Caring too much is worse than not caring at all. By not setting boundaries and reasonable priorities, you enable others to not grow and weaken yourself. It can go deeper than mere people pleasing. Spiritually and mentally withering away because you gave all your love and resources to another, may seem like a noble suffering.
In truth it isn’t, you fill the need that is supposed to motivate that person to create new resources and means of caring for themselves. Manipulative and aggressive personalities are drawn to people who care too much, painting them as targets.
Remember that there is nothing wrong with caring and its likely deeply rooted in your personality. If you’re looking for personalized answers on why you care to the extent that you do then you’ll want to tap into the what the 4,000-year-old science of Numerology can reveal about you. The numerology of your birth date, regardless of what month you were born, can reveal surprising information about your personality.
You And Your Needs Are Never A Priority
You are the kind of person to make everyone else gets a plate before you serve yourself. This means that you don’t always get a plate of food for yourself.
You constantly make sure everyone around you has what they need to succeed, but never listen to your own needs for success.
You are so busy making sure everyone feels empowered and loved your own needs get pushed to the side. Your own mental and spiritual health can be jeopardized.
It isn’t greedy for you to give yourself priority. If you are starving, you can’t work to feed another person. You have to help yourself and maintain your own health and opportunities to grow.
If you aren’t moving forward and nurturing yourself, you will have limited resources to share with others. To help others YOU MUST HELP YOURSELF.
You Fear The Opinions And Rejections Of Others
You are motivated by the opinions of others. You don’t want to get left behind so you make yourself valuable.
You don’t wish to cross anyone so you keep your opinions to yourself. You don’t take the lead even when it would be better for all involved.
The people who are so selfish and short sighted to only keep around people who are only useful to them are not capable of creating relationships that are lasting.
No matter how helpful you are, you will be replaced eventually, so be genuine and seek out people who truly appreciate you.
Needy, Desperate, Dependent People Are Naturally Attracted To You
People are drawn to what they seek. Needy people know you will be willing to tolerate and feed them attention.
Dependent individuals seek out someone who will provide them a support system.
Basically, you are a magnet for anyone who has not worked to complete their personality. They are not looking to become better people, they want to find a better support structure to protect and feed them.
They will drain and detract resources and energy from you until there is nothing left.
Create boundaries for yourself and make them clear to others. Do not compromise them for anyone.
You have drawn these lines for reasons important to you. It is not fair for anyone to try to compromise your self-respect.
You Are Often Taken For Granted
People walk all over you, take what is yours and disrespect you. People perceive your kindness for weakness.
Distance yourself from insincere, abusive people. You have to feel empowered to grow and flourish. You can’t do this while under someone’s boot.
Create boundaries that you stand by, never compromise your self love or respect and push any one who isn’t productive and genuine from your life.
In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them? Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it’s much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on your date of birth.
For more great relationship advice and tips on how to attain the kind of love you deserve, watch this video from expert, Amy North: Click Here To Watch The Full Video.
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