Learning the gender of your baby, no matter how you choose to do it, is meant to be a joyous celebration. Some do it privately and keep it to themselves, while others still enjoy planning a whole party around the reveal and having everyone learn alongside them.
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People have been filming life's milestones for as long as cameras have been around, even more so once they became smaller, more affordable, and more accessible to the public.
Thanks to the development of smartphones, this is now easier than ever, and with social media it's also easier than ever to share those videos far and wide for loved ones and strangers alike to witness.
With all the joy those videos bring, there's certainly some chaos, too, as not every filmed event goes exactly the way the person who planned it hoped it would.
After a gender reveal video went viral for all the wrong reasons, first-time mom-to-be Alyssa was getting a lot of attention she had not bargained for when first uploading the announcement online.
The video shows the setup for the gender reveal. Alyssa and her husband are standing on the front steps of their home with a half-arch of pink and blue balloons framing them. The walkway up to the stairs is lined on either side with friends and family, everyone holding a confetti canon containing either blue or pink confetti.
The time comes and everyone unleashes their confetti, which happens to be blue. People are cheering, celebrating, and the husband can be seen throwing his hands into the air. What happens next is why this video went so viral in the first place.
A woman immediately rushes out of the crowd and hugs the husband before he even gets the chance to look at his wife, and he hugs back. The wife looks visibly dismayed and disappointed, the video even zooming in while playing a track that repeats 'oh no' in the background so really convey how the wife was feeling.
Who was that woman who rushed forward anyway? According to the comments (which have since been turned off), that was the husband's mother.
People were already appalled at what went down, but the video got another bump in popularity and outrage after a woman by the name of Jessica filmed a reaction to the video, in which she placed herself over the original clip.
She opens with a warning, saying, "Ladies, this is your sign. If he's a mama's boy, if he has a 'boy mom' that's overbearing, and she's already bothering you before the marriage, run."
Jessica then points to the moment when the husband hugged his mom and continued. "Ruined. This woman ruined that moment for the pregnant [wife.]"
After explaining that she originally thought this was maybe a child from a previous marriage, about 12 or so, rushing up to hug her dad in excitement, but only found out in the comments that no, that was his mother.
"She didn't even wait for him to hug his wife. Oh my god."
"Imagine you are this pregnant woman, you went through all this party planning, you set up the gender reveal, you waited. You had to keep yourself from knowing all for this moment with her partner to find out the gender of their baby [to be ruined.]"
Jessica then zooms in further on Alyssa's shocked, upset expression. "Look at her face. She's absolutely devastated. She knows all eyes are on her, all the cameras are on her."
Then, she cuts back to the husband and his mom. "Now, the son is fully embracing his mother. He's not looking at his wife like he knows what just happened is really hurtful to her."
She adds another salient point that only makes this situation worse, "And it's a boy. She's a boy mom, she's going to be a boy grandma."
If the original edit wasn't proof enough, Alyssa was very clearly upset by the situation too, as the caption of the original video read, "Is my MIL having his baby or am I…"
The comments under Jessica's video response were filled with women who were equally as upset about what went down and appalled at the behavior showcased.
"So much time passed between the canon going off and that hug. He absolutely could have hugged his partner in that time," wrote one user.
"It looks like she ruined the video too. The cell phone on the tripod should have been a clue to her MIL," said another.
It's Happened Before
Other commenters were sharing similar experiences they had of dating a 'boy mom' or having an overbearing mother-in-law.
Like the top commenter, who wrote, "Not only is my MIL an overbearing 'boy mom', she was upset that we had a daughter instead of a son."
And another who said, "My ex MIL told everyone we were expecting our first before we even could. I was crushed."
A third, having dated people like this before, shared a wise piece of advice she had learned in the process, "I learned I can't date someone who their family comes first & everything else 2nd. I got tired of being on the back burner."
A Personal Feeling
There were also those being grateful that their own in-laws weren't nearly this bad, and a few people did come to the mother's defense, saying she was allowed to be excited and celebrate her son's first child.
The overwhelming majority still found the entire video to be one giant red flag and felt bad for Alyssa. No matter your opinion on what went down, seeing her face fall is still heartbreaking, and her feelings on the situation are really all that matter.
Making Your Happiness A Priority
Alyssa has since uploaded other videos of her, her husband, and their baby, so clearly this gender reveal mishap didn't cause any long-term problems, but it still raises some questions regarding boundaries.
Setting boundaries with our own families can be extremely tough, let alone the families of our partners. It's easy to feel like you're overreacting or making a big deal out of nothing, but if there's something that causes you any amount of distress, that's reason enough to put your foot down!
When it comes to something that should be your moment, don't let anyone else squander that because they think they've earned a place in it merely by being around. You deserve your celebration in that moment, anyone else can wait.
Of course, that can be easier said than done. If you struggle with confidence issues, setting boundaries can be a real challenge, even feeling impossible at times. If you're tired of feeling unable to assert yourself, then there are tools that can help.