Little Know Triggers Of Big Signs Of Childhood Trauma

Everything we do, say, or feel as adults is intertwined with years of conditioning as a child. The effects of childhood trauma can last well into adulthood. Trauma can impact future relationships and lead to other issues like depression and low self-esteem. This is because as children, we’re blank slates and each of our new experiences teaches us what to expect of the world and the people in it.

When our needs aren’t met or we face bad experiences we start to build up triggers meant to protect us and warn us if we feel like we’re facing the threat of repeating those experiences. However, those triggers aren’t always known by the mind like they are by the body.

This advice is not to be taken as an assessment or medical advice.

The Slighest Confrontation

As children depending on how we form social interactions with our parents, first authority figures, and even friendships, we develop two types of attachments. If our needs are met and we experience stable social interactions, we form secure attachment styles. When our parents are hot and cold, sometimes loving and affectionate while other times dismissive or aggressive, we form an insecure attachment style.

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An adult with an insecure attachment style often becomes a people pleaser who feels like they have to hustle for love. confrontations are too scary since they trigger their fears of abandonment and rejection.

They would rather hold in their pain than confront the person causing it and if they’re put in any sort of situation where they have to speak or stand up for themselves, they can feel triggered.