THIS Is The Simple Reason Why We Lose Interest In People Who Show Too Much Interest In Us
Have you ever wondered why you always want the things in life that seem unobtainable?
You've undoubtedly experienced the feeling and thoughts of "it's always greener on the other side," but you might not have ever pondered just exactly why you're always chasing after something.
Well, first off, you're not alone. It's human nature to want the very thing that you think you can't have.
In fact, we're wired to want things that we believe are "too good" for us.
There's a reason almost every romantic movie you watch has a dynamic that centers around one person being attracted to another person who they believe is "out of their league."
And it has a lot to do with us believing that love and attraction is the same as being fascinated by someone.
This is exactly why humans tend to show disinterest in those who are incredibly interested in them. It's something that goes against the human nature of wanting the very things we know we cannot have.
We've grown to associate the thrilling ups and disheartening downs of chasing someone's affection with having something worth fighting for.
Because we need to feel that there's something worth fighting for before we believe we want to invest in it.
Those who are seemingly out of reach or unavailable have high value in this regard. Speaking from a biological standpoint, it makes sense that we seek out those who we think are better than us.
That's the point of reproducing: to create a better offspring. Humans have evolved over time to naturally prefer people who are healthy and strong, but also who are emotionally mature enough to be nurturing, protective and loyal.