Suck It Up & Ask These 10+ Deep Questions Early In A Relationship

There are few things that match the bliss of the first few months of a really good relationship.

Everything is exciting. Every adventure is like the best one you've ever had. Every date is awesome and fun.

The honeymoon phase is sexy, carefree, and wonderful. But you're not dating this person just to have some chill good times.

You're potentially picking out a life partner - someone you'll be spending your days and nights with maybe for the rest of your life.

There are some pretty important questions you need to ask! It's not always fun. It really bursts the bubble.

But before you move onto later, more serious phases of your relationship, you've got to ask these questions.

The longer you push these conversations off, the worse off your relationship may end up. Not knowing these answers leaves you flying blind into a major life decision.

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1. Are Kids A Deal Breaker?

Many couples have the conversation about whether or not to have children. It's actually pretty common, meaning it's not for this list.

But what many couples don't anticipate is that their partner may change their minds about it.

A must-have conversation is whether or not having or not having kids is explicitly a deal-breaker.

I've known married couples who wanted to have kids, then one changed their mind, and the marriage dissolved as a result.

I've seen couples decide to have a large family then, after one child, one partner decides that one is enough - and while in that situation it didn't end the marriage, it created a great deal of strife for a long time that never really got resolved.

If you're up front about it from the very get go, you have a way out that cannot be debated if your partner changes their mind.

You've made your wants and your needs clear from the very start, and if they change their mind, it's entirely on them.

2. What Kind Of Future Do You Want To Have?

When you're young, life is about figuring things out.

When you get into your 30's and 40's, what you want to be when you grow up becomes a lot more clear.

So the way this conversation goes depends a lot on how old you are.

No matter the age, knowing for sure that the person you're with wants a future with you is important. Otherwise you're just wasting your time.

Beyond that, if you're still college-aged, it's important to be flexible with your partner, as wants and needs may change.

When you're older, it becomes a lot more concrete. It's important to establish early on what direction your life is going to take and what you expect from your partner.

Getting that figured out at the start will save a lot of pain, arguing, and trouble down the line.

And again, it offers you an out if suddenly the life plans of your partner change and it no longer really matches up with what you want.

3. Where Are Your Deal Breakers?

We all have certain values, preferences, and needs.

There are certain things that we as individuals cannot and will not tolerate, and it's important to make those things known.

If you wouldn't be attracted to your partner if they became overweight, that's an important thing to talk about.

If you don't see eye to eye on sex, or religion, or parenting philosophies, those are kind of huge deals.

You need to take the time and make it clear what your deal breakers are; what you absolutely will not compromise on.

Take the time to learn the limits of your new partner and make your own limits as clear as day.

It's true, some of the standards we have might come off as ridiculous, but just because you think the standards are ridiculous doesn't mean you don't have to respect them.

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4. What Are Your Priorities?

There's nothing wrong with working a dead end job or just kind of floating until you figure your thing out, especially if you're young (but really at any age, it's fine).

Where you might run into problems is if you are that kind of person and you find yourself with a go-getter who wants more out of the person they're with.

Make it clear what your priorities are, whether it's having fun, traveling, working a bum job, starting a family, pursuing a career, or running for president. Whatever.

And make sure that they're being up front and clear with you about the same.

You don't want to run for Governor and have a partner who's a shift manager at a Dairy Queen.

So be clear right at the get go about where you're headed and what's important to you.

5. What Are Your Views On Social/Racial Issues?

I'll tell you a personal story.

Years ago in my early 20's, I dated a man who was perfectly agreeable and pretty relaxed.

Things were going great for the first couple months. Nothing too serious yet, but well past those initial awkward stages of dating.

Then one day I decided to stalk his Facebook profile a little to see what he liked and disliked.

What I found out was that he liked a lot of racist Facebook pages. When I pressed him on this, he was forthright about it.

"Yeah, I just don't really like black people." Well, that's a total deal breaker for me and any conscious, not horrible human being, obviously.

Some people hide their awful beliefs from you for a long time, only to completely blindside you later on.

So ask it point blank: what are your thoughts on gay rights? White supremacy? Abortion? All of it.

6. What Are Your Religious Views?

There are few things in life that are held more dear to our hearts than our religions, our faith, our spirituality, or our lack thereof.

Many religious people are raised to dogmatically believe one thing or another, making it difficult to reconcile even the most minute of spiritual differences.

Still, it's an important conversation to have.

Casually dating someone of another faith may seem like no big deal to you, and maybe it's no big deal to them too, but you can't ever truly know until you've asked. So be real.

Ask the question, "Could you marry someone of another faith? How will your parents and family be about it? Would you be willing to culturally convert to my faith?"

Making sure you see eye to eye can save a lot of heartache down the road.

7. What Are Your Political Views?

It's incredible how major topics can get pushed aside when you're early on in a relationship.

In my opinion, this is way more important to some than it is others.

Personally, I have my views and I don't really concern myself with how my partner feels about the same issues.

For others, it's not so simple. Politics is something that's getting more and more divisive by the year and that goes for young couples and families too.

Politics is so high stakes these days that it can tear even the closest of relationships apart. So be honest.

Is politics important to you? Are your politics important to you? Is this a part of your identity at any level?

All necessary and important things to hash out.

8. What Do You Want Out Of Life?

It's a broad question that at different times in your life might be difficult to answer.

But it's a good question to ask to at the very least get a feel for a person.

If you want to hang close to home and start a family and they want to hike Mt. Everest and travel to every continent, you probably don't have the same set of priorities.

So talk about these things to make sure you're on the level with one another.

And there's nothing wrong with saying, "well, when you get to that point, we may have to re-evaluate," as long as you're open and honest about that possibility being on the table.

If you conceal that possibility, then any potential split in the future over priorities could become infinitely messier.

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9. How Do You Fight?

All couples fight, but not all couples fight the same way.

Once you have your first big blowup, it'll become clear how your partner deals with problems.

But that doesn't mean you can't ask before it becomes an issue.

That way when a fight does arise, you can pause and say "Well you said once that this is how you like to deal with fighting, so let's put on the brakes a little bit and talk this out."

Once you're holding each other to a higher standard in a fight, the fight becomes less of me vs. you and more of us vs. the problem.

10. How Are Your Finances?

Okay, you might come off like a gold digger a little bit, but it's an important question to ask, even though the answer might not actually impact anything at all.

Some people have their finances together, some don't.

If your prospective partner doesn't have much of a savings account and hasn't planned for any retirement, it's okay, but it could lead to major issues down the line.

You may want to ask how they racked up all that credit debt or why their credit score is as poor as it is.

The answer may be simple to digest, or it may actually be an indication of majorly irresponsible behavior that could become a huge problem once your lives and finances are intertwined.

Lenders don't trust people who've defaulted on loans and had cars repossessed, so should you trust them either?

11. How Important Is Intimacy?

This is something that happens frequently among people who haven't had much dating experience.

Mistaking lust for long-term potential. Or even just basic compatibility.

When your sexual desire is strong enough, it can be very easy to start ignoring obvious flaws and making up positive qualities.

Often times, your desire to bang someone can lead to other issues.

If you've spent a significant amount of time trying to get someone into bed, you might find yourself spending more time with them than you should. Why?

Because you've invested all that time and you don't want to see it "go to waste." Obviously, this doesn't make sense, but when your reptile brain gets in the way, logic doesn't count for much.

Don't get me wrong, sexual compatibility is an incredibly important part of any serious relationship. Just as critically, there's nothing wrong with a relationship that's only focused on your attraction.

However, sexual attraction alone is a lousy foundation for a long-term relationship.

If you want your relationship to last, you're going to need more than "I really like seeing them naked."

12. How Is Your Family?

Family is low on the list of things I worry about at any stage of a relationship, but knowing where your partner is with their family and what kind of people they are is pretty important.

If your partner is close with their family, it's not a bad thing, but it could lead to big trouble if they don't wind up liking you.

There are few things that can put a bigger strain on a relationship than in-laws causing trouble or cousins trying to be live-in bum around housemates.

If you and your partner-to-be are different in some way, like racially, religiously, or politically, ask if that's going to cause any trouble with their family.

Be honest if you've got a racist uncle who wouldn't take kindly to a mixed race relationship.

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This Week's Horoscope Turns Thoughts Into Action, Here's How Each Zodiac Harnesses Its Energy

November 29- December 5

Brought to you by our friend Kelli Fox at Astrology.TV

There are a lot of constructive vibes around this week, and a whole lot of idealism too. The week begins with a potent Mars-Neptune trine on Monday, which encourages us to put some of our grand ideas into action.

We get back up on this task on Tuesday, with sextiles from the Sun and Mercury to practical Saturn, and from socially facilitating Venus to Neptune. Harnessing these energies means we can move forward constructively as well as find backing from our teams, colleagues, friends, and families.

The weekend may be a different matter, however – the Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius promises shocks in the system, especially related to issues of justice, fairness, or freedom.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


You know what you want to do to improve the world, Aries, but you've always hesitated to take action on that. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine could be the push you've been waiting for, as you realize that your ideas and ideals can make a difference after all.

Tuesday is a particularly good day for getting moving with this. Get others on board with help from the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and fine-tune your career towards a more altruistic purpose with help from the Venus-Neptune sextile.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse prompts you to expand your horizons. You've been taking too narrow a view of life. Seek new views, learn new philosophies, visit new lands, meet new people. Change comes through many minds working together.


This week, you're inspired to create common goals with your partner – or with those closest to you, if you're single – and to work together on something which matters to your soul. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday is particularly inspirational for this.

On Tuesday, the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile grows your confidence, while the Venus-Neptune sextile helps you to get support from your wider network or community for the ideals you're trying to share.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse, however, for some boundary setting. You may have been too forceful in your dealings with others, or perhaps you've allowed others to behave inappropriately with you. That has to stop.


Focus on finding ways to improve your efficiency at work, or the ease and comfort in which you can do your job. You have many ideas for how to improve things, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune – some of them are a bit 'far out', perhaps, but it could be that their time has come!

You'll get plenty of backup on Tuesday from your partner, courtesy of a helpful Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and you can also expect favorable reactions from authority figures, with the Venus-Neptune sextile helping your persuasive skills.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your love zone – this could bring a shock or revelation about a partner, but it's likely to impact your own personal growth in a positive manner.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


You've been feeling stifled and restricted recently, and this is the week to work on getting out of that rut. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, you'll feel inspired to travel, to shake up your routines, to learn something new or to otherwise create new avenues of freedom for yourself.

Everyday practicalities that have previously stood in your way may start to dissolve on Tuesday, courtesy of helpful sextiles to Saturn, and you'll also sense that you have the full support of your sweetheart.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse for a significant event or moment that underscores your need to break free – and which gives you the impetus to finally do so.


Family matters get a dose of healing and compassion this week, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune and encourages much better mutual understanding and forgiveness.

This provides a sense of relief and celebration, especially on Tuesday, when the Sun and Mercury sextile Saturn, allowing joy to flow through your relationship, and when Venus sextiles Neptune, freeing up more time for you to spend with your lover.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your risk zone and encourages you to take a leap of faith. This is a very good time for treating fears and phobias, and for allowing your emotions to spill out freely – don't hold anything back.


There's a real sense of partnership in your relationship this week, with you both working together as a strong team and towards a shared purpose. The lovely Mars-Neptune trine on Monday underscores this and points towards a shared spiritual understanding too.

The Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile on Tuesday shares responsibilities with your loved ones and improves your ability to delegate, while the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day adds a lovely big dose of romance and magic – what's not to love about that?

On Saturday, however, the Solar Eclipse falls in your family zone. You are being asked now to spend more time with your family, prioritizing domestic matters over work. See what you can do to make this happen.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


This is a week when you should start to see financial rewards for all of your recent hard work. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday activates your money zone as well as your work zone, so keep pushing forwards and following your dreams.

Improved communication on Tuesday will help with getting what you want, boosted by the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn. Meanwhile, family backup is also strong, as mirrored by the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day. People really are on your side.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday challenges you to keep an open mind about a controversial subject; try to avoid speaking out on topics where you don't really know much about the background. Use it as an opportunity to learn.


You've known for some time that you need to focus more on the joy in your life – Monday's Mars-Neptune trine will help you do just that. Your priority this week should be things that make you smile, laugh, feel alive and feel vibrant.

You may have the opportunity to do something special on Tuesday, when the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn gives a financial push, and the Venus-Neptune sextile hints at magical experiences. Say yes to whatever life offers.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday occurs in your money zone and may hold some shocks and surprises if you have been reckless with your finances. Pay attention to your personal security around this time too, and don't take chances.


This is a very spiritual week for you, Sagittarius, and on Monday especially you will feel drawn to meditation, divination, psychic insights, mediumship and past life regression. As Mars trines Neptune, all of these things have much wisdom to offer you.

You'll want to learn too, and Tuesday's Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile gives you the opportunity to do so. As Venus sextiles Neptune the same day, you may also find a way to earn money through your spiritual gifts, although you should be careful to maintain the highest of intentions.

The Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius on Saturday is a significant moment for you, and it speaks to your very identity and the way you choose to move forward in life. You have some important decisions to make.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


Friendships are set to be important this week, and you will especially love meeting new people who gel with you intellectually. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, it's also a good time for meeting people who can work with you towards a common cause, whether that's political, charitable or local.

There's a spiritual element to your group interactions too, most likely on Tuesday when the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile shows how you share values with other like-minded souls and the Venus-Neptune sextile activates the spiritual elements of your identity.

It's perhaps unsurprising then that the Solar Eclipse on Saturday in your spiritual zone may mark a turning point in your spiritual understanding. Open your heart and mind to new possibilities.


Give your ambitions free reign this week, because the cosmic vibes are lining up to support your success. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine is very promising, particularly if you want to work in a creative or artistic field, or if financial rewards for your efforts have been a long time coming.

On Tuesday you should find that the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile provides strong support from friends or your work-based team and the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day highlights money coming in from an imaginative or unusual direction.

The Solar Eclipse, however, occurs in your community zone on Saturday. Try to blend your very reasonable desire for material success with your deeper humanitarian desire for a better society. How can you work towards both these goals? There is a way.


New experiences beckon this week if you can step out of your comfort zone. Look to the Mars-Neptune trine on Monday to provide you with the confidence you need. Anything involving travel or outdoor adventure will be particularly good at showing you what you can do.

Sextiles from the Sun/Mercury to Saturn and to Neptune from Venus also play their part on Tuesday, giving you support and encouragement from friends and loved ones and reminding you that you're much more capable than you think.

Indeed, the Solar Eclipse in your status zone on Saturday may bring about a mini-crisis of some kind that puts you in the spotlight – but this will serve to teach you that you are a strong, capable individual, who does not need to fear anything. Go for it!

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