Have you ever been shocked at the sight of somebody you know, becoming seriously distraught over something you feel they probably shouldn’t even have to worry about?
Just about everybody experiences this problem.
Even people with stone-solid composure have to undergo some kind of internal cleanse, to purify themselves of anxiety, hesitation, fear, and things of that nature.
Some individuals have it easier than others, but there are a few unspoken mental exercises or things that people do to keep themselves worry-free.
Here are 5 ways you can avoid ever letting things get to you in life.
1. Comprehend what it is you’re overcoming
First you might want to ask yourself, what is it you’re even trying to overcome? Is it an anxiety feeling in the pit of your stomach when you go out and socialize for no reason other than that you’re talking to other people?
What’s the root of that anxiety, is it concern over how others will perceive you, or is it something that doesn’t even make sense?
Even people who truly don’t fear how others perceive them experience social anxiety, often for no apparent reason. If one looks deep within themselves, they may actually be relieved to realize there’s almost no reason for that anxiety.
Thinking through what is even making you anxious in the first place should help establish a foundation of clarity, an untangled subconscious.
Out from that untangled subconscious, you can take a deep breathe and now get into the stage of anxiety-relief where you really let it go, breathe it out of you and let it go.
Or, persevere through, and make a point to do whatever you were trying to do, even with that anxiety.
2. Once you’ve thought it through, leave it alone
A balance must be struck with just how much an individual is trying to delve into their emotions, reasoning through why they have them, going through it like that.
Sometimes, an excess of analytical thought about one’s own emotions can make it worse.
It’s all about balance. If you’re already conscious of something and it feels in your own intuition, negative for you to focus more on it, you’re probably telling yourself to let it go.
Once you’ve thought through something uncomfortable, sort of a negative thought maybe that persists in your life but it should already be resolved and there’s little more to get through, there may be nothing left to do but just stop thinking about it.
3. Face things head on, cleanse yourself of hesitation constantly
Possibly the most important thing anybody can do when trying to achieve a clear, relaxed and anxiety-free mental state is to constantly exercise facing things head on in life.
When you cleanse yourself of hesitation, and practice fearlessly doing whatever you want to do in life within the bounds of sense and your personal idea of safety of course, it really adds up.
It may take months, or years of adopting this attitude, where you never avoid conflict or run away but simply face it head on, where you never hesitate to do something you wanted to do just because it might give you some anxiety or make you feel a certain way.
However, the end result will be a free, strong and clear state of mind: an untangled subconscious, because people really do get this emotionally tangled, repressed feeling from hesitation, not doing what they wanted to do because of something like anxiety, or a concern over how others will perceive them.
4. Choose to do things anyway
In the same spirit of resilience as the last item on the list, you must choose to do things anyway in life if you want to be free of anxiety.
There are no exceptions: every single thing you hesitate to do in life, every single time where you fear something but internally you really know there is no danger, you have to do it anyway.
There’s a difference between your own gut intuition telling you something is a bad idea, warning you of some genuine danger, and your anxiety causing you to hesitate.
The difference is, if it’s just your anxiety you’ll also know in the back of your mind that you still want to do it.
It leaves a horrible, even psychologically damaging impact on people when they fail to do what they want in life, due to things like fear, anxiety, or pressure from other people.
It depends completely on what the situation is, but make no mistake: repression is harmful to the core.
When you choose to do what you want in life regardless of what anybody thinks of you, regardless of the swirling mix of possibilities that could happen, you could find internal strength that could cleanse you of other emotions and obstacles you didn’t even know you had.
5. Don’t try too hard or force positivity on a situation
A lot of people trying to be okay no matter what make this mistake: they try too hard to be extra positive, cheerful, or optimistic. Doing this the wrong way, for some reason seems to always be a recipe for disaster in life.
Calm, a balance between the positive and less positive attitudes is something that seems to attract a better outcome than trying too hard to be positive. Why?
Well, one reason is, life doesn’t simply make things better if you try to be nothing but positive.
Being positive is a very necessary thing, but when people try to erase problems they actually have to face head on, with a positive attitude, it’s like they’re trying to escape the situation they must feel and learn through.
When lessons are avoided with a supposed positive attitude, or not even existent danger is avoided and people begin to hide behind the curtain of a forced cheerful attitude, well that just defeats the purpose of that attitude in the first place.
Ask yourself: is your positive attitude real, or not? It’s possible to have that great attitude, and be honest with yourself, clear, and willing to face anything in life at the same time.
Do you want to stress less, sleep better, and feel abundantly happier… without drugs or anything crazy?
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