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Healing From Childhood Trauma Is Difficult But Not Impossible, Here's ​Proof From Real Survivors

We can't deny that the experiences we have as children shape who we become as adults. Not all children are blessed to have stable childhood where both parents are present, nurturing and attentive. Some parents actually are not deserving of the title at all and end up creating completely traumatizing experiences that their children don't know how to let go of, not even as adults.

Yet some survivors of childhood trauma refuse to give up their happiness and their future because of their parents' mistakes. Here is how they broke the cycle.

Thanks To The Right People, At The Right Time, At The Right Place

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"Support from friends who understood what I was going through, some counseling, lots of prayer, and reading that helped me understand the extent of the trauma and my boyfriend who became my fiance, who is now my husband. Get yourself people who are patient and tender and give yourself grace. God knew who I needed and when I needed them." - youcancallmemaggie / Reddit

The first step to letting go of toxic relationships, even if they're your parents is by surrounding yourself with relationships that uplift you. Not only does that balance you out, but it re-educates your view of a healthy relationship and gives you hope.

You Owe Yourself To Unveil The Truth

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"Eventually you want to unveil the truth about what happened to you. That's the final goal. It's because you want to understand why you behave the way that you do. why you react to things (triggers) the way that you do.

All of those things are probably because someone has done those things to you when you were young but you still need to get to the root of it for those things to actually stop. You must see the truth itself completely." - im_always

Facing the shadows of your past and confronting your inner child is just as difficult as it is rewarding, but either way you owe it to yourself to face the truth.

Rewriting Memories, In All Its Senses

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"I have used this same technique to 'rewrite' memories that I felt strong negative feelings about. It did work but I added the step of writing it out with the new ending like I was remembering it. For me writing it down makes it feel real. Also, don't try to 'rewrite' lots of memories in one day. Just stick to one at a time and then give yourself a break.

Another technique I read about was to pretend to go back in time and parent yourself. Instead of trying to attribute new, loving words and actions to emotionally distant past parents, imagine talking to and cuddling and meeting the needs of your younger self. It is very healing to treat yourself with the love you needed and never got." soMuchToFind/ Reddit

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Setting Boundaries, Even Within Yourself

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"I'm on the road to healing, and it's been hard work. The most important things I've learned is how to set boundaries, that I don't have to constantly work and strive and be 100% all the time to prove I'm a worthy human being, that some of the voices in my head should be ignored because they're echos of those who wrong me(and how to tell the difference), that I don't have to grind myself to dust to keep other people from being uncomfortable, that the world doesn't end if I say "no". - LunaKip / Reddit

The hardest part about boundaries is to set them with others we first need to set them within ourselves.

Forgivness Doesn't Mean Forgetting

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"I had to distance myself from my parents and go minimal contact with them. Not being under constant attack gave me the space to reflect, understand them, and ultimately forgive them. I still have flashbacks and low points every now and then, but I give myself a chance to experience the anguish and get it out of my system." - Famous-Excuse-8606 / Reddit

Maybe we don't get to choose our families but despite what others say, we can choose whether or not we keep them in our lives. Just because they're family doesn't mean that they automatically deserve a spot in our lives and just because we love them unconditionally doesn't that we need to stay in constant contact.

Accept Only What Is Within Control

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"I have come to peace with the fact that I cannot do anything about the things that are and were out of my control. I now focus more on how I can improve myself in every aspect of my life and this only applies to things that are in my control." - samisintrouble / Reddit

Energy is scared so think carefully before you spend it. Don't waste it on what you can't control, such as the actions of others, and focus on what is within your reach such as how you react to it and what you do about it.

It's Not A Process That Ever Ends

"Haven't. Still working towards that. I think it will be a constant thing"- HoneyGlazedCarrots

No one wakes up healed from trauma overnight and maybe no one ever truly and fully is able to let go of it. After all, trauma marks you forever. The difference in surviving it, is that the way it shaped you doesn't have to be negative or triggering. It can just be the reason why today you're stronger, wiser, and more connected to yourself and others.

This Is The Case For All Relationships

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In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

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Uplifting

Homeless Man Found Long-Lost Sister After 20 Years, But That Wasn't Even The Miracle

You know what the best part of hardships is? It's the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how dim, or even nonexistent it may seem for a while, it's always there, waiting for you at your destination.

Logan's story didn't see the light for a whole 20 years, which for the young man was a whole lifetime. Yet, he didn't let life's hardest tests get him down and he always held on to the hope of finding that light, till one day he did. He thought reuniting with his lost sister would be the light he was looking for this whole time. Except his sister was already living with her own family at that point...

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Life Was Hard From The Very Beginning

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Logan's hardships started from the day he was born. For whatever reason, his parents didn't feel fit to raise him, so he was put up for adoption when he was just a toddler. Not all kids get lucky and get adopted when they get put in the system.

Unfortunately for Logan, no family wanted to keep him and he was sent from one foster home to the next until he reached the age of 18. Considered an adult, he aged out of the system and had no choice but to become homeless. All he had ever wanted was a family but instead, he grew up his whole life feeling alone.

A Social Worker Who Cared

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Fortunately, all it takes to make a difference in someone's life is finding one person who cares. For Logan, it was his social worker. Once his 11 years in the foster care system were up, Logan's caseworker was determined to find him a good place to live. So far, all his living arrangements had been temporary, and he had never had a place to call home. For a time, Logan even lived in his car.

Looking carefully through his files, they discovered that Logan actually had a biological sister named Shyann who was already living with a good family. The caseworker hoped and prayed that the family would also take an interest in Logan, so she called up Shyan's adoptive mother.

Logan Was Deemed To Be "Toxic"

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The caseworker was hoping Robert and Ara Hunt, Shyanna's parents would welcome Logan but that wasn't the case. The family already had 3 adopted children and they were afraid that Logan would disrupt the dynamic that they had created for their family.

Logan's sister was 12 years old at the time and the family was afraid that her biological homeless brother, who was living in a car, would be toxic to their family. In an interview, tey explained: : “We wanted nothing to do with him. We didn’t know anything about him. We were afraid.”

A Television Segment That Reflected The Truth

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You wouldn't think that television is where you'd find the truth and have your whole perspective changed but that was the case for Logan.

The Hunt family saw a local television segment about Logan's journey out of foster cre and it completely changed their mind on the young man. That piece changed the father Robert Hunt’s mind about the 18-year-old. The father said in an interview: “I was just knocked down. I think I’m a pretty good judge of character, and I saw the good character in him."

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From Tragedy To Blessings

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Up until then, Logan had known nothing but rejection. He told USA Today how the constant rejection that his life made him feel “empty” and “alone," and he felt as though he had “nothing to look forward to.”

Right when Logan thought his life couldn't get worse, he got into a car accident. Yet, he had no idea that this tragedy would turn into a blessing too. Ara went to go visit him in the hospital, and she ended up bringing him home with her. He had no idea another miracle would be waiting for him at her home.

Happily More After

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Logan went back to meet his sister and her newfound family thinking the reunion itself would be his miracle while he recovered from the accident. He believed his stay with the family would be temporary just like all his past ones.

As he bonded with the family, Logan fit right in. It didn't take long before the Hunt family performed a second miracle and decided to start the process of adopting Logan! It was finally Logan's chance to reach the light of the end of the tunnel and become part of a family just like he always wanted.

New Beginnings

Logan's life at almost 20 years old was just starting. After 13 years of temporary living arrangements, he finally found his forever home. It turns out that hope and patience were all he needed and the universe had a plan for him all along.

These kinds of stories can happen to anyone. You might think you're never going to catch a break, but there's a light waiting for you too. Are you still searching for your life purpose? You won't believe what the science of Numerology can reveal about you

The numerology of your birth date, regardless of what month you were born, can reveal surprising information about your personality and that's. a good place to start.

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