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Grown Adults Share The Most Toxic Things Their Parents Told Them As Children, And It's Unsettling

Let's face it, parents are not the superheroes we once thought they were. The older we get, the more we realize that parents are just human beings who made a lot of mistakes along the way. The only difference is that some parents went out of their way to try to never repeat those mistakes, while some got stuck in toxic patterns that hurt their children in unsettling ways.

These children have now grown into adults who struggle but are aware of the root of their issues. They have come together on Reddit to share the things that parents told them that broke them, in hopes of saving the next child.

Unfair Compairaisons

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"My drunken father once told me, 'You'll never be the man that I am.' I remember thinking, 'You're damn right I won't be.'"- p38-lightning/ Reddit

The sad truth is that while some thrive to be just like their parents, once wishing they will grow up to follow in their footsteps, some of us actually make it our life goal to be everything they were not. Ultimately, the hope for every parent should be for their children to be better than they ever could be and to have everything that they did not.

Gaslighting

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"'It's all in your head/you are just imagining it.' As it turned out, I wasn't imagining it and now I struggle to differentiate between what's real and what's not because I was led to believe I was imagining things constantly." - Missing_Maestos/ Reddit

When we think of gaslighting, we often picture romantic relationships but the reality is that this victim-blaming mentality is actually a manipulation tactic that is used in any kind of relationship. Even parents turn the tables on their own children when it's too difficult for them to take accountability and admit their own mistakes. They think that by dismissing it, it'll just go away but what it really does is confuse the child about reality.

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Unfair Blaming

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"You're the reason why your dad and I almost divorced." - 3_angels / Reddit

It's never the child's fault for having been born. It's not like we chose when to come into existence and into which family. It's completely unfair when a parent blames their kid for any of their problems because it's actually their responsibility to figure it out. If they didn't think their relationship could handle it, then maybe they shouldn't have had a kid in the first place.

Guilt Tripping

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"'So you're saying that I'm a bad parent' in response to any form of help-seeking or constructive criticism was the worst for me." - Derpchieftain / Reddit

Parents need to accept that they're not perfect. What kind of example are they setting for their children when they refuse to accept their own flaws and mistakes just because it's their own kid who points it out? Rather than teach them that they should follow authority blindly, parents should show their kids that it's okay to admit a wrong, learn from it and move forward

Negating Feelings

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"'You're being dramatic' or 'Quit being emotional', 'why are you being difficult', 'you make things so hard on me', 'someone else has it worse so stop crying'. - Sxthu / Reddit

Somewhere along the line, we were conditioned into thinking that showing emotion was a sign of weakness. it's time to unlearn that behavior and remind ourselves that it's those very emotions that make us human and guide our moral compass. Children actually act out more when they're denied their own feelings and told to just grow up.

Poking Fun At A Child

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"Making fun of your kid for making a change in their life for the better. I was always anti-social and the complete opposite of athletic. When I began to try and work out to gain some muscle, I got teased by my parents. All that did was discourage me and make me want to quit." Average_jaded_guy / Reddit

Kids at any age will look at their parents for approval and validation. Rather than be shut down, they should be encouraged. If they get made fun of by their own parents, they'll be convinced that everyone else will too.

Skewing The Idea Of Love

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" I think probably the most toxic thing a parent can say to a child is any form of, 'nobody will ever love you as much as I do' or 'I'm the only one who really loves you.' It's the psychological equivalent of a bear trap. Its purpose isn't just to hurt the kid, but to keep them from ever leaving." S_thyrsoidea / Reddit

There's a reason so many of us have commitment issues and a hard time creating and maintaining healthy romantic relationships. Often we don't even understand what the idea of healthy love looks like so we don't know what to look for. By modeling healthy boundaries and giving kids space, instead of telling them that love is conditional and only given freely by parents, we might increase their odds of finding meaningful relationships.

The Worst One Of All

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"I wish you were never born." AmunPharaoh / Reddit

This might be the saddest thing you could ever say to a child. By saying this, no matter the context, you could take away their entire will to live. They will be left thinking that if their own parent doesn't want them, then how could anyone? This statement breaks their entire character and no matter how many times a parent apologizes for it after, the damage has already been done.

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Time Traveller From 2714's Is Warning The World To Prepare For Three Major Dates In Early 2022

A self-proclaimed time traveler’ has found a way to communicate with all the way 2714, aver a thousand years from today, to warn us of major events taking place early in 2022. It's unclear whether his purpose is to help us prevent any of it from happening, or if it is meant to happen anyway and he is simply wanting us to prepare.

It's also unknown whether humankind is happy and safe in his time. Whether you believe this is real or not, you might want to jot these dates down in your calendar just in case! Similar predictions have been made in the past and have come true.

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The Warning Was Given For All Non-Believers

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Naturally, when this time traveler first made a video full of predictions and warnings, it was received with a lot of skepticism. So, in an attempt to prove his authenticity, he's made another video detailing specific dates for early this year. The user under the name @aesthetictimewarper, says that these posts are made in a bid to 'save' humanity.

Some of his most shocking predictions were that of a portal to an alternate universe would be found inside a T. Rex dinosaur egg, and that the mythical sunken city of Atlantis would be found in the Atlantic Ocean. Now they've three more relevant predictions that he hopes people will start taking seriously. He explains; "I have been thought of as a fake time-traveller for too long, so remember these three major dates in early 2022.

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March 11

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The time traveler says that on this day a human will have a child with a chimpanzee for the first time but that's not even the worst part. He predicts that this new species will be able to talk and have mixed features. He doesn't elaborate on whether it will be friendly, dangerous, or whether it will possess any superhuman capabilities thanks to its animal DNA.

It is also currently illegal and ethically wrong to procreate with an animal, so whether this even happens, it might never go public.

April 19

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This might be the worst prediction of all, although it was also predicted by blind mystic Baba Venga. In a world that is still recovering and fighting Covid variants, the time traveler warns that a new Covid strain 'omega' will emerge. However, this strain will be five times worse than all other versions.

The rate that this pandemic has escalated and continues to worsen every time it seems like it's getting better, it's not unlikely that the world will have to gear up to face this variant. It could even take a shape of its becoming its own new lethal virus, such as the one predicted to be uncovered this year in Siberia.

September 17

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On this day the largest creature is predicted to be discovered in the ocean. Allegedly it will go by the name "Cerine Croin" and will be over four times the size of the blue whale. The ocean is big enough that it's possible that we somehow did miss a creature that big. Perhaps it has been in hiding and is resurfacing due to global warming conditions.

Keep in mind that a Google search reveals that Ceirean, Cirein-cròin or cionarain-crò was a large sea monster in Scottish Gaelic folklore. According to their old saying, it was so large that it fed on seven whales. However, many folklore stories are based on passed on true events.

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September 11, 2021

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This isn't their first attempt at trying to convince us that they are from the distant future. Previously they warned that on September 11th, a date that was already significant in history “An alien takes 4,000 skilled workers and children to the planet Proxima B, as a result of another hostile species coming here.”They then follow that up with: “9/14: The largest hurricane in history hits the US East Coast, mainly South Carolina, making it the first Category 6 hurricane.”

While we experienced some hurricanes due to traditional tropical weather, there have been no reports of children kidnapping by aliens, unless that information is being hidden from us. Do with that as you will.

'Time Traveller From 2714' Tells World To Prepare For Three Major Dates In 2022!

So, do you feel better prepared for the year ahead? If you believe in these predictions, you are not alone. The people are divided and while some are convinced, others at least find watching the time traveler's videos to be entertaining.

The video has been viewed more than nine million times since it was shared on December 26.

What's In Store For You In 2022?

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