8 Signs Someone Is Trying To Gaslight You
We've covered gas lighting before in previous articles. For a thorough description of gas lighting click here.
It is the broad term that describes how a manipulative personality (normally a narcissist) will try to get to know you then disrupt your inner thought, feelings and convictions. The end goal is to make you dependent on them for everything and use you for their own devices.
The initial period will be marked with a lot of charming attitudes and nice gestures. As they start to gain leverage you will see a darker side. Here are some of the ways to tell that you are being targeting with gas lighting. It's a very tricky way to manipulate someone, you have to be careful who you trust.
The Relationship Between You Two Has changed Dramatically
When they first show up, the narcissist is charming and available. Once they start digging their claws into you, the relationship will take on a noticeably different light. They will be bossier and always trying to push you towards a goal. They will not listen to you to solve your problems or be kind. They will listen to you in order to understand how better to use you.
You've Lost The Urge To Be Heard
Gaslighting is about control and changing the victim's perspective to favor the gas lighters. You may become more invested in the other person's needs more than your own. This lack of expression is most notable around the narcissist, but if that person has a lot of influence and consistent presence then you may forget your own needs and wants all together.