Relationships

Don't Rush Anything

In the end, every man regrets losing the woman who waited for him to get his sh*t together

Soul icon Otis Redding once sang that, "you don't miss your water until your well runs dry."

The "water" in the R&B singer's reference was the love of a good woman, and to this date, truer words have never been spoken.

You see, while some media may have given you the impression that a woman is willing to offer you an infinite number of chances to get your act together and devote yourself to a real relationship, the truth of the matter is that, once she decides to hit the road, you can kiss the thought of being with her again goodbye, and for good reason.

This isn't to say that every relationship will be "one strike and you're out," quite the contrary.

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There are plenty of instances you might encounter where a good woman will try to work with you through your failings, to help you conquer those challenges and become better.

The point, however, is that those chances are finite. You're better off doing things right sooner rather than later, because once the relationship is over, it's over for good, and you'll be kicking yourself for not realizing sooner.

Think about it this way — who would want to stick around if all you're doing is causing confusion?

Everyone has their shortcomings, but if you've been putting strain on your relationships by being emotionally distant, throwing up walls, avoiding communication, and dodging commitments, is it any wonder a woman would say she's had enough?

It's not just the "wise" decision either, it's common sense, as no person deserves to be dragged through an endless rigamarole of relationship nonsense, no matter how strong the love is.

Knowing that you were the impetus for a breakup might be a tough pill to swallow, and it'll be even tougher once you realize that she's moved on and is happy leading a life without you.

Thinking about what you could have done differently will sting, but there is some small amount of solace to be had.

This low point will pass. You will realize your mistakes, and you have an opportunity to learn from them. The door for this relationship is closed, but another one may well open down the line.

Next time a good woman enters your life, make sure you've got it together first, then do right by her and avoid the foolish mistakes you know will drive her away.

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Psychology Defines 7 Types Of Love, Yet Only A Rare Few Make It To The Last One

Psychologists have confirmed the average person will experience different types of love through their lives. A study has even shown that a person can fall in love at least three times in their lifetime. Howevr, the type of love that they experience often depends on the one they share it with. Some people bring out deep emotions that cause a whirlwind of a romance, which is sometimes toxic. Others, turn out to be nothing more than companions and are better off as friendships.

However, rare are the people who gets the experience the kind of love that truly feels everlasting, fulfilling and healthy. Find out which kind of love we mean and which type of love your current kind of love falls into

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Infuatuation

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This is the first step of all relationships but it remains on a shallow level. It's usually a fine line between lust and love and infatuation never usually makes it past the lust and into a meaningful connection. Yet, infatuation is often disguised as love and can be confusing.

The more both parties are physically attracted to each other, the more they want to spend all of their time together and move a relationship really quickly from the get-go. However, this kind of relationship is usually short-lived. When relationships get too intense, too quickly, they don't tend to take the time to build a solid enough foundation to grow on, and many of the red flags just get brushed off only to come back later.

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Liking

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This is usually the second stage of a relationship. Once we decide that we are attracted enough to someone, we become open to getting to know them better. From there, the more we get to know them, the more feelings are developed based on what we know. This is still an introductory stage to relationships, because the more layers are peeled, the higher the risk of finding some sort of dealbreaker that ends the relationship there.

During this stage either feelings will develop closer to love, and increase passion or commitment, or they will eventually fade and grow closer to a friendship It all depends on shared values, interests, and needs.

Empty Love

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This is a tricky kind of relationship. On one hand, it is an exclusive relationship with an agreed-upon commitment. Couples experiencing this type of love could spend years on end together but still lack intimacy and passion. They may truly enjoy each other's company and care deeply about one another but still be missing that special spark that makes everything come together.

Over time the relationship becomes comfortable but boring. It's not necessarily that anyone is doing anything wrong, but there is no denying that the relationship is just missing something to make it feel passionate and exciting.

Fatuous Love

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This is the most common type of love as it includes two of the three foundations: commitment and passion. Couples often find that enough to pursue their relationship and exchange their vows. Yet, this kind of relationship despite having attraction lacks true intimacy.

These kinds of relationships go through many ups ad downs, they have their good days but they also have the days where they feel like they're not truly happy or like their needs aren't being fully met. This could be due to differing love languages or because the couple isn't able to reach a high enough level of vulnerability to fully give themselves to someone else.

Romantic Love

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This kind of love has another combination of the three pillars of love: passion and intimacy. The feelings are there and so is the attraction. Couples in this kind of relationship feel really close to one another and it's easy for them to open up. They fall deeply in love, rather quickly and naturally. The only problem is they can't necessarily agree on where the relationship is headed so they just brush it off.

They put off serious commitments hoping to just go with the flow and figure the rest out in time. Unfortunately in many instances, the relationship reaches a termination point because of major commitments that can't be agreed on.

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Companionate Love

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Companionate love consists of commitment and intimacy, another combination that is still lacking. This type of love is somewhere between the line of friendship and love. There is somewhat of an attraction that makes the friendship feel stronger but it's mostly due to the strong bond that's shared. This kind of couple is each other's best friend, They trust each other fully, and are able to be completely themselves.

The attraction is there and the love is genuine but it's missing that head over heels super-in-love kind of feeling. Many relationships develop into this kind of love after many years of marriage.

Consummate Love

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This is the ideal kind of love and yet it is the rarest of all. It is made of all the pillars of the perfect relationship: love passion, emotional and physical intimacy, and commitment. The levels of each vary throughout time but there is enough of each to keep the relationship young even after years of commitment. Arguments are resolved peacefully, affection is given freely and plans of the future are carried out.

These couples are just as in love as the day they met during their final days. They find ways to keep their relationships exciting and keep on surprising one another. They never allow themselves to truly get comfortable and stop appreciating what they have. They trust each other fully while still pursuing their own independence.

Healthy Love

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All that matters in love is that you are happy and the love is healthy. The rest can be developed and worked on with the right person. In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Love is more than just kisses and butterflies, it's much more than that. If you want to know more on what your birth chart reveals about how you love and what you need out of a partner, check out this personalized report based on date of birth.