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5 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Do Differently
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is defined as an aptitude for identifying and managing emotions and the emotions of others.
It consists of three primary skills: the ability to analyze their own emotions and the feelings of those around them, the ability to apply their emotions to tasks, and the ability to take control of their emotions, as well as, the emotions of others.
Whether they're in a social or professional environment, EIs thrive. Studies show they have fewer mental health issues, including depression and anxiety.
They outperform others, excel at their jobs, are happy in their relationships, and consistently work towards achieving positive results in all aspects of life.
How do they do it? Below are 5 things that EIs do differently that you can start doing today!
1. They know how to say no
EIs rely on their strong will-power to say no and mean it. They know the effect a 3rd glass of wine will have on their ability to concentrate on an important project at work the net day.
They know and understand the negative consequences they will face if they blow off their responsibilities to go on a spontaneous weekend trip.
By doing this, they avoid the anxiety that comes from making poor choices. The more EIs rely on their will-power to say no, the more they are able to concentrate on their ambitions and their emotional well-being.
2. They only rely on themselves for happiness
EIs are self-sufficient in all aspects of their lives, including their own happiness.
They know that depending on someone else to make them feel joyful or worthy is to put themselves at risk of disappointment.
Instead, they take their emotions in their own hands and find hobbies that they enjoy, work toward achievements that will lead to a sense of self-worth, and search within for love and acceptance.
3. They don't get caught up in other people's drama
EIs are very empathetic toward everyone they meet.
But, there is a huge difference between being a shoulder to cry on and allowing someone else's drama to influence your own life and emotions.
EIs actively listen, offer assistance and provide gentle, loving, advice. But, they don't allow others' lives and reactions to rule their own.
4. They don't complain
Rarely does an EI complain or play the victim.
Rather, they try to find a solution to the problem at hand and are confident in their ability to do so.
Instead of placing blame, they accept the challenge of finding the solution on their own.
EIs keep their personal disappointments to themselves and find constructive ways of dealing with them – like long walks, yoga or meditation.
5. They don't live in the past
People who live more in their past than in their present are faced with many mental and spiritual challenges ranging from regret to nostalgia.
EIs honor their pasts — the people they have loved, the mistakes they have made, the opportunities they've missed — but, they are well aware of the importance of living in the here and now.
EIs learn from the past, rather than dwell on it, and move forward along their life's path.