7 Signs You Are Sabotaging Your Relationships By Trying To Control Your Partner
Relationships require a lot of communication and sometimes we would rather do things our own way instead of working with our partner on figuring out how to make things work.
Of course, there is a pretty distinct difference between wanting things a certain way and being an absolute control freak.
If you’ve noticed that your partner comes off as more controlling than concerned with your opinion/ideas then it could mean that they are ruining your relationship with them.
People who are controlling as well as in a relationship have a hard time not micromanaging every single little thing that is going on in your world.
Sure, it might’ve seemed cute at first but now it’s starting to get annoying and it’s time for a change. Look for these seven warning signs that could indicate you’re with a control freak.
1. You Are Always The Decision Maker
If you’ve noticed that the person you are with is the only one who takes the initiative or prefers to be the decision maker all of the time, then this is a warning sign that you are with a control freak.
They know exactly what they want, how they want it, and they don’t really care for anyone else’s opinion on the matter. You may notice that they are the ones who make certain rules that you have to follow in order to be with them.
2. You Take Compromises As Insults
If you’ve noticed that the person you are with cannot in anyway shape or form come to some kind of compromise for you in order to make the relationship bearable then this could be a warning sign that you are with a control freak.
Compromises mean that they aren’t able to control that certain aspect of your person so it makes them feel as if you are not happy with them as a person.
If there is truly no way of being able to communicate as to what a compromise would do for your relationship and they are remaining completely obtuse to the situation, then you should consider leaving them entirely.
3. You Can’t Stand Being Away From Your Partner
A control freak must be with their partner at all costs so that they can make sure you are doing exactly what they want as well as knowing your exact location.
This is a pretty big warning sign that you are dating a control freak. They will want to know everything you’re doing 24/7 just so they can micromanage your life for you.
If the person you are with cannot fathom taking a moment away from you, giving you your personal space, or unwilling to let you out of their sights for any reason, you may have to consider leaving them.
4. You Have Unrealistic Expectations
Control freaks have some of the most unrealistic expectations of their significant others and it can prove to be extremely hard to maintain some of these expectations simply because of how far-fetched they really are.
If your partner is constantly dumping these kind of ridiculous expectations on you about your life, your life at home, your relationship together, then you may have to consider leaving this person all together.
Your happiness matters most out of any kind of expectation they may have for you.
5. You Go Through Your Partner’s Personal Belongings
Control freaks will not ask for permission to go through your phone, your personal stuff, anything that is essentially sacred to you they will find an excuse to rummage through.
If you’ve noticed that your partner is completely incapable of communicating with you other than going through your personal belongings in order to get whatever information their looking for, then you may have to consider leaving this person.
They can confront you first before they decide that they need to dig through your things just to find out something that could potentially hurt your relationship.
6. You Pick Our Your Partner’s Outfits For Them
Some control freaks have the hardest time letting others dress themselves.
If you’ve noticed that your partner loves to pick out your outfit for you, prefers that you don’t have any say in what you wear, or tells you that what you’re wearing is ugly, then this is a pretty big warning sign that you’re with a controller.
Yes, it is important to look good, but you should be the one to decide what does and what doesn’t look good on your person. They have no say in what your comfortable wearing in public.
7. They Can’t Stand You Being With Friends
If you’ve noticed that your partner despises when you want to hang out with friends and not them then this is a huge warning sign that you are with a control freak.
The fact that you are even wanting to go out with other people other than them drives them up the wall. They take this as you not wanting to be with them or that you would rather be with other people than enjoy their company instead.
You deserve relationships that are entirely separate from your love life. Friends are very essential to everyone’s life and for them to give you grief over having friends is ridiculous.
Hopefully this has helped you recognize when someone is falling in love with a control freak or helped you realize that you are falling in love with a control freak. Do not let them take over your lives because they would love too more than anything.
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