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The Four Facial Traits That Make The Most Attractive People

Researchers keep on trying to unlock the million-dollar question: what makes a person the most beautiful? The media keeps on changing the women they show as most beautiful and we keep on changing our appearance and fashion in an attempt to keep up. But the question is, do we actually ever actually "feel" beautiful?"

Does it truly come down to a science, where certain traits deem a person most attractive or is beauty relative like they say? Let's find out!

The More Symmetry The Better

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​Many experimental studies have shown that men and women both prefer faces that are more symmetrical. They even came up with ratios and masks that can measure the level of symmetry in a face, and by extension its beauty. Even monkeys have been noticed gazing longer at symmetrical faces.

But why? Well, science doesn't seem to have gotten that far. It could have something to do with evolution and our brains tricking themselves into thinking that a symmetrical face must be a sign of good health. Maybe we associate good genes with the more successful development of a facial structure.

Having "Babyface" Features

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​The idea of the fountain of youth didn't come out of anywhere. There is a belief that people are at their most beautiful in the prime of their youth, where they've grown enough to have adult features, but haven't experienced enough to lose their innocence and be affected by the environment.

From this idea, came the "baby face", where large eyes, long lashes, a cute little nose, a small chin, plump lips, and rosy cheeks are desirable. These traits can either describe a baby or a supermodel but the idea is that they reflect feelings of warmth, trust and won't argue back.

The More Average, The More Relatable

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People are actually attracted to faces that appear distinctly average. Yes, the more you look like the general population, the more attractive you can come off, which just seems ironic.

The reason some studies made this conclusion, is that teh more average a face is, the more they likely are to be a blend of genes A study, published in the journal Human Nature said that average faces might be a reflection of a more diverse set of genes, which we might subconsciously consider as stronger in fighting off illnesses.

Something About Getting Older

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Maybe women seem more attractive with baby faces but forget about youth when it comes to women's attraction to men. Women might actually end up being more attracted to men who look older according to a study.

This idea is still evolving and has something to do with women finally having a place in the workforce. The more financially independent they become, the more they like older guys, according to the study. They even named this the "George Clooney Effect" which showed women that the more patient they are, the better their chances at finding a man has more status and resources due to being older.

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Familiar Faces Per Genetics

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Ask yourself how you feel when you meet someone who looks like someone else you love? You probably automatically take a liking to them just because they seem familiar, even if you've truly never met them before. You might even just trust them right away. In the same way, the more familiar a person might feel, the more we could be attracted to them.

Another study found that the faces we are attracted to are heavily influenced by our personal experiences in life, and probably nothing more. This theory says it's not because of genetics as even twins couldn't agree on who they found attractive. It just depends on who you meet and look at throughout your life and the experiences you associate with them.

Basically You Can't Win

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Well, it turns out, even when you try to with science, you really can't define beauty. Some people are attracted to babyfaces, while some can't help but be drawn to older ones. Some people's brains attach symmetry with good health while others just want an average-looking face to continue their genes. So the message is, beauty is relative after all. I am beautiful and you are beautiful and everyone will be most attractive to someone.

Rather than focus on looks, focus on the person on the inside. You're here for a reason. This is your sign to get to know yourself better and unleash your potential.

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The Destructive Mind Games Toxic People Love To Play

Don't be Fooled Into Thinking You're The Exception

Mind games are the most destructive of all manipulation tactics. They have the power to completely destroy a person from the inside out. By the end, that person has no sense of worth, confidence, purpose or direction. They become co-dependent on the relationship of the very same toxic person who shattered them through mind games.

Don't be their next victim. Power is knowledge. If you can recognize the signs then no toxic person will ever be able to destroy you.

A Hunger for Control

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Toxic people can't live without feeling in control, it's basically like food to them so they will hunt for it at any cost. It usually is gradual, like at first, they'll want to choose what you eat for dinner and at what time then the next thing you know they have a say about what you wear and what job you should take.

They're just hungry for power and they need to feel like they will always have the last word. To do so, they'll find ways to "punish" you when you don't give them what they want such as by shutting you out or making you feel like your decision-making skills are nonexistent.

The Guilt Trip Game

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This is another game that is all about power dynamics. Toxic people need you to feel inferior so that you're easier to manipulate and so that they could feed their ego. Ironically, toxic people are great at playing the victim. They might even cry in front of you to get you to feel bad for them and be the one to apologize.

They want you to feel like they would be lost without you so that you feel too guilty to leave them. They think that by always guilting you, you'll cave and they'll never actually need to take accountability.

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The Constant Critique

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Toxic people will use critiques to shame you about being the person that you are and eventually bring you down. They'll slowly take away anything that makes you feel good so that you feel like you have nothing but them. They'll tell you that you're not good enough and should just be happy with what you have.

They'll critique the way you look and do things so that you need constant validation. They'll make it so that you start to believe that their opinion is the only one that matters, even above your own.

The Feeling Denial, Or Gaslighting

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Toxic people will completely deny you your own feelings and recollections so that they get rid of any guilt or need to apologize. Instead, they'll tell you that you're too sensitive and can't take a joke. They'll make you feel dumb for not understanding what they actually "meant". They'll disqualify you by retelling a completely new version of events that makes you question your own memories.

Really what happened is that they insulted you and you called them out, but they couldn't handle it. Sometimes it's because they can't even confront themselves and accept that they're being a terrible person.

The Bait And Switch Blame Game

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You'll know you're in a bait and switch game when you've been arguing about something that's upsetting you, and rightfully so, then all a sudden you're defending yourself for something completely irrelevant. Turning the tables on you like that is a deflection method that puts you in the hot seat instead and takes the spotlight away from them.

Their reaction to what you did three years ago may even be more extreme than whatever it is that you initially had brought up, just to cancel you out. All the sudden everything is your fault, again.

The Rollercoaster Game

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Katy Perry made a song about it once singing "you're hot then you're cold, you're yes, then you're no" and she probably had no idea that she was describing the epitome of a toxic relationship. Healthy relationships shouldn't be filled with ups and downs, they should be constant. While arguments are normal and even sometimes necessary, the way they're handled should be calm and they should be solved through effective communication.

Blow-ups that turn into screaming matches, then are followed by intense makeup sessions are signs of toxic manipulation. Be wary of a person who can change their behavior in a matter of minutes, without warning. This is a mind game that makes you constantly walk on eggshells and monitor your behavior.

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Grown Adults Share The Most Toxic Things Their Parents Told Them As Children, And It's Unsettling

Let's face it, parents are not the superheroes we once thought they were. The older we get, the more we realize that parents are just human beings who made a lot of mistakes along the way. The only difference is that some parents went out of their way to try to never repeat those mistakes, while some got stuck in toxic patterns that hurt their children in unsettling ways.

These children have now grown into adults who struggle but are aware of the root of their issues. They have come together on Reddit to share the things that parents told them that broke them, in hopes of saving the next child.

Unfair Compairaisons

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"My drunken father once told me, 'You'll never be the man that I am.' I remember thinking, 'You're damn right I won't be.'"- p38-lightning/ Reddit

The sad truth is that while some thrive to be just like their parents, once wishing they will grow up to follow in their footsteps, some of us actually make it our life goal to be everything they were not. Ultimately, the hope for every parent should be for their children to be better than they ever could be and to have everything that they did not.

Gaslighting

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"'It's all in your head/you are just imagining it.' As it turned out, I wasn't imagining it and now I struggle to differentiate between what's real and what's not because I was led to believe I was imagining things constantly." - Missing_Maestos/ Reddit

When we think of gaslighting, we often picture romantic relationships but the reality is that this victim-blaming mentality is actually a manipulation tactic that is used in any kind of relationship. Even parents turn the tables on their own children when it's too difficult for them to take accountability and admit their own mistakes. They think that by dismissing it, it'll just go away but what it really does is confuse the child about reality.

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Unfair Blaming

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"You're the reason why your dad and I almost divorced." - 3_angels / Reddit

It's never the child's fault for having been born. It's not like we chose when to come into existence and into which family. It's completely unfair when a parent blames their kid for any of their problems because it's actually their responsibility to figure it out. If they didn't think their relationship could handle it, then maybe they shouldn't have had a kid in the first place.

Guilt Tripping

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"'So you're saying that I'm a bad parent' in response to any form of help-seeking or constructive criticism was the worst for me." - Derpchieftain / Reddit

Parents need to accept that they're not perfect. What kind of example are they setting for their children when they refuse to accept their own flaws and mistakes just because it's their own kid who points it out? Rather than teach them that they should follow authority blindly, parents should show their kids that it's okay to admit a wrong, learn from it and move forward

Negating Feelings

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"'You're being dramatic' or 'Quit being emotional', 'why are you being difficult', 'you make things so hard on me', 'someone else has it worse so stop crying'. - Sxthu / Reddit

Somewhere along the line, we were conditioned into thinking that showing emotion was a sign of weakness. it's time to unlearn that behavior and remind ourselves that it's those very emotions that make us human and guide our moral compass. Children actually act out more when they're denied their own feelings and told to just grow up.

Poking Fun At A Child

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"Making fun of your kid for making a change in their life for the better. I was always anti-social and the complete opposite of athletic. When I began to try and work out to gain some muscle, I got teased by my parents. All that did was discourage me and make me want to quit." Average_jaded_guy / Reddit

Kids at any age will look at their parents for approval and validation. Rather than be shut down, they should be encouraged. If they get made fun of by their own parents, they'll be convinced that everyone else will too.

Skewing The Idea Of Love

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" I think probably the most toxic thing a parent can say to a child is any form of, 'nobody will ever love you as much as I do' or 'I'm the only one who really loves you.' It's the psychological equivalent of a bear trap. Its purpose isn't just to hurt the kid, but to keep them from ever leaving." S_thyrsoidea / Reddit

There's a reason so many of us have commitment issues and a hard time creating and maintaining healthy romantic relationships. Often we don't even understand what the idea of healthy love looks like so we don't know what to look for. By modeling healthy boundaries and giving kids space, instead of telling them that love is conditional and only given freely by parents, we might increase their odds of finding meaningful relationships.

The Worst One Of All

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"I wish you were never born." AmunPharaoh / Reddit

This might be the saddest thing you could ever say to a child. By saying this, no matter the context, you could take away their entire will to live. They will be left thinking that if their own parent doesn't want them, then how could anyone? This statement breaks their entire character and no matter how many times a parent apologizes for it after, the damage has already been done.

Find Out How To Break The Cycle

We don't blame you for being frustrated with dating and wanting to stick with what's comfortable but if you're struggling to find and keep a healthy relationship because of your upbringing click here to find out how to break the cycle.

For more great relationship advice and tips on how to attain the kind of love you deserve, watch this video from expert, Amy North: Click Here To Watch The Full Video.