exploration.

Uplifting

Man Buys Stranger's Groceries When Overhearing Her Tell Her Daughter They Can't Afford To Eat That Night

Kindness is within us all

A man has recently been getting attention online for his inspiring act. One night, while he was minding his own business, he was confronted with a family in need. He had two options. He could have done the same thing everyone else did in the store and let them figure it out for themselves, or he could be their hero that day and help them out within his means.

The thing is, the man didn't have much money himself, and he was working two jobs to support himself and his kid. Here's how he decided on what to do.

Meet Bear, A Man Who Works Double Shifts To Live

Bear's shirtless selfie covered in tattoos and smirking

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It was a day like most for Bear, as he had just pulled two fourteen-hour shifts in a row and needed some food, but had no energy left to make it. He writes this on a post on Facebook and explains that this actually didn't turn out to be like most days: I stopped by the grocery store to grab food for dinner and as I was checking out a woman started crying in the next checkout line."

Bear listened in on the conversation between a mother and her daughter, and it was heartbreaking.

The Little Girl Asked Her Mom Why She Was Crying

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At first, it's easy to assume the mom is just having a bad day, maybe she got into a fight with her husband or is tired from looking after her kid. As he listened in, ge overheard the girl ask her mom what was wrong, as she continued to stand crying in the lane right next to hers.

"Her daughter asked her what's wrong and she all she could say was, 'we can't afford to eat tonight.''" These are the words that no parent wants to imagine ever needing to say to their child, who depends on them just to live. Yet, it is the unfortunate case for many.

Food Insecurity Is A Real Problem

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Food insecurity is a problem for many families across the country. This problem has gotten even worse with the pandemic as many families who relied on their small businesses had to shut down and couldn't make do anymore.

Even then, this problem existed before the pandemic and still continues today. In fact, the U.S Department of Agriculture reports that 10.5 percent (13.8 million) of U.S. households were food insecure at some time during 2020 and this number is unchanged from 2019.

This Time It Would Be Different

Bear and son take selfie in the city with red masks on

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For a lot of food-insecure families, they simply would have had to walk out of that grocery store empty-handed, with a kid possibly going to bed hungry that night. For this mom, kindness was in the cards, At first, another person who also overheard her gave them a few dollars towards their groceries.

But Bear knew she needed more than that. He walked over to the mom and her daughter and told them he would pay for their food and to get whatever they want. He writes on Facebook: "A person behind her gave her a couple of dollars and she bought her daughter a Kids Cuisine TV dinner. I told her to grab what she wants, I'll pay for it."

All In Divine Timing

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Was Bear's presence in that mothert's life at that time and place just a coincidence? Bear doesn't think so. He explains that he never actually shops at that store but for whatever reason, he felt inclined to do so that night. He think the reason for it comes down to divine timing…

"I NEVER stop at this Walmart. I'm simply saying GOD puts you where he needs you to be WHEN he needs you to be there"

People Find Bear Inspiring

Bear and son pose for picture while sitting on green chair

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Bear's Facebook post has gotten a lot of attention as many who read it are inspired by his selfless act. For all he knows, he could have saved that family that night.

"That's my little Brother doing what moms told us to do when women and children are in need, we help them out with whatever they need. GOD put you in the right place last night. Thanks for helping a woman and her children with the food they need to eat so they don't go hungry. God's got you," a person commented.

Whether it was a divine intervention or simply the actions of a kind man, it brought good into the world and we only hope things like this continue to happen to make it a better place.

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