Relationships

6 Parenting Mistakes That Have A Negative Impact On Kids

Making your kids the whole world

Of course as a parent you want your child or children to have a happy life, but by acting like the whole universe revolves around them, you're actually doing them a disservice. Kids in this situation become self-centered and don't focus on the needs of others. They are less likely to be happy and lead meaningful lives.

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Pointing out (often false) negative traits

I formerly tutored middle and high school aged students, and it was remarkable how much self-hate these kids carried with them. One student told me that he could never learn because he was stupid. I asked him why, and he replied "That's what my grandma says." Your kids may disappoint you from time to time, but don't expect the worst from them and belittle them.

Punishing bad behavior and ignoring the good

Bad behavior doesn't often go unnoticed, and it is important to express to your kids the consequences of doing the wrong thing intentionally. But it's important for good behavior to be rewarded. If your child gets an F on an exam, it's totally fair to take away the Game Boy Color (I'm dating myself here) until their grades improve. When the grades are good, acknowledge it! Do something special for them.

Shaming and threatening your children

The things kids do can be frustrating and stressful, there's no doubt about it. You can't ever shame your children though. When children feel ashamed, their personal development is stunted. They feel like they aren't worthy of love, from you or anyone else, and this leads to psychological problems. Likewise, you can't threaten your kids with punishment for things that might be out of their control, like bed wetting or an illness.

Being a friend, not a parent

Kids will go to school and make plenty of friends. What they need from you is a parent. Parents have to discipline children, set expectations and establish boundaries. They don't need a parent who will be their friend.

Ignoring your relationship or marriage to focus on the kids

According to David Code, a therapist and author, "Families centered on children create anxious, exhausted parents and demanding, entitled children." I myself am not some expert on marriage, but Code argues that it's just as important if not more so for you to meet the needs of your spouse and keep your relationship strong.

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Horoscopes

This Week's Horoscope Turns Thoughts Into Action, Here's How Each Zodiac Harnesses Its Energy

November 29- December 5

Brought to you by our friend Kelli Fox at Astrology.TV

There are a lot of constructive vibes around this week, and a whole lot of idealism too. The week begins with a potent Mars-Neptune trine on Monday, which encourages us to put some of our grand ideas into action.

We get back up on this task on Tuesday, with sextiles from the Sun and Mercury to practical Saturn, and from socially facilitating Venus to Neptune. Harnessing these energies means we can move forward constructively as well as find backing from our teams, colleagues, friends, and families.

The weekend may be a different matter, however – the Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius promises shocks in the system, especially related to issues of justice, fairness, or freedom.

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Aries

You know what you want to do to improve the world, Aries, but you've always hesitated to take action on that. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine could be the push you've been waiting for, as you realize that your ideas and ideals can make a difference after all.

Tuesday is a particularly good day for getting moving with this. Get others on board with help from the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and fine-tune your career towards a more altruistic purpose with help from the Venus-Neptune sextile.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse prompts you to expand your horizons. You've been taking too narrow a view of life. Seek new views, learn new philosophies, visit new lands, meet new people. Change comes through many minds working together.

Taurus

This week, you're inspired to create common goals with your partner – or with those closest to you, if you're single – and to work together on something which matters to your soul. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday is particularly inspirational for this.

On Tuesday, the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile grows your confidence, while the Venus-Neptune sextile helps you to get support from your wider network or community for the ideals you're trying to share.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse, however, for some boundary setting. You may have been too forceful in your dealings with others, or perhaps you've allowed others to behave inappropriately with you. That has to stop.

Gemini

Focus on finding ways to improve your efficiency at work, or the ease and comfort in which you can do your job. You have many ideas for how to improve things, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune – some of them are a bit 'far out', perhaps, but it could be that their time has come!

You'll get plenty of backup on Tuesday from your partner, courtesy of a helpful Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile, and you can also expect favorable reactions from authority figures, with the Venus-Neptune sextile helping your persuasive skills.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your love zone – this could bring a shock or revelation about a partner, but it's likely to impact your own personal growth in a positive manner.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Cancer

You've been feeling stifled and restricted recently, and this is the week to work on getting out of that rut. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, you'll feel inspired to travel, to shake up your routines, to learn something new or to otherwise create new avenues of freedom for yourself.

Everyday practicalities that have previously stood in your way may start to dissolve on Tuesday, courtesy of helpful sextiles to Saturn, and you'll also sense that you have the full support of your sweetheart.

Look to Saturday's Solar Eclipse for a significant event or moment that underscores your need to break free – and which gives you the impetus to finally do so.

Leo

Family matters get a dose of healing and compassion this week, especially on Monday when Mars trines Neptune and encourages much better mutual understanding and forgiveness.

This provides a sense of relief and celebration, especially on Tuesday, when the Sun and Mercury sextile Saturn, allowing joy to flow through your relationship, and when Venus sextiles Neptune, freeing up more time for you to spend with your lover.

Saturday's Solar Eclipse occurs in your risk zone and encourages you to take a leap of faith. This is a very good time for treating fears and phobias, and for allowing your emotions to spill out freely – don't hold anything back.

Virgo

There's a real sense of partnership in your relationship this week, with you both working together as a strong team and towards a shared purpose. The lovely Mars-Neptune trine on Monday underscores this and points towards a shared spiritual understanding too.

The Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile on Tuesday shares responsibilities with your loved ones and improves your ability to delegate, while the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day adds a lovely big dose of romance and magic – what's not to love about that?

On Saturday, however, the Solar Eclipse falls in your family zone. You are being asked now to spend more time with your family, prioritizing domestic matters over work. See what you can do to make this happen.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Libra

This is a week when you should start to see financial rewards for all of your recent hard work. The Mars-Neptune trine on Monday activates your money zone as well as your work zone, so keep pushing forwards and following your dreams.

Improved communication on Tuesday will help with getting what you want, boosted by the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn. Meanwhile, family backup is also strong, as mirrored by the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day. People really are on your side.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday challenges you to keep an open mind about a controversial subject; try to avoid speaking out on topics where you don't really know much about the background. Use it as an opportunity to learn.

Scorpio

You've known for some time that you need to focus more on the joy in your life – Monday's Mars-Neptune trine will help you do just that. Your priority this week should be things that make you smile, laugh, feel alive and feel vibrant.

You may have the opportunity to do something special on Tuesday, when the Sun/Mercury sextile to Saturn gives a financial push, and the Venus-Neptune sextile hints at magical experiences. Say yes to whatever life offers.

The Solar Eclipse on Saturday occurs in your money zone and may hold some shocks and surprises if you have been reckless with your finances. Pay attention to your personal security around this time too, and don't take chances.

Sagittarius

This is a very spiritual week for you, Sagittarius, and on Monday especially you will feel drawn to meditation, divination, psychic insights, mediumship and past life regression. As Mars trines Neptune, all of these things have much wisdom to offer you.

You'll want to learn too, and Tuesday's Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile gives you the opportunity to do so. As Venus sextiles Neptune the same day, you may also find a way to earn money through your spiritual gifts, although you should be careful to maintain the highest of intentions.

The Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius on Saturday is a significant moment for you, and it speaks to your very identity and the way you choose to move forward in life. You have some important decisions to make.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Capricorn

Friendships are set to be important this week, and you will especially love meeting new people who gel with you intellectually. When Mars trines Neptune on Monday, it's also a good time for meeting people who can work with you towards a common cause, whether that's political, charitable or local.

There's a spiritual element to your group interactions too, most likely on Tuesday when the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile shows how you share values with other like-minded souls and the Venus-Neptune sextile activates the spiritual elements of your identity.

It's perhaps unsurprising then that the Solar Eclipse on Saturday in your spiritual zone may mark a turning point in your spiritual understanding. Open your heart and mind to new possibilities.

Aquarius

Give your ambitions free reign this week, because the cosmic vibes are lining up to support your success. On Monday, the Mars-Neptune trine is very promising, particularly if you want to work in a creative or artistic field, or if financial rewards for your efforts have been a long time coming.

On Tuesday you should find that the Sun/Mercury-Saturn sextile provides strong support from friends or your work-based team and the Venus-Neptune sextile the same day highlights money coming in from an imaginative or unusual direction.

The Solar Eclipse, however, occurs in your community zone on Saturday. Try to blend your very reasonable desire for material success with your deeper humanitarian desire for a better society. How can you work towards both these goals? There is a way.

Pisces

New experiences beckon this week if you can step out of your comfort zone. Look to the Mars-Neptune trine on Monday to provide you with the confidence you need. Anything involving travel or outdoor adventure will be particularly good at showing you what you can do.

Sextiles from the Sun/Mercury to Saturn and to Neptune from Venus also play their part on Tuesday, giving you support and encouragement from friends and loved ones and reminding you that you're much more capable than you think.

Indeed, the Solar Eclipse in your status zone on Saturday may bring about a mini-crisis of some kind that puts you in the spotlight – but this will serve to teach you that you are a strong, capable individual, who does not need to fear anything. Go for it!

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