Science Found This Flirting Strategy To Be Most Effective, Regardless Of Looks

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Some people are experts at flirting while others feel like it’s a foreign language they could never master. While flirting does come more naturally for others, it really just is a way to appeal to a person of interest that could work for anyone. It turns out that there is one kind of flirting strategy that always works for everyone and in every situation.

This should be a prayer answered for all those who wonder when they see someone they like “where do I start?” It’s basically foolproof. Here’s what to do.

Do you want to learn a secret technique anyone can master that will make someone fall in love with you?

We Flirt…But Why?

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Rfael Rocha / Unsplash

First things first, let’s go over why we, as human beings, flirt? Or better yet: “what even is flirting?” Take it from an expert. According to Professor Kennair: “Flirting involves different signals that people send to each other. It’s done to attract potential partners. Men and women both flirt to get the attention of a desired partner, and perhaps to achieve a sexual or romantic result from it.”

So basically flirting is how we express desire ad interest for one another while opening the door to explore a connection. This can be done verbally or non verbally with the same goal of attracting a potential partner. However, they do say that actions speak louder than words…

The Most Effective Flirting Weapon

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What if we told you that there’s a not-so-secret recipe for flirting that’s almost guaranteed work every time? It’s one that you’re already familiar with and likely see all the time in movies. A new study published in Evolutionary Psychology has unlocked the key. It turns out that the most powerful weapon in flirting is…


Yes it’s that simple. We tend to underestimate the power of humor and assume it’s a tool “less attractive” people use to compensate when really being humorous has been found to be the most effective way to flirt for both men and women. The study shares: “People think that humour, or being able to make another person laugh, is most effective for men who are looking for a long-term relationship. It’s least effective for women who are looking for a one-night stand. But laughing or giggling at the other person’s jokes is an effective flirtation tactic for both sexes.”

It’s Fool Proof

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Girorgio Trovato / Unsplash

To make this flirting technique work you have to only make them laugh, but laugh at their jokes too: “It is not only effective to be funny, but for women, it is very important that you show your potential partner that you think they are funny,” Rebecca Burch, a co-author from SUNY Oswego in New York, added.

The study found that both men and women who showed off their sense of humour had the most success if they were looking for a relationship. However, if you’re just looking for a quick fling, simply appearing available was the most effective tactic. If you want to increase your odds, try adding smiling and eye contact to your flirting tool kits as well.

One Size Fits All Method

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Velizar Ivanov / Unsplash

Keep in mind that this flirting technique has nothing to do with looks! It can work for anyone on anyone. “Individual differences in age, religiosity, extroversion, personal attractiveness, and preferences for short-term sexual relationships had little or no effect on how effective respondents considered the various flirting tactics to be,” says study co-author Prof. Mons Bendixen.

This technique is in line with similar flirting techniques in other countries. Even with cultural differences, body language, initial contact, generosity and humour are top contenders. Effective flirting is basically universal, just like the motivation to find a partner is biological.

Is It Different For Women?

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Listen up ladies, any man you desire is yours. Not only are you a magical and irresistible creature by nature but love and attraction are fundamentally just hormones and chemicals that can be malleable if you know just how to effectively flirt. The way you approach a man can completely alter the way he feels about you. To go beyond making him laugh, these are the five most effective ways to make a man fall for you:

1. Makes him laugh

2. Shows interest in conversations

3. Spends time with him

4. Engages in deep conversations

5. Kisses on the mouth

Vs. For Men

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Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels

The next time you meet a woman and assume she’s out of your league, reframe that thought by reminding yourself that with effective flirting, you could win anyone over. Not only will that boost your confidence, which is itself attractive, but it’ll give you a starting point on which to build a foundation. If you want to maximize your chance beyond making her laugh, these are the most effective tactics for those looking for a long-term relationship:

1. Makes her laugh

2. Spends time with her

3. Shows interest in conversations

4. Engages in deep conversations

5. Smiles

Looks Aren’t Everything!

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Leah Kelley / Unsplash

If we learned anything from this study is that looks aren’t everything. Attractiveness can be cultivated, developed and nurtured with the right tools. A person who may not seem attractive at first glance might surprise you. Just by making someone laugh, you could win them over.

Keep in mind that having that great sense of humor is evidence that someone is intelligent, perceptive, and confident. Laughing itself releases happy chemicals that your potential partner will associate as a reward that came from sharing an experience with you. The more you laugh together, the more you will bond and feel closer to one another.

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Aria Misty

Aria Misty is a recent university grad. She did her undergrad in media, information & technoculture with a Master in Journalism & Communications in 2018.

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