You’ve probably heard the term “gaslighting” before and know it’s a major red flag in a relationship. Maybe you think you would know if someone was treating you that way and wouldn’t tolerate it. But it can actually be really hard to recognize when someone is gaslighting you. Gaslighting is extremely manipulative and creates an environment in which the victim does not trust their own judgement.
Beyond that, the signs that someone is gaslighting you may be subtle and start slowly. So, what can you do to make sure that you’re not being gaslighted and manipulated? Avoid being in a toxic relationship and learn the red flags of gaslighting.
Here are 6 subtle signs that someone is gaslighting you:
1. They belittle your achievements
They don’t get excited for your achievements or accomplishments. They act unimpressed and make you feel bad about being excited.
Maybe you get a promotion at work or a raise and come home excited to share the news only to be met with negativity and disgust. They might say things like, “Oh, I thought you would’ve been in that position years ago,” or “It’s about time you got a raise, maybe you can start carrying your weight a little more around here.”
When you’re proud of something, they flip the situation to try and make you feel bad for it.
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