Building connections with others is a vital part of being human. Humans thrive within community, and cultivating your community wisely is important for your ultimate well-being. It’s normal and natural to have disagreements with people and not get along perfectly. Even in your closest, deepest relationships, there will be periods of turmoil.
But through healthy disagreements there is opportunity for growth. You can learn how to better communicate and empathize with others. You can challenge one another to learn new ways of showing love and appreciation.
But there may be times when some people are no longer worthy of your energy and time – and continuing relationships with those people will drain your soul, bit by bit.
As a human, it might be hard to know when it’s time to let go of a relationship and when it’s time to push through and fight for it. It’s not always black and white, but there are some signs that it’s time to cut someone out of your life for your overall well-being.
Here are 6 signs you need to cut someone out of your life:
1. It’s a one-sided relationship.
You’re always open to giving and helping, but never receive the same effort in return. They’re constantly happy to take, but never willing to give. In fact, they totally drain you of all you have and don’t seem to think twice about it.
In any relationship – friendship, romantic partnership, family dynamic, etc., – it’s important that both people meet halfway. Without effort from both parties, the relationship quickly becomes one-sided and draining. If they aren’t willing to meet you halfway, it’s time to let them go from your life.
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2. They gossip – a lot.
They love to talk about other people. They love “juicy” stories and gossip, and often talk about others behind their backs. You may even wonder if they talk about you when you’re not around.
And if they talk about everyone else? There’s a good chance they’re doing the same to you when you’re not present.
Beyond being unsure of what they’re saying about you, gossip is typically toxic.
It can be hurtful as rumors spread and is often not conducive to growth.
To expand into your highest self and surround yourself with strong, meaningful community, it’s important to limit your contact with those who gossip.
3. You each hold different values.
You both see the world very differently and have extremely different values. Having different views and opinions can be fine and normal, but when values start to clash is when issues arise.
You want your inner circle and community to be composed of people who value the same things as you, so you can all push one another to grow and move forward to fulfil those life values.
4. They’re unsupportive.
Rather than lift you up, encourage you, or push you to be the best version of yourself, they bring you down. They make you feel bad about yourself, your goals, or your achievements.
They don’t show you any support in achieving the things that matter to you, even if you offer them support.
Surround yourself with people who support you and lift you up. You deserve that and nothing less.
5. You can’t depend on them.
They’re unreliable and you truly can’t (and don’t) depend on them.
If they say they’re going to do something, you don’t count on it. They don’t follow through with their word or keep their promises. It’s hard to believe anything they say.
They’ve let you down countless times and disappointed you by now showing up for you when they said they would.
If you’re putting effort into a relationship and cannot depend on that person, it’s time to step back and reflect on if you want to keep putting effort into them.
6. You don’t trust them.
They gossip, so you don’t feel comfortable confiding in them. They’re unsupportive, so you don’t trust them with your dreams or achievements.
They’re not dependable, so you can’t trust them to show up for you. You hold different values, so you don’t trust their opinions or judgements.
Overall, you don’t trust them. And that’s ok. But do you want to keep a relationship in your life in which there is no trust?
Letting go of a relationship with someone can be so hard. Despite if you’re letting go of a close friendship, work partnership, family member, or lover, it’s often hard. And it’s always for the best.
When you stop putting energy and effort into toxic people, you allow space in your life for deeper growth, deeper relationships, and other people who will meet you half-way.
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