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Five Types Of Toxic Mothers Who Leave Invisible Scars On Their  Daughters

Not all scars are visible. Some hide deep inside, to the point where we might not even realize we have them till we suddenly feel their pain. We wonder why we are the way we are, unable to let ourselves be loved, or even unable to love in the capacity that we know we can. We realize that we're just protecting ourselves.

The way a mother loves their child will dictate the way that the child defines and understands love. This becomes their first contact with the concept and once they form it, whether it's good or bad, it can be really hard to change it as an adult. Here's how.

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The Controlling Mother

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​For some mothers, it was impossible to accept that mother does not know best simply because she is a mother. Yet, she used this statement over and over again to assert her word. It was her way or the highway and this meant a series of endless rules, many of which were a reflection of her own insecurities.

She convinced herself that she was protecting you and acting out of love but instead she made you resent her for never saying yes, for never trusting you, for never giving you the opportunity to experience the world and learn for yourself. She even at times tried to control your feelings in her complete refusal to recognize you as an independent person. Rather she saw you as an extension of herself and used that to justify why you must always do as she asks.

The Narcissistic Mother

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This mother somehow always found a way to make everything about herself. When you cried, she complained that you were tiring her out. When you needed a ride, she made sure you understood how much of an inconvenience you were to her. Even when you excelled, she pointed out that it was actually all thanks to her and what she provided for you. She was too busy worrying about herself that she never really got to know you.

Ironically, everyone else thought she was the perfect mother because that's how she made it look on the outside. Your feelings were always dismissed because she made others envious of appearances. She cared more about how others saw you than how you did.

The Mother Who Used You As Her Only Means Of Happiness

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No child should bear the burden of being their mother's only source of joy and pride. It is too much pressure to have the person you depend on, depend on you for their own selfish needs. This mother made her whole world revolve around her kid. There was no such thing as boundaries. She constantly needed attention and smothered you with hers.

There were times the roles were reversed and she was the one needing you to mother her, forcing you to grow up long before you were due. She did not know how to let you go and got angry at you for not reciprocating her emotional needs. She drained you and distorted your definition of love.

The Impossible To Please Mother

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​For this mother, nothing was good enough. No matter the achievement you proudly presented to her, it was downplayed and just expected. She saw how hard you worked but she never rewarded you for it. She thought that she was pushing you and that her tough love would motivate you to work even harder to really impress her but instead, you grew up thinking that you would never be good enough, not to her and not anyone.

Even when you tried to show her how much you love her, hoping she would show it back, she took it for granted and ignored your efforts. Children are programmed to need the approval of their mothers, and as an adult, you often still crave it simply because you never got it.

The Physically Present But Absent Minded Mother

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This mother was there all along, but she was never truly accessible. She was so caught up in her own world, maybe even her own pain that she failed to see how much you needed for her affection. She was emotionally distant making you feel like anything and everything was more of a priority than connecting with you. She often gave you fancy gifts as if they would make up for her lack of empathy.

As a child, you were confused, unable to understand your purpose in the world if your own mother could not give you the time of day. You might have even rebelled in an effort to get her attention, but it only drove her further away. Till this day you wonder how to be seen.

Are You Still Searching For Your Purpose

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Don't let the way your mother saw you, define you. After all she was just human.Who you are and you become is entirely up to you. In fact, it may be influenced by something much bigger than you. You won't believe what the science of Numerology can reveal about you.

The numerology of your birth date, regardless of what month you were born, can reveal surprising information about your personality. Unlock the messages hidden in your Personality Code now with your free personalized video report learn what Numerology says about your life using only your Birth Date.

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The Four Zodiac Signs That Make The Best Husbands

Women give a lot of time and thought to their idea of the best husband. Most would agree that he must be caring, loyal, attentive, understanding, and independent. No woman is looking to marry a man-child who is just looking for someone to mother him while he contributes the bare minimum. The tricky part is that most men are skilled at charming women into thinking that they will give them the world only to later find out that this was nothing but a facade, an idea they presented but had no intention of maintaining.

Luckily astrology has shown that some signs hold traits and characteristics within their core that naturally give them an advantage. Their personalities hold the traits of the best husbands.

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Aries: A Man On An Honest Mission

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​Aries is the kind of man who steps up to the plate without waiting for an invitation. You don't need to ask him twice to take out the trash, because he loves to take charge and be proactive. When they're at their best, Aries men want to become the financial head of their family. They want to ensure that they are working independently to provide and care for the one they love to the best of their abilities.

What makes Aries men great husbands is that they take care of themselves first so that they can actually care for a partner. Sometimes this means that they'll avoid relationships and stay single for long periods of time before they feel like they're in the right place for marriage. However, they tend to be honest about where they are along their path and with their intentions, making them easy to trust and later upfront husbands. You usually don't have to play guessing games, as they'll lay out their cards for you straight on the table.

Leo: Carefree Nature

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Leo men usually have a carefree nature and are happy to do their own thing while letting their partner do theirs. They are easy to plan with and communicate with because they are just happy if you are happy. They're not the jealous type or the overprotective kind that needs you home by a certain time and feels the need to check your phone when you're not looking. The trusting and natural connection they build makes for healthy relationships where both partners are independent in their own ways but can unite in an equal partnership.

Leos are also known to be courageous. Their carefree nature allows them to take risks without overthinking the outcomes. They are likely to go out of their way to make the first moves and put in the effort. They will make their wives feel supported, protected, and lifted.

Virgo: Supportive And Thoughtout

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A Virgo man is husband material because he actually takes the time to think things through. He doesn't rush into relationships and commitments unless he truly feels that it is right. This means that once he chooses the woman he wants to marry, he becomes entirely loyal and dedicated to her. He's willing to work through the hard times and doesn't give up easily. He takes time during arguments to think of logical responses rather than fight in the heat of the moment.

Virgo men are good at providing validation and reminding their wives that they are loved and cared for. They take their hard work ethic with them in their relationships because they understand that love is a muscle that needs to be trained in order to keep functioning at a healthy level. When Virgo men make a promise, they keep it forever.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what your universe has to say about you right now.

Taurus: Protective Of The Heart

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​A Taurus man is both caring and loyal. He is the kind of husband who will always reassure you that he's on your team. He wants to face all your problems with you, not against you. You can count on him when you need support or even just a little help around the house. His reliability means that he always shows up, and remembers birthdays and anniversaries.

Taurus men have a great moral compass that easily guides them in their relationships. They hate to disappoint you so they go out of their way to make sure that you know how much they are trying to love you. Taurus is a romantic at heart, which makes him the ideal partner for a stable relationship that doesn't get comfortable and boring. From the moment he marries the woman he loves, he becomes protective of her heart

Cancer: A Lover Of Love

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Cancer men can't help but love everything about love. They can come off as needy but they are just craving to be loved the same intense, everything in, passionate way that they give love. They are emotional and sentimental making them some of the most romantic partners. They love to surprise their wives with flowers, or acts of service without being asked, just to see her smile at the end of the day.

They give a lot of affection and actually enjoy spending quality time with their wives. They are not confrontational and are great communicators. Marriages with them tend to be calm and patient because they don't let issues bottle up and talk calmly whenever there is an issue. They are genuinely kind and make caring partners.

Get Personal And Break The Cycle

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We don't blame you for being frustrated with dating but if you're struggling to find and keep a quality man click here to find out how to break the cycle. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it's much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.

For more great relationship advice and tips on how to attain the kind of love you deserve, watch this video from expert, Amy North: Click Here To Watch The Full Video.