When considering something we, personally, don't experience, be it a different culture, mindset, or general way of life, it can be hard to wrap our head around as we don't have that inside experience.
Thankfully, with the growing power of the internet to connect people from all walks of life, there's no better time to find someone who can teach you the things you want to know. They can cause quite a debate sometimes, as people try to understand why someone would think or live a certain way.
An Expert's Point Of View
When learning about something new, or anything at all, it's always best to listen to an expert. Sometimes that expert is in the form of a teacher, someone who's spent years of their life studying this subject, but sometimes that expert is someone with lived experience. They've been through whatever you want to learn about, or it's an integral part of their life somehow.
This is especially true for matters of the mind and social differences, as someone who lived through something related to those topics will have a more thorough, inside look at what it's really like than someone who only studied without experiencing.
A Look Inside
This can be a great way to learn about some more taboo topics, and offers insight into people you never would have wanted to ask about their situation lest it be seen as invasive.
This is the goal of a man who goes by The Nameless Narcissist online. He shares that he's been formally diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and uses his social media platforms to educate people on how the brains of narcissists truly work.
Just One Question
He also has insight into how to identify narcissists. In a video with over 4 million views and 282k likes, he shares "the ONE question to ask someone to tell if they're a narcissist."
He starts the video strong by saying, "I would put money that 80% of narcissists can be identified by this question."
"So, I'm a diagnosed narcissist, and this question was posed to me by a friend of mine who's also a diagnosed narcissist," his tale begins.
Better Or Worse?
"And when I heard it, I was like, 'Oh my god, yes, finally, somebody said it.' The answer to this question felt so objectively true to me, and I was shocked that finally, I met someone else who could see the reality of things."
He then acknowledges that it's "not reality, it's my disorder, but still."
The question at hand? "Don't you think that there are objectively better and worse people in the world, people who are superior and inferior, and the rest of the world just wants to ignore that?"
If you're looking for an honest answer or trying to covertly find out if someone is a narcissist, he adds that it may help if you add something that implies that you and the other person are part of that 'inherently superior' group.
As for his reasoning behind it, he says, "Narcissists view the world through that lens, through the ideas that there are people who have more inherent self-worth, and some people who have less self-worth, people who are better than other people, and people who are worse."
The True Cause
"That is an essential core belief that drives their actions."
"And it is why, constantly, they're trying to prove that they are part of the better people," he explains. "Because, deep down, they think they're part of the worst people."
His question and the explanation behind it shines a light on the idea that narcissism is born out of deeply rooted insecurity, an insecurity so strong and relentless that their minds shift to the point of abject, overblown narcissism.
Back And Forth
Not all of the comments agreed with his perspective here, with many people saying their answer to the question to be 'yes' but they don't think they're a narcissist.
This opened up a debate about how to further qualify this question. If you answer yes, you have to look at the traits that you're measuring people on. Are these truly objective measurements of overall character, or just a personal preference?
A narcissist will believe that their preferences, though subjective, are good and correct ways to measure the population, which is why they hold themselves as part of that 'superior' group.
This is a question that doesn't have one true answer, really. While The Nameless Narcissist's insight is very intriguing and his line of thinking does make sense, when it comes to the judgment of other people, there will always be debates around validity and subjectiveness.
Still, the question is a good one to pose. Someone's answer, whether or not you believe it'll reveal their status as a narcissist or not, will at least give you great insight into their worldview, and that does wonders when you're faced with someone new.