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Five Types Of Toxic Mothers Who Leave Invisible Scars On Their  Daughters

Not all scars are visible. Some hide deep inside, to the point where we might not even realize we have them till we suddenly feel their pain. We wonder why we are the way we are, unable to let ourselves be loved, or even unable to love in the capacity that we know we can. We realize that we're just protecting ourselves.

The way a mother loves their child will dictate the way that the child defines and understands love. This becomes their first contact with the concept and once they form it, whether it's good or bad, it can be really hard to change it as an adult. Here's how.

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The Controlling Mother

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​For some mothers, it was impossible to accept that mother does not know best simply because she is a mother. Yet, she used this statement over and over again to assert her word. It was her way or the highway and this meant a series of endless rules, many of which were a reflection of her own insecurities.

She convinced herself that she was protecting you and acting out of love but instead she made you resent her for never saying yes, for never trusting you, for never giving you the opportunity to experience the world and learn for yourself. She even at times tried to control your feelings in her complete refusal to recognize you as an independent person. Rather she saw you as an extension of herself and used that to justify why you must always do as she asks.

The Narcissistic Mother

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This mother somehow always found a way to make everything about herself. When you cried, she complained that you were tiring her out. When you needed a ride, she made sure you understood how much of an inconvenience you were to her. Even when you excelled, she pointed out that it was actually all thanks to her and what she provided for you. She was too busy worrying about herself that she never really got to know you.

Ironically, everyone else thought she was the perfect mother because that's how she made it look on the outside. Your feelings were always dismissed because she made others envious of appearances. She cared more about how others saw you than how you did.

The Mother Who Used You As Her Only Means Of Happiness

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No child should bear the burden of being their mother's only source of joy and pride. It is too much pressure to have the person you depend on, depend on you for their own selfish needs. This mother made her whole world revolve around her kid. There was no such thing as boundaries. She constantly needed attention and smothered you with hers.

There were times the roles were reversed and she was the one needing you to mother her, forcing you to grow up long before you were due. She did not know how to let you go and got angry at you for not reciprocating her emotional needs. She drained you and distorted your definition of love.

The Impossible To Please Mother

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​For this mother, nothing was good enough. No matter the achievement you proudly presented to her, it was downplayed and just expected. She saw how hard you worked but she never rewarded you for it. She thought that she was pushing you and that her tough love would motivate you to work even harder to really impress her but instead, you grew up thinking that you would never be good enough, not to her and not anyone.

Even when you tried to show her how much you love her, hoping she would show it back, she took it for granted and ignored your efforts. Children are programmed to need the approval of their mothers, and as an adult, you often still crave it simply because you never got it.

The Physically Present But Absent Minded Mother

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This mother was there all along, but she was never truly accessible. She was so caught up in her own world, maybe even her own pain that she failed to see how much you needed for her affection. She was emotionally distant making you feel like anything and everything was more of a priority than connecting with you. She often gave you fancy gifts as if they would make up for her lack of empathy.

As a child, you were confused, unable to understand your purpose in the world if your own mother could not give you the time of day. You might have even rebelled in an effort to get her attention, but it only drove her further away. Till this day you wonder how to be seen.

Are You Still Searching For Your Purpose

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Don't let the way your mother saw you, define you. After all she was just human.Who you are and you become is entirely up to you. In fact, it may be influenced by something much bigger than you. You won't believe what the science of Numerology can reveal about you.

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Here's How Spending The Holiday Season Alone Doesn't Have To Be Sad

There are many reasons why a person could be spending the holiday season alone and there's nothing wrong with that. Some might be intentionally choosing to finally find a moment for peace and quiet and avoid the usual family drama. Others didn't choose their solitude but had no choice for various circumstances weighing on them. Whatever the reason, this supposed most wonderful time of the year isn't just joyful because of others. Those who have experienced spending the holidays alone have found ways to not be sad, and even prefer it. Here's how they do it.

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Treat Yourself

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"I've spent many holidays alone and this is what I always do. I like to cook so I still cook a holiday meal, but if you're not into cooking then maybe splurge on a restaurant you wouldn't normally go to alone. It's all take out now anyway. Decorate your house, if that's your thing. Or go for a quiet walk around the city, a hike, a bike ride, whatever it is you like to do. Or go to a store and buy something like a Lego set, a puzzle, a craft kit, etc and while away the hours that way" - saladada / Reddit

You don't need to spend a lot. The point is to make the day feel special in a way that speaks to you and gives you happiness.

Embrace The Pause On Noise

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"I was stuck all alone at Christmas one year in college. It sucked, far from home, and unable to go home. I didn't really have the means to do anything exciting but very much enjoyed the quietude when I wasn't thinking about the holiday. I took long walks in the snow and enjoyed how quiet our college campus was when nobody was around. It was almost eery, but not a normal way to see campus so neat at the same time." - KiniShakenBake / Reddit

When else is everyone too busy to check their phones, work or need favors and will leave you alone? When else are all the stores closed and the streets are empty? The noise will be on hold and it's your chance to enjoy the stillness.

Make Yourself Productive

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"I'm planning to work on some DIY projects around the house. Build out the closet organization shelving/system, clear out the garage, hopefully, catch up on some clearing some brush, replace the last light switches and LED integrated recessed lights... Probably will play some Taylor swift/ 80's glam rock while carrying the projects." - davos180 / Reddit

If sitting back and relaxing is not for you, then make yourself productive. You'll not only feel accomplished but you'll have your project results as your reward, like a gift to yourself.

Remember That It's Just Another Day

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"I've spent a few holidays alone and the key to making it less sad is to make it special in some way. Treating it like any other day and waiting for it to be over will just make the time pass slowly and miserably. Try preparing a holiday meal or doing other holiday rituals, like decorating cookies or watching holiday movies, to make the day special. The time will pass faster and you'll enjoy yourself more." - majesticpheasant / Reddit

It's okay if you can't shake off sadness if you wish you weren't alone, or are especially missing someone this year. Just remember that in reality, the holidays come down to just one day, that even those who are together for a meal are not necessarily much happier than you are.

Find A Way To Give Back

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" Donate time, food, or money to a local charity. Food banks are predicting a massive need this holiday season and if you can spare anything at all you'll be helping them and others.

Or reach out to your local elementary schools and ask them about a toy giving charity for their students. Usually, they have something going on or a community partnership, and picking out toys for kids is fun. And you get to know you're making a kid's holiday a little brighter." saladada / Reddit

No matter your situation, there's likely someone in a less fortunate one. Finding a way to make their holiday better will not only bring them joy but also give you purpose.

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Be Careful Of These 5 Simple Phrases People Use To Manipulate You

People who have mastered the art of manipulation are some of the most elaborate story weavers, "misdirection's", evasive, and annoying people in the entire world. They know just what to say, how to say it, who to say it to, and what to do with them afterwards all in order to get what they want. These people have little to no concern for people's feelings or their lives altogether.

You are but a minor inconvenience for the thing that they want most out of you. Just so you know what to look for when it comes to dealing with a manipulative person, you should be aware of these common misdirections that they give people once they have set their eye's on something they want.

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"Don't Overreact"

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Often times a manipulative person will tell you that you are overreacting to what they want from you. They will try to play it off as if they weren't asking anything from you at all.

Most of the time they will overreact themselves if you continue to deny them whatever it is they are looking for. Do not give in, you are not overreacting, they simply want to see you cave in to their needs.

"Don't Be Dramatic"

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Following up with saying not to overreact, they will tell you to not be dramatic at them. Unfortunately, this scenario is already dramatic with them prying whatever information they can from you.

It is important that you see them as being the dramatic ones and do not pander to their little manipulative games.

"Don't Be So Sensitive"

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Just by saying this, this person is already demonstrating that they do not care for your feelings for the situation. Regardless of whatever it is they are asking and you are not comfortable with it, you do not have to explain to them why you feel the way you do.

You do not have to entertain someone who isn't going to care whether you help them or not. Your feelings are more than valid and if they say not to help this person, then you shouldn't indulge.

"Don't Be Crazy"

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If this person truly has the audacity to call you crazy or say don't be crazy after you say no to them, then you will want to address this immediately. Do not give into their games no matter what they try to tell you or how you're acting.

If you being "crazy" is a rational response to their wants or needs, then there is probably a good reason why you're feeling that way. You are not crazy, you are thinking clearly more than ever. If anyone should be claimed crazy it is them.

"Don't Misunderstand Me"

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Often times the manipulator will resort to saying this final sentence of "do not misunderstand my intentions." Unfortunately, there is no other way to interpret the things that they want from you.

They have already misunderstood you when it comes to your wants and needs by harassing you for something for their own personal gain.

You have not misunderstood anything at all. You do not owe this person a single thing. Not even the time that you are spending with them at this present moment.

If you are living a life with a person who often manipulates you or others, you may have to address this toxic behavior and then remove yourself from their presence entirely.

There are no compromises, there is no talking it through, there is no coming to an understanding, and if they really want these things from you that badly, they are going to have to go find it from someone else.

Break The Cycle With Awareness

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We don't blame you for being frustrated with dating and wanting to stick with what's comfortable but if you're struggling to find and keep a quality relationship click here to find out how to break the cycle. Remember that love is more than just kisses and butterflies,. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.

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