We encounter hundreds of possible friendships and relationships on a near daily basis. Those you come into direct contact with via work or social events are probably more likely to make it into your inner circle, but even a random person you bump into on the street could spark a connection that leads to friendship.
We don’t always make a particularly conscious or deliberate choice to become friends with someone, there are connections that seem to happen simply by coincidence.
When we do realize that we’ve forged something worth continuing however, it is important to take into consideration how beneficial this person might or might not be in our life and vice versa.
When thinking about whether or not your friends or one friend in particular is good or bad for you overall, you may also want to consider the possibility that you may not be the best for them.
Do you have friends who might read this article with you in mind?
1. Sugar-coating and walking on eggshells constantly.
There’s nothing wrong with being reasonably sensitive to a person’s needs.
Any conversation with a friend is worthy of some semblance of tact and respect, but if you find yourself feeling as though you can’t say anything at all without getting a negative or indignant response, this is a problem.
How are you supposed to communicate with someone who requires planning and strategy just to have a pleasant conversation with?
This isn’t healthy for either one of you, because you end up telling a lot of white lies and omitting the truth just to avoid confrontation or drama, and the other person isn’t hearing the truth at all.
Tip-toeing around someone’s feelings too much is not good for them, it only teaches them that their feelings and reactions are someone else’s responsibility.
This will cause them big problems as soon as they end up around somebody who won’t play extra gently with them.