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Four Fake Gestures That Are Actually An Excuse To Be Toxic

Manipulators are everywhere. Maybe they do it on purpose or maybe their bad habits and expectations have just given them toxic traits, but in all cases, they're not good for you.

Be careful of those who do seemingly nice gestures only to then use them against you. If you're wondering how to tell the difference so you're not just distrusting everyone, look out for these four fake gestures in particualr.

Giving Gifts

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Be careful of those who try to give you gifts for no reason. While their generosity and thoughtfulness can be appreciated, toxic people will make sure to remind you at every irrelevant chance of what they did for you.

All of a sudden the gift will feel cursed, and they'll make you feel like you're indebted to them even though you never even asked for a gift in the first place.

The Ben Franklin Favor Effect

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This technique is used by the most skilled manipulators, even though it was originally meant to be positive. It's based on an old saying by Ben Franklin: "he who has once done you a favor will be more willing to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged."

Basically, it means that when someone asks you for a favor, you feel special because they chose you as the person they trusted and needed for their skills, or so they make it seem. While one favor is fine, stay away from those who conveniently are nicest and most attentive when they need something.

Breadcrumbing Their Attention

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It might feel nice when someone expresses a lot of interest in you at once. But this makes it hurt much more when they suddenly vanish when you try to meet up om person. This is known as breadcrumbing.

It's basically when a person comes off as charming and attentive but they're only telling what you want to hear. They're giving you just enough signals to keep your interest. In fact, every time you pull away they come back strong but they never have any intention of committing.

Trusting You With A Secret

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When a charmer wants to make you feel special they'll pretend to trust you so much that they're letting you on a secret they only feel comfortable with you. This is a way to make it seem like you're bonded deeper than you actually are.

It's just a way to keep you around so that when they withdraw you start to feel empty and wonder if you did something wrong. It makes it easier for them to get you to do whatever it is that they want so you gain back their attention.


The Four Facial Traits That Make The Most Attractive People

Researchers keep on trying to unlock the million-dollar question: what makes a person the most beautiful? The media keeps on changing the women they show as most beautiful and we keep on changing our appearance and fashion in an attempt to keep up. But the question is, do we actually ever actually "feel" beautiful?"

Does it truly come down to a science, where certain traits deem a person most attractive or is beauty relative like they say? Let's find out!

The More Symmetry The Better

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​Many experimental studies have shown that men and women both prefer faces that are more symmetrical. They even came up with ratios and masks that can measure the level of symmetry in a face, and by extension its beauty. Even monkeys have been noticed gazing longer at symmetrical faces.

But why? Well, science doesn't seem to have gotten that far. It could have something to do with evolution and our brains tricking themselves into thinking that a symmetrical face must be a sign of good health. Maybe we associate good genes with the more successful development of a facial structure.

Having "Babyface" Features

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​The idea of the fountain of youth didn't come out of anywhere. There is a belief that people are at their most beautiful in the prime of their youth, where they've grown enough to have adult features, but haven't experienced enough to lose their innocence and be affected by the environment.

From this idea, came the "baby face", where large eyes, long lashes, a cute little nose, a small chin, plump lips, and rosy cheeks are desirable. These traits can either describe a baby or a supermodel but the idea is that they reflect feelings of warmth, trust and won't argue back.

The More Average, The More Relatable

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People are actually attracted to faces that appear distinctly average. Yes, the more you look like the general population, the more attractive you can come off, which just seems ironic.

The reason some studies made this conclusion, is that teh more average a face is, the more they likely are to be a blend of genes A study, published in the journal Human Nature said that average faces might be a reflection of a more diverse set of genes, which we might subconsciously consider as stronger in fighting off illnesses.

Something About Getting Older

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Maybe women seem more attractive with baby faces but forget about youth when it comes to women's attraction to men. Women might actually end up being more attracted to men who look older according to a study.

This idea is still evolving and has something to do with women finally having a place in the workforce. The more financially independent they become, the more they like older guys, according to the study. They even named this the "George Clooney Effect" which showed women that the more patient they are, the better their chances at finding a man has more status and resources due to being older.

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Familiar Faces Per Genetics

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Ask yourself how you feel when you meet someone who looks like someone else you love? You probably automatically take a liking to them just because they seem familiar, even if you've truly never met them before. You might even just trust them right away. In the same way, the more familiar a person might feel, the more we could be attracted to them.

Another study found that the faces we are attracted to are heavily influenced by our personal experiences in life, and probably nothing more. This theory says it's not because of genetics as even twins couldn't agree on who they found attractive. It just depends on who you meet and look at throughout your life and the experiences you associate with them.

Basically You Can't Win

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Well, it turns out, even when you try to with science, you really can't define beauty. Some people are attracted to babyfaces, while some can't help but be drawn to older ones. Some people's brains attach symmetry with good health while others just want an average-looking face to continue their genes. So the message is, beauty is relative after all. I am beautiful and you are beautiful and everyone will be most attractive to someone.

Rather than focus on looks, focus on the person on the inside. You're here for a reason. This is your sign to get to know yourself better and unleash your potential.

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