7 Signs You’re The Victim of an Emotional Manipulator

Emotional manipulation happens much more often than we realize. We have probably all been guilty of it at some point, in small subconscious ways at least. This is a far cry however, from the purposeful and likely malicious emotional manipulation of a chronic abuser.

These individuals are practiced in their skill and have done their research.

They know exactly what to say or do to push your buttons and get whatever they want out of you.

It is essential to be able to discern the behavior of an emotional manipulator so that you can avoid the emotional trauma and permanent damage they cause.

1. They make you feel guilty for their transgressions.

An emotional manipulator is always a master of placing blame.

They will find ridiculously convoluted ways to blame anyone and everyone, and most likely you, for all of their shortcomings.

If they stood you up for an appointment, it's because you didn't give them a clear time, if they forget for the 100th time to bring back the textbook they borrowed from you it's because you didn't remind them before they left the house.

No matter what it is, you'll end up apologizing for something they've failed to do.

2. They're always the victim somehow.

This is demonstrated partially by the behavior mentioned above.

If the stories and explanations behind every screw up portray this person as a constant victim of circumstance or other people, it's probably due to an inability or unwillingness to take any personal responsibility.

3. Their actions never match their words.

Emotional manipulators are masters of language.

They will make promises and use flattering words to lull you into a sense of trust and security, and then they will fail to follow through on pretty much every promise they make.

This is because they never intended to follow through in the first place.

4. They lie about things that don't even matter.

These people have gotten so used to weaving webs with their lies that even tiny, inconsequential details get twisted into white lies that serve no actual purpose.

They embellish so much of their lives that they're almost incapable of just telling the straight truth, even when lies aren't necessary.

5. They are gold medalists in the pain olympics.

Manipulators are by nature, one-uppers.

The minute they hear somebody talking about a struggle or a bad thing that happened, they're prepared with an even wilder, more sympathetic story to garner attention with.

They know that sympathy is a powerful tool and they'll use any opportunity they can get to increase how much you feel for them.

6. They set you up to believe you're negotiating.

This is a very popular and well known tactic amongst manipulators.

They will pose a question in a specific way that makes you believe you came to a compromise, when really you've simply agreed to the demands they had all along.

If they want to borrow money they'll ask for 50$, expecting you to say no, as soon as you deny them that, they'll say "Well anything helps, 20$ would be great?" and you're much more likely to accept this and cave to the request.

You think you've made a deal, but all they wanted was 20$ to begin with. They knew just how to get it from you.

7. They are experts in faking mutual trust.

The emotional manipulator requires your trust in order to fool you. They need your sympathy, but most of all they need your trust.

The most effective and quick way of doing this is to insist and demonstrate to you how much they trust YOU.

They will stop at nothing to convince you that you are the top of their list, ride or die closest friend and confidante they've ever had.

This way you see no reason not to reciprocate that trust.

It's a human instinct to want to trust someone else, and if we feel like they are giving us their trust, we begin to feel almost guilty if we don't return the sentiment.

This is the unfortunate truth behind this "trust" of theirs however, all of those secrets and intimate, personal things they've shared with you are false.

They know how to be careful and will never give you ammunition with which to take them down.

Emotional manipulators are dangerous and they can be hard to spot, but if you pay attention and never forget your own worth, don't let anyone tell you what you do or don't know, or what is or isn't true, you don't have to be a victim.

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This Week's Horoscope Turns Thoughts Into Action, Here's How Each Zodiac Harnesses Its Energy

November 29- December 5

Brought to you by our friend Kelli Fox at Astrology.TV

There are a lot of constructive vibes around this week, and a whole lot of idealism too. The week begins with a potent Mars-Neptune trine on Monday, which encourages us to put some of our grand ideas into action.

We get back up on this task on Tuesday, with sextiles from the Sun and Mercury to practical Saturn, and from socially facilitating Venus to Neptune. Harnessing these energies means we can move forward constructively as well as find backing from our teams, colleagues, friends, and families.

The weekend may be a different matter, however – the Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius promises shocks in the system, especially related to issues of justice, fairness, or freedom.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


You know what you want to do to improve the world, Aries, but you've always hesitated to take action on that. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine could be the push you've been waiting for, as you realize that your ideas and ideals can make a difference after all.

Tuesday is a particularly good day for getting moving with this. Get others on board with help from the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and fine-tune your career towards a more altruistic purpose with help from the Venus-Neptune sextile.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse prompts you to expand your horizons. You've been taking too narrow a view of life. Seek new views, learn new philosophies, visit new lands, meet new people. Change comes through many minds working together.


This week, you're inspired to create common goals with your partner – or with those closest to you, if you're single – and to work together on something which matters to your soul. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday is particularly inspirational for this.

On Tuesday, the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile grows your confidence, while the Venus-Neptune sextile helps you to get support from your wider network or community for the ideals you're trying to share.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse, however, for some boundary setting. You may have been too forceful in your dealings with others, or perhaps you've allowed others to behave inappropriately with you. That has to stop.


Focus on finding ways to improve your efficiency at work, or the ease and comfort in which you can do your job. You have many ideas for how to improve things, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune – some of them are a bit 'far out', perhaps, but it could be that their time has come!

You'll get plenty of backup on Tuesday from your partner, courtesy of a helpful Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and you can also expect favorable reactions from authority figures, with the Venus-Neptune sextile helping your persuasive skills.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your love zone – this could bring a shock or revelation about a partner, but it's likely to impact your own personal growth in a positive manner.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


You've been feeling stifled and restricted recently, and this is the week to work on getting out of that rut. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, you'll feel inspired to travel, to shake up your routines, to learn something new or to otherwise create new avenues of freedom for yourself.

Everyday practicalities that have previously stood in your way may start to dissolve on Tuesday, courtesy of helpful sextiles to Saturn, and you'll also sense that you have the full support of your sweetheart.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse for a significant event or moment that underscores your need to break free – and which gives you the impetus to finally do so.


Family matters get a dose of healing and compassion this week, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune and encourages much better mutual understanding and forgiveness.

This provides a sense of relief and celebration, especially on Tuesday, when the Sun and Mercury sextile Saturn, allowing joy to flow through your relationship, and when Venus sextiles Neptune, freeing up more time for you to spend with your lover.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your risk zone and encourages you to take a leap of faith. This is a very good time for treating fears and phobias, and for allowing your emotions to spill out freely – don't hold anything back.


There's a real sense of partnership in your relationship this week, with you both working together as a strong team and towards a shared purpose. The lovely Mars-Neptune trine on Monday underscores this and points towards a shared spiritual understanding too.

The Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile on Tuesday shares responsibilities with your loved ones and improves your ability to delegate, while the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day adds a lovely big dose of romance and magic – what's not to love about that?

On Saturday, however, the Solar Eclipse falls in your family zone. You are being asked now to spend more time with your family, prioritizing domestic matters over work. See what you can do to make this happen.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


This is a week when you should start to see financial rewards for all of your recent hard work. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday activates your money zone as well as your work zone, so keep pushing forwards and following your dreams.

Improved communication on Tuesday will help with getting what you want, boosted by the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn. Meanwhile, family backup is also strong, as mirrored by the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day. People really are on your side.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday challenges you to keep an open mind about a controversial subject; try to avoid speaking out on topics where you don't really know much about the background. Use it as an opportunity to learn.


You've known for some time that you need to focus more on the joy in your life – Monday's Mars-Neptune trine will help you do just that. Your priority this week should be things that make you smile, laugh, feel alive and feel vibrant.

You may have the opportunity to do something special on Tuesday, when the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn gives a financial push, and the Venus-Neptune sextile hints at magical experiences. Say yes to whatever life offers.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday occurs in your money zone and may hold some shocks and surprises if you have been reckless with your finances. Pay attention to your personal security around this time too, and don't take chances.


This is a very spiritual week for you, Sagittarius, and on Monday especially you will feel drawn to meditation, divination, psychic insights, mediumship and past life regression. As Mars trines Neptune, all of these things have much wisdom to offer you.

You'll want to learn too, and Tuesday's Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile gives you the opportunity to do so. As Venus sextiles Neptune the same day, you may also find a way to earn money through your spiritual gifts, although you should be careful to maintain the highest of intentions.

The Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius on Saturday is a significant moment for you, and it speaks to your very identity and the way you choose to move forward in life. You have some important decisions to make.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.


Friendships are set to be important this week, and you will especially love meeting new people who gel with you intellectually. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, it's also a good time for meeting people who can work with you towards a common cause, whether that's political, charitable or local.

There's a spiritual element to your group interactions too, most likely on Tuesday when the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile shows how you share values with other like-minded souls and the Venus-Neptune sextile activates the spiritual elements of your identity.

It's perhaps unsurprising then that the Solar Eclipse on Saturday in your spiritual zone may mark a turning point in your spiritual understanding. Open your heart and mind to new possibilities.


Give your ambitions free reign this week, because the cosmic vibes are lining up to support your success. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine is very promising, particularly if you want to work in a creative or artistic field, or if financial rewards for your efforts have been a long time coming.

On Tuesday you should find that the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile provides strong support from friends or your work-based team and the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day highlights money coming in from an imaginative or unusual direction.

The Solar Eclipse, however, occurs in your community zone on Saturday. Try to blend your very reasonable desire for material success with your deeper humanitarian desire for a better society. How can you work towards both these goals? There is a way.


New experiences beckon this week if you can step out of your comfort zone. Look to the Mars-Neptune trine on Monday to provide you with the confidence you need. Anything involving travel or outdoor adventure will be particularly good at showing you what you can do.

Sextiles from the Sun/Mercury to Saturn and to Neptune from Venus also play their part on Tuesday, giving you support and encouragement from friends and loved ones and reminding you that you're much more capable than you think.

Indeed, the Solar Eclipse in your status zone on Saturday may bring about a mini-crisis of some kind that puts you in the spotlight – but this will serve to teach you that you are a strong, capable individual, who does not need to fear anything. Go for it!

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