Emotional intelligence, that is the ability to perceive emotions as well as regulate your own emotions well, isn’t a you-have-it-or-you-don’t type thing. All of us have it, but sometimes it needs to be developed over time. You learn emotional intelligence in the same way you learn to read or learn calculus. When you do find yourself emotionally intelligent, this is what happens.
1. You become more self-aware.
We’re all somewhat self-aware. It’s part of being conscious. But self-awareness is taken to a new height when you become emotionally intelligent. You aren’t just aware, but you understand yourself and why you have the feelings you do in ways you never did before. You become a fuller person.