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Men Are Opening Up About The Worst Unrealistic Standards Women Hold Them Too

If you look around you, you'll notice that everyone is going with the flow while on the verge of a breakdown. We assume our roles every morning while dragging ourselves through chronic burnout. We're all just trying to catch a break while trying to meet expectations. The reality is the standard set out in society today is unrealistic. We're expected to do more than we can handle.

While men and women experience standards differently it is affecting them both. The only difference is that the male experience isn't often publicized in society because discussing it is often seen as a weakness. So, men have taken to Reddit to vent instead and here's what they had to say.

Everything, All At Once

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"​Being emotional but at the same time hard as a rock, being a provider and giving her a certain kind of lifestyle without being a complete workaholic, and while reading her mind" - ghost882

Historically, men were assumed to be the provider both financially, emotionally, and basically, women depended on them for survival. Women since have grown to find their own independence so how come the expectations of all the roles that men should fill haven't adapted? Men struggle to balance the home and the work, and there are days when they can't do both.

Making The First Move

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"Lots of pressure on us to make the moves: we're still (generally speaking) supposed to ask her out, go for that first kiss with confidence, and take the lead in the bedroom."

It's just as nerve-wracking for a man to make the first move. It requires a lot of vulnerability to face the risk of rejection.

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"Dad Bods" But With Muscles

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"Some women have pretty skewed perceptions when it comes to the male body, and how much work it takes to get there. They say stuff like 'I prefer a natural-looking guy, I don't like too many muscle'" which is fine but then when they show you what they consider 'natural fit" to be and it's still some guy with less than 10% body fat who hits the gym 6 days a week and has crazy diet discipline." - amiuglyornotmate

At the of the day, attraction should be relative and men should feel happy in the body they have and only work towards the one they want. The same applies to women. Let's just be grateful for our bodies and all they can do.

Holding In Feelings

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"It is not socially acceptable for me to outwardly display emotions other than anger, and affection towards a woman."- clearwind

Look at it this way, when boys and men are taught to hold in their feelings as to not show weakness and "man up," what happens instead is that they repress them, then project them in unhealthy ways that end up hurting them and the ones they love. Men are just human beings with all kinds of emotions too. They should be able to break into tears without judgment.

Depending On A Man For Happiness

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"I think women should quit expecting men to be the source of their happiness. Of course, you should want to be happy with your man, but don't expect it to be his full-time job to make you happy. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness in life. If you're not happy, then fix it yourself. Don't just be miserable all the time because he's not catering to your every emotion.

He has his own happiness to work on and when you put your happiness expectancy on his plate, then it overloads him. This is why most relationships fail these days."- JD7684

It takes two whole people to make a soulmate connection, not one and a half. Otherwise, it creates an unequal power with unfair expectations that put a heavy burden on the one responsible for both their happiness and someone else's.

Magic Number 6

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"Earning six figures, six feet high and with a six-pack. Earning six figures is in all U.S states above the average. Having a six-pack... yeah well it at least takes a lot of work (apart from your job). if not even certain genes " -Homely_Bonfire

All of these expectations require not only a lot of work and discipline but opportunities that not everyone has access to. Instead of expecting a man that has them all, it might be more beneficial to work as a team and figure out how you can achieve them together.

Relationships Are Hard Work For Both Men And Women

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In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

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Uplifting

Homeless Man Found Long-Lost Sister After 20 Years, But That Wasn't Even The Miracle

You know what the best part of hardships is? It's the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how dim, or even nonexistent it may seem for a while, it's always there, waiting for you at your destination.

Logan's story didn't see the light for a whole 20 years, which for the young man was a whole lifetime. Yet, he didn't let life's hardest tests get him down and he always held on to the hope of finding that light, till one day he did. He thought reuniting with his lost sister would be the light he was looking for this whole time. Except his sister was already living with her own family at that point...

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Life Was Hard From The Very Beginning

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Logan's hardships started from the day he was born. For whatever reason, his parents didn't feel fit to raise him, so he was put up for adoption when he was just a toddler. Not all kids get lucky and get adopted when they get put in the system.

Unfortunately for Logan, no family wanted to keep him and he was sent from one foster home to the next until he reached the age of 18. Considered an adult, he aged out of the system and had no choice but to become homeless. All he had ever wanted was a family but instead, he grew up his whole life feeling alone.

A Social Worker Who Cared

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Fortunately, all it takes to make a difference in someone's life is finding one person who cares. For Logan, it was his social worker. Once his 11 years in the foster care system were up, Logan's caseworker was determined to find him a good place to live. So far, all his living arrangements had been temporary, and he had never had a place to call home. For a time, Logan even lived in his car.

Looking carefully through his files, they discovered that Logan actually had a biological sister named Shyann who was already living with a good family. The caseworker hoped and prayed that the family would also take an interest in Logan, so she called up Shyan's adoptive mother.

Logan Was Deemed To Be "Toxic"

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The caseworker was hoping Robert and Ara Hunt, Shyanna's parents would welcome Logan but that wasn't the case. The family already had 3 adopted children and they were afraid that Logan would disrupt the dynamic that they had created for their family.

Logan's sister was 12 years old at the time and the family was afraid that her biological homeless brother, who was living in a car, would be toxic to their family. In an interview, tey explained: : “We wanted nothing to do with him. We didn’t know anything about him. We were afraid.”

A Television Segment That Reflected The Truth

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You wouldn't think that television is where you'd find the truth and have your whole perspective changed but that was the case for Logan.

The Hunt family saw a local television segment about Logan's journey out of foster cre and it completely changed their mind on the young man. That piece changed the father Robert Hunt’s mind about the 18-year-old. The father said in an interview: “I was just knocked down. I think I’m a pretty good judge of character, and I saw the good character in him."

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From Tragedy To Blessings

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Up until then, Logan had known nothing but rejection. He told USA Today how the constant rejection that his life made him feel “empty” and “alone," and he felt as though he had “nothing to look forward to.”

Right when Logan thought his life couldn't get worse, he got into a car accident. Yet, he had no idea that this tragedy would turn into a blessing too. Ara went to go visit him in the hospital, and she ended up bringing him home with her. He had no idea another miracle would be waiting for him at her home.

Happily More After

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Logan went back to meet his sister and her newfound family thinking the reunion itself would be his miracle while he recovered from the accident. He believed his stay with the family would be temporary just like all his past ones.

As he bonded with the family, Logan fit right in. It didn't take long before the Hunt family performed a second miracle and decided to start the process of adopting Logan! It was finally Logan's chance to reach the light of the end of the tunnel and become part of a family just like he always wanted.

New Beginnings

Logan's life at almost 20 years old was just starting. After 13 years of temporary living arrangements, he finally found his forever home. It turns out that hope and patience were all he needed and the universe had a plan for him all along.

These kinds of stories can happen to anyone. You might think you're never going to catch a break, but there's a light waiting for you too. Are you still searching for your life purpose? You won't believe what the science of Numerology can reveal about you

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