3 Simple Ways To Spot A Narcissist
Not everyone has a conscience or the ability to empathize. Harvard psychologist Martha Stout says that 1 in 25 people in the United States are sociopaths. The specialists disagree with the amount or terminology. Most agree that many people have antisocial tendencies but not that many people have sociopathic or psychopathic tendencies.
People with Antisocial Tendencies (AST) or Antisocial Personality Disorder don't empathize with others. This of empathy makes it so they readily manipulate others for their benefit and amusement.
Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths fit within the anti social umbrella. They can mimic emotional content to avoid deduction. They often emotionally manipulate others to get emotional responses and control people.
Difficult to detect, there are small details that can clue you into a person that has this destructive habit. Realize that not everyone that has AST is a social and emotional monster.
Below are the stages that a relationship with someone with AST will look like. Emotional pain and physical pain have the same neural pathways. The engagement they get from manipulating others gives them the semblance of emotions and relation.
Emotional Build Up
They will build up your feelings toward them. Pumping positivity into your life, they can't get enough of you. Your strengths and weakness are explored and applauded. They aim to learn about you and make you dependent on them in some way.
As they learn about you, they will try and fill your every need. They might even try to create a few needs that you didn't have originally. How nice of them.
In order to learn more and make you more dependent you might see them but heads with the people in your life. Or they may quietly remove you from your support systems. Be very careful if someone new in your life is encouraging you to burn bridges in your life.
Devaluing Or Stonewalling
Once they know secrets about you and have emotional knowledge they will start to play games. You will see the most straightforward evidence of this when you are dependent on them.
They will withhold praise, call you names, physically abuse you or use their intimate knowledge to make you feel terrible. They do this so they can 'raise you up' when they want to. They seek control for various reasons.