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5 Red Flags You’re In A Relationship With A Cheater

When you're falling for someone, or in a steady relationship, you want to assume the best. But you don't want to be blind-sided if things come crashing down. With the world of social media, it's easier than ever to cheat - both physically and emotionally.

Without assuming the worst, it can be helpful to recognize potential signs that you're with a cheater. Here are 5 red flags that you're with a cheater:

1. They don't make an effort in the relationship.

They put little effort into growing or deepening your relationship. They may even struggle to maintain your relationship.

They don't say "I love you" often. They don't show affection much. They may give you a quick kiss as they run out the door, but they avoid eye contact and non-sexual intimacy.

Not putting forth effort in a relationship is typically an issue, but it doesn't always mean that person is cheating. However, it is a red flag and it is a behavior associated with cheating.

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2. They don't allow for quality time.

When spending time with one another, they're never fully present. They don't allow for quality time with you and may act distracted.

It can be as simple as scrolling through their phone while watching a show with you, or texting someone else while at dinner with you.

Phone use is a common distraction, but they may be distracted in other ways too. They may just have their head in another place, thinking of other things and obviously not present with you.

If they're not being present or allowing for quality time, you'll know. It doesn't necessarily mean they're cheating, but it's a common behavior among those who are.

3. They talk about others - a lot.

They regularly bring up a certain someone, whether that be a co -worker or friend. Their relationship may seem a bit flirtatious, but they swear there's nothing to it. No matter what comes up, they claim it's totally platonic.

They may even try and justify inappropriate behavior, like late-night texting or confiding personal information, by saying they're just a friend. And yet, they keep bringing that person back up.

If you've got a gut feeling about it, there's a good chance you're right.

4. They're secretive with their phone.

They don't allow you to know their passcode or use their phone. If you do have to use their phone for some reason, they go through it first and make sure it's "ok" before handing it off to you.

They may even give you their passcode for something, but change it as soon as you hand it back. It gives you a false sense of trust, and they hope you won't get suspicious since they handed their phone and passcode off that one time, no questions asked.

Despite being secretive with their own phone, they may have the desire to go through yours. They may expect to have your passcode, and if you don't care, they may browse your search history, messages, texts, and DMs, to make sure you're not cheating. It's a form of projecting their own guilt onto you and prevents privacy and trust from forming in the relationship.

5. You're regularly excluded from plans.

They regularly make plans without you. They may have late nights with friends, where you're not invited. Or, they may go to work events, parties, or trips and not offer to bring you along.

You may have not even met their friends or co-workers, despite them spending a lot of time with them.

It's normal and healthy to have friendships and make plans without one another, but they do it to an extent that goes beyond healthy.

It may feel like they don't like to do stuff with your or include you in anything. Or, they may even try to "hide" you from their friends. It's a lot easier to cheat if their friends don't know much about you. You two could be on a "break" for all they know, since you're never around.

What to do if you think you're with a cheater?

How to move forward if you think your partner is cheating, is entirely personal to you. It can be an emotional time, so taking a moment to pause and reflect, or seeking help from an outside source like a therapist, may help you to move forward with ease.

You may want to try and salvage the relationship, or move on gracefully. Whatever you choose to do, do it with a heart full of love and a mind open to new possibilities.

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6 Subtle Signs You’ve Found Your Soulmate

Falling in love is exciting, beautiful, and such a joyous time. But it's even better when you're falling in love with your one and only - your soulmate.

It's no secret that you might endure a few relationships before meeting "the one." Dating can be a whirlwind of emotions when you're unsure of or doubting the person you're with.

You may wish there was a crystal ball or tarot reading that would tell you, without a doubt, who your soulmate really is. Is it the person you're currently with? Is it your best friend from childhood? Are they still out there, waiting for you to find one another?

While there is no clear-cut guide or answer, there are some subtle signs that happen when you do find your soulmate. Here are 6 signs you've found "the one" - your soulmate:

1. They hold you accountable.

They hold you accountable to continuous growth and self-improvement. They don't hold you back from your goals and desires. Rather, they push you to be the best version of yourself possible.

If there's something you really want in life, they won't let you give up. They gently remind you when you need a nudge, and cheer from the sidelines when you're on a roll.

If you're with someone who doesn't value your goals or growth, it's time to reevaluate if that's the person you want to continue on with.

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2. They're proud of you.

They take pride in both your relationship and just who you are as a person.

They deeply admire who you are and what you stand for. You don't have to wonder if they like you, they make it clear that they do. And beyond that, they're proud of the person you're growing into.

They're comfortable taking you around family and friends, and their family and friends know of that pride they hold for you - because they won't stop talking about how great you are.

While you don't need outside affirmation to believe in yourself, if you're with someone who takes zero pride in the relationship or in yourself, or if you're with someone who tries to hide you from their loved ones, they're probably not your soulmate.

3. They make you a priority.

They recognize and value how important it is to upkeep and prioritize you and your relationship. They dedicate time to learning to better communicate with you and to work on your relationship, partnership, and friendship.

Because you're a priority to them, they include you in decision making and consciously work to live in harmony with you.

4. They see you.

They see you as the bigger picture of who you are, and the smaller side of you. They notice the little things you do, the tiny bits of your personality that shine through - and they love and appreciate every bit of them.

When they look at you, they don't just see your outer, physical self. They see the deepest parts of your soul. They truly see you, on a spiritual level. And you can feel that.

5. They love the people that you love.

Your people become their people. Just like they love and value you, they also hold love and appreciation for the people that you love and value.

They make an effort to build relationships with your friends and family. They value you the relationships that you hold dearest to you and aim to nurture those with you, rather than cause conflict.

If you're with someone who tries to drive a wedge between you and a loved one, that may be a sign you're in the wrong relationship.

6. They deeply trust you.

They trust you with the deepest, scariest parts of themselves. And they hold space for you to trust them in return. They trust you to be honest, open, and hold them accountable.

They may ask your opinion frequently because they trust your judgement and care about your thoughts. They know that their whole being is safe with you. And you feel the same way.

Cultivating a Soulmate Connection

Finding true love in the form of a soulmate is priceless. But it doesn't always happen in the timing or way that we want.

Regardless of where you're at in your relationship journey, cultivating a deep soulmate connection requires you hold space to be open, honest, and communicate freely.

If you're unhappy with your current or past relationships, it may be the time to take a pause, reflect inward, and focus on personal self-growth and development. You never know what may come of stopping the soulmate search and turning inwards.

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6 Subtle Signs A Narcissist Is Manipulating You

Narcissists are dangerous to those around them. They have inflated egos, lack empathy, and know how to manipulate people and get what they want. It can be hard to know if you're actually being manipulated by a narcissist though.

The tactics they use may be hard to detect, and they often break down your self-esteem and self-trust to the point where you can't trust your own instincts or judgement.

The manipulation often starts slowly, like cold water heating up to a boil. You may not even start to question if the water is getting hot until it's too late and you're starting to simmer.

Narcissists thrive on control and they manipulate relationships to ensure they have and maintain control the whole time. Despite having a personality disorder, they are extremely good at what they do and even the most diligent people can fall victim.

It's important to recognize the warning signs of being manipulated so you can hopefully spot it early on and avoid long-term turmoil. Here are 6 subtle signs a narcissist is manipulating you:

1. They're overly aggressive.

They may use physical aggression to express their anger. It could start at small and subtle, like a gentle shove, a soft hit, or a small kick. They may even do something as simple as hold your wrist while you're trying to walk away, and refuse to let you go.

They may direct their physical aggression to the house, pet, or environment. They might shatter a plate, punch the wall, or kick the dog.

If things have gone on for long, the physical aggression may escalate and leave you fearful. Even if they never truly "hurt" you, they can use your fear to control you.

2. They put you down.

While they may act like they support you and want to lift you up, they'll slowly start to incorporate negative comments that put you down.

If you got a promotion at work, they may say something like, "Oh, with how long you've been at the company I thought you'd be above that already." Or, if you worked hard to lose 10lbs, they may say, "Wow, how much do you have to lose until it's noticeable?"

The comments may be subtle and not downright negative, but they'll slowly diminish your self-worth.

Nothing you do is "right" or worth celebrating in their eyes.

3. They pin others against you.

If you're having an argument or even slight disagreement about details in a story or something miniscule, they'll convince someone else that they're right and use that person to gain up on you, especially in public settings.

When out with friends, they'll make sure everyone is on "their" side, always justifying their behavior and making you the "bad" guy.

4. They pinpoint your insecurities.

They know your insecurities and they use them against you, but in subtle ways.

If you're insecure about your stomach fat and ask, "Does this dress make me look fat?" They might reply, "No, it hides your belly pretty well." This reply is targeting your insecurity, but they can innocently play it off as answering your question.

They give a lot of backhanded compliments that dig at your insecurities and constantly bring you back to them.

5. They focus all conversations on themselves.

If you try to talk about something with them, they always turn the conversation back on themself.

If you're seeking advice, an opinion, or just want to share a story, they cut you off with their story or thoughts, without listening to what you have to say.

In the beginning, they may do this less frequently or obviously, but if you're not feeling heard or seen, it may be happening subtly.

6. They always play victim and everything is your fault.

They can't do anything wrong, and even when they do something wrong, it's your fault.

If you're in a relationship with a narcissist and you go through their phone and see they're cheating on you, if you call them out, they'll blame it on you for not trusting them and for going through their phone.

If your mom is a narcissist and is not giving you enough space and you ask for space, she'll say it's your fault for pushing her away.

They are expert victim-blamers and it's psychologically draining and extremely confusing to be the victim.

Breaking free from manipulation.

If you think you're being manipulated by a narcissist, it's important to seek support from others, or even seek out professional help. It's ok to cut off a relationship with someone who's manipulating you, but you have to remember that narcissism is a real personality disorder and they won't take it lightly and will try to fill you with immense guilt.

Lean into your other relationships and seek out the help of a professional if you feel it's necessary. Life is too short to allow people to steal your joy any longer.

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5 Subtle Signs You’re In The Wrong Relationship

If you're unsure about your current relationship, you may be wondering if you're in the wrong relationship entirely. It can be hard to know if you're with someone out of fear of being single, or if you're genuinely the right fit for one another. Thankfully, there are some telling signs that you're in the wrong relationship. Here are 5 signs you're with the wrong person:

1. They're unreliable.

You can't count on them to show up for you. In both big and small ways, they let you down and have proven themselves to be unreliable.

Maybe you ask them to take the trash out and they say that they will and don't. Maybe they promise they can pick up your friend from the airport and don't show up. Or, maybe you just can't count on them to do anything.

Their word doesn't mean much because you never know if they'll follow through - but you can assume they won't.

The right person will show up for you in big and small ways. They stay true to their word and don't let you down on a consistent basis. When you're with the right person, you know you can depend on them.

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2. You're stagnant.

You're not growing in life. Areas that you want to improve on or set goals in are not seeing progress.

Perhaps you're not working out anymore or moving up in your career. Your priorities may have taken the back burner to your relationship and you're feeling a bit stagnant.

Your relationship doesn't encourage or foster growth. Your partner isn't pushing you to be the best version possible and may even be holding you back from achieving the things you want.

When you're with the right person, growth is cultivated and nurtured. You encourage one another to grow and push one another to be better.

3. You daydream about others.

You may find your mind wandering and wondering - what if? Maybe you're thinking of a cute coworker or that person you really "click" with. You may wonder what it'd be like to be with someone like them instead.

You may find yourself daydreaming of being with that other person or even of being single again.

Though these innocent fantasies may seem harmless enough, they may be a sign you're ready for something different and you're currently in the wrong relationship.

4. You constantly have to explain yourself.

They are always questioning you and seemingly don't trust you. You regularly have to explain your whereabouts and justify things to them, despite giving them no reason not to trust you.

They want all the details of who you're with, what you're doing, where you're doing it, etc., but may get defensive if you ask the same of them. In other words, things are a bit one-sided and they're allowed to question you, but you're not allowed to question them to the same extent.

Constantly explaining yourself can be exhausting and take a huge toll on your mental health. When you find the right person, your soulmate, neither of you will have to explain yourselves or justify your whereabouts - there will be enough trust in the relationship to simply enjoy life together, without constant scrutiny.

5. You're unhappy.

Something is "off" and you're generally unhappy. Things may be fine, but not great and you feel like there's something more waiting for you.

Of course, you shouldn't rely on a relationship or partner to make you happy or provide you with fulfillment. But, it's important to make sure your relationship isn't taking away from your happiness and fulfillment in life.

With the right partner, you can enjoy the small beauties life has to offer, together. You can bask in one another's happiness and embrace it as your own. You're not left wondering if something is missing or if you're being held back by the person you love.

Finding your soulmate.

If you're with the wrong person, it may be time to let go and allow yourself space to find your soulmate. Maybe you're infatuated but not in love, or maybe you're just complacent. Either way, giving yourself space to welcome in that right match will be worth it in the long-run.

In fact, it's better to stay single until you find your soulmate than occupy yourself with someone who's emotionally draining or unsupportive of growth.

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8 Telltale Signs That You’re In Relationship With A Narcissist

The word "narcissist" is thrown around a lot these days, and for good reason. Dating a narcissist can be mentally exhausting, but you may have no idea until it's too late. It's important to recognize the warning signs of narcissism so you can identify them in your relationship if needed. Here are 8 signs you're with a narcissist:

1. They can't display empathy.

They don't express real sympathy or empathy. They don't really care if someone is having a bad day or if their grandma just died. It's part of life and if it doesn't directly affect them, they don't care.

Their lack of empathy can be expressed in a wide range of ways, from being insensitive to you if you're having a rough day to being a jerk to the guy at the post office who was moving a little slower than normal.

While most people could think, "maybe they're having a rough day," or, "you never know what someone is going through," a narcissist doesn't care either way and doesn't have time to feel for someone else - they're too busy being important.

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2. They make all of the decisions.

Whose deciding where you eat tonight? What about what vacation spot you're going to? Who makes the call on where to move and for whose career ?

Healthy relationships make decisions together, as partners. But with a narcissist, they get to call all the shots. They make every decision with only one person in mind: themselves.

And if you try and question them? You're a terrible person and they'll make sure you know it.

3. They're not nice.

They're not nice, and maybe even kind of mean. They don't empathize, they don't think of your feelings, they don't take others into consideration at all, and they can be downright rude because of it.

They may be rude to the waiter at the restaurant, the cars around them while driving (they have awful road rage), their coworker who didn't do something exactly right, or to you.

They may put you down in subtle or not so subtle ways, especially if it builds them up in the process.

For example, they might say something mean about you and compliment themselves on the same thing in the process.

4. They get upset over little things.

They struggle with emotional management and emotional maturity. They get triggered by the smallest things and allow minuscule details to upset them.

If something is just slightly off, their whole mood could explode.

You constantly feel like you're walking on eggshells around them, hoping not to do or say something upsetting on accident.

5. They don't respect boundaries.

They allow you zero privacy. Zero.

Your phone? Theirs for the taking. Your private conversations? Theirs for the reading. Your diary? Don't even bother putting it away.

They don't respect your boundaries at all and allow you no privacy.

If you try and express your discomfort with their overstepping of boundaries, they'll definitely try to pin you as the "bad" guy. If you get upset that they took your phone and went through it, they'll try and turn it back on you saying if you had nothing to hide, it wouldn't matter.

Healthy relationships do have boundaries, privacy, and respect. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

6. They think they're "special."

They have a sense of self-importance and desire (or even require) constant praise and admiration. They may truly believe they were born "special" or cut out of a different cloth than others.

They act and think like they're better than others and above others, including yourself. They expect to be recognized as special and get upset if you try and bring them down to the real world or sing the praises of anyone else.

7. They're deeply materialistic.

They dream of money, cars, fame, and fortune. They want to "make it" someday with riches and fame.

They gauge their success and the success of those around them on material wealth alone. They even base happiness and worth on material possessions.

Their borderline obsession with materialism trumps all other aspects of life. They may not even believe that happiness can be achieved without money and expensive "stuff."

8. They don't allow you (or others) to talk.

They dominate conversations and allow little room for feedback or opinions. Even if they're joining in someone else's conversation, they have to take it over and speak loudly, even talking over other people.

They definitely don't listen when you have something to say, but instead make sure they have something of greater importance to say. If you try and tell them about your day or have a conversation, they'll shift the conversation to focus on them and not allow you room to talk.

They value their own voice and thoughts over everyone else's, so it comes as no surprise that they don't enjoy listening to others or having two-way conversations.

What to do if you're dating a narcissist?

Narcissists are unlikely to want treatment, but if they're willing to try, psychotherapy may be helpful in getting their personality disorder under control.

However, getting them help shouldn't be a burden that falls on you, especially if they're unwilling. Do seek professional help if you're concerned for their wellbeing.

Be proactive about your wellbeing as well and decide if you'd like to continue in an unhealthy relationship any longer or if you'd rather move on and find that soulmate connection with someone else.

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