Narcissists are everywhere you turn in life. You exercise alongside them at the gym, chat with them at the grocery store, worship with them at church, cheer on your kids together at youth sporting events. They radiate qualities you admire and aspire to like confidence, a sense of humor, and the innate ability to know exactly what to say in any given situation.
They always seem to be there to pick you up when you’re feeling down, provide words of confidence when your resolve wavers, and make you laugh when you are taking yourself too seriously.
At the same time, they can also tear you down in ways you never thought possible.
Their methods are deceptive; they find you at your lowest point, offering the support and encouragement you so desperately need. They help to ease your pain.
Then suddenly, everything changes. The same person who went to such lengths to build you up is now exclusively devoted to tearing you down.
And the worst part is that you let it happen. You have learned to not only implicitly trust them, but to use their perceptions of you as the sole litmus test for your self-worth.
They will call you worse names than you ever called yourself even in your darkest moments, and you let them.
You let them stand in front of you and say these horrible things directly to your face because they have somehow convinced you they have the right to do so.