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5 Simple Ways To Identify Someone With Hidden Motives

There are definitely some very toxic people in the world, and chances are, you have run into a lot of them.

Some of them may seem friendly at first, but that is just a ruse to beguile you later on to see what else they can get from you. These people have bad intentions.

They do not want to be your friend for the sake of being your friend, Instead they have motives to manipulate you into doing the things that they want you to do.

How exactly can we find these bad intentions in toxic people from the get-go? Some of them are extremely subtle with their intent and can be some of the most amazing liars in the world.

But if you are able to pick up on these warning signs in a person, chances are you've caught them before they could even make a move on you.

1. Tirelessly Needy

Toxic people will often engage in conversations with others only to talk about themselves.

They will make it seem like they are very interested in what's going on in your personal life, but somehow always manage to flip the conversation back to themselves again.

They will relentlessly shower you with how many things they need and all of the things that they want.

This isn't just a general need or want, they will tell you exactly what they need from you or what they want you to do for them. Do not fall prey to this manipulation.

2. Silver Tongue

Toxic people have the tongue of a demon when they want to persuade someone into doing something they want.

For some reason, they have this ability to spin words into a fabricated mess that seems almost too good to be true.

They are some of the most amazing liars, always testing the people around them to see who is worthy of their time.

Do not listen to or let their persuasive words make you do something you really don't want to do. Listen to your own gut and remove yourself from any situation that makes you uncomfortable with that person.

They are going to try and manipulate you further if you don't.

3. One Thing On Their Mind

There is only one thing on their mind and that's getting you to do their bidding. The only reason for them to do any of this to anyone is so they can achieve whatever goal they have planned for that interaction.

You will begin to notice that they talk about the same things over and over again in an attempt to sink the idea into your head that you should help them with whatever it is they are looking for.

Do not oblige. Refuse to give them what they want even if they are a broken record. You can still say no, change the topic, or leave the situation entirely.

4. Have A Bad Feeling?

If a toxic person has just finished talking to you and you feel as if you're misunderstood, irritated, unsure, or just have an extremely bad feeling in general, then you have just witnessed what it's like to fall prey to someone with bad intentions.

These people leave you feeling as if you weren't even heard, like you were just talking to a wall the whole time, that somehow they pulled a fast one on you.

Do not fall victim to these negative feelings; that is what they want you to feel deep inside. They feed off that energy and use it to their advantage.

5. Irregular Eye Contact and Body Language

Even though a liar may have a very hard time looking a person in the eye, they still do their best to demonstrate proper body language as well as eye contact.

For them, this makes them seem like a "normal" human being with normal, good intentions.

This couldn't be further from the truth. If you begin to notice that they have these irregular movements about them, chances are they are going to want to take you for a ride.

Do not let them, look them dead in the eyes, watch their hand movements to see if they cover their mouth or face. Sweating is a good indication, and so is constant blinking.

Hopefully this has helped you proof yourself against toxic people who have some of the worst intentions. If there are other ways that you know how to avoid these kinds of people, please let us know.

Astrology

The Strength Each Zodiac Finds When Grieving A Loss

Grief happens in different stages and there's not necessarily a right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people can't face it right away and keep themselves distracted while others spend the first couple of weeks crying in bed thinking that they'll never feel better.

Grief isn't only felt death. They say that a break up activates the same pain receptors and stress hormones experienced when a loved one dies, so grief is really about any kind of loss for someone or even something like a job that was valued. It can have lasting effects that become traumatic when coping is not eventually dealt with in a healthy way. Luckily, each zodiac sign has character traits that give them a unique strength when dealing with grief. What's yours?

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Aries: Their Straighforwadness

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Aries doesn't care to sugarcoat and avoid the hard truth. They prefer to act in the heat in the moment and cut right down to the chase. You know that when Aries go for a night out, they won't be shy away from their dancing their heart out. They take that same explosive energy wherever they go. When they're grieving, that's all they feel and they let themselves face it head-on until they can come to terms with it.

They may feel a lot of anger at first or a lot of sadness, and they may not deal with that component calmly but having the strength to be straightforward about their grief is what helps them let the feelings pass and move on.

Taurus: An Ability To Escape

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A Taurus likely won't grief right away and try to keep their chin up. They might even try to console others first because the distraction helps them escape. When they're not helping others, they're going to want to disappear for a while, taking themselves on solo dates and watching movie marathons. They'll basically do anything to distract themselves and escape the pain.

However, their ability to escape is also their strength. It gives them a reason to keep going and eases them into adapting to a life without the person they lost gradually.

Gemini: Seeing The Good

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Gemini will do their best to resist their grief. They would rather stay positive to cope. However, the more they avoid what's really on their mind, the more likely they are to be moody. However, when they chose to accept grief, they manage to always find a silver lining.

Their strength is in choosing to celebrate a person's life instead of mourning their death. To them, the end is not a loss because if they never had it in the first place they would have missed out on a lot.

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Cancer: Emotional Intuition

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​Cancers have the ability to be completely in tune with their emotions. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and it's no different when they're grieving. They are not afraid to let themselves cry it out from the second it happens even if they're not sure if they could ever stop.

Cancers' intense emotion is their strength. They're able to manifest them into whatever channel they desire which means that when they get through the painful part, they'll go through the healing with the same intensity.

Leo: Coping Internally

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Leo doesn't feel the need to have a pity party and crying circles. Odds are they won't show their pain publicly but that doesn't mean that they're not dealing with it.

Leo's strength is in coping in the way that feels best to them in the moment, privately. They're not looking to repeat what works for others, they want to find what works for them. They spend a lot of time analyzing exactly what is making them sad and lean deeply into their emotions.

Virgo: Order And Logic

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Virgo can't come easily in terms of loss and death because they can't completely make sense of it. Their need for logic and order and can make them feel completely out of control when grieving. However, it is that same need for control that makes their strength.

Once they get through the initial shock, they ground themselves by creating their how-to guide for coping. They make step by steps lists of how to heal and keep busy with to-do lists meant to help them grieve in orderly ways.

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Libra: Rationality

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When Libra deals with grief, it can become more rational than usual. Libra is able to accept loss and death as unavoidable parts of life so it sees no point in fighting it. Instead, it spends its energy on adapting to a new life without what it is that it lost.

While sometimes Libra takes extreme measures by completely erasing parts of their lives that held the memory of what they lost, their strength is becoming a self-containing equalizer of emotions. Eventually, they even out their grief too.

Scorpio: Manipulation Through Empathy

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​When we hear the word "manipulation" we tend to think of its negative connotation. But manipulation by definition is an ability to purposely mold. For Scorpios, manipulation isn't just getting what they want out of others. When grieving, they're able to manipulate their sadness with intention.

This comes in different forms. For instance, by spending time with animals, children, or loved ones, they're able to manipulate feelings of protection and love that heal both themselves and those around them.

Sagittarius: The Hunt For Happiness

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​Saggitarius is driven by a genuine desire to find happiness. When they're first grieving they may feel lost and helpless as they no longer see a path to happiness.

Yet eventually their ambition kicks in and fuels them with the desire to fight their pain. They don't avoid their emotions and instead try to find ways to turn the negative ones into positive ones and be as happy as possible until they can become fully happy again.

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Capricorn: Maturity

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Capricorn tries to be mature about the way they handle grief, and finds it unhelpful to spend days in bed or to get angry. As an earth sign they feel connected to a higher being and can see the bigger picture.

They understand that loss will hurt for a while but that with time they will get past it, so they do their best to go through the motions until then, each day becoming easier than the last, until they're fully themselves again.

Aquarius: Living Back Memories

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Capricorns don't need external validation and motivation because they find it within themselves. They know the difference between what they can and can't control. They know they can't control a loss but they know that no one can take away the memories they created before they no longer could. So they chose to focus on what they can do.

They keep memories alive through pictures. They reconnect with people from their childhood or they pick up passions they left behind. This way, they connect back with themselves instead of caving to the loss.

Pisces: Just Keeps Swimming

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Pisces just need to be reminded that no matter what happens and how bad it is, the world keeps going and so they need to be able to keep up with it. Usually, they can get to this stage before falling down a spiral. Instead, they chose to lose themselves in ways that feel beautiful to them.

They chose to keep swimming. They indulge in self-care methods like watching movies or spending quality time with others. Their strength is in jump-starting their healing process and their motivation to keep moving forward.

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