Relationships

6 Subtle Signs Someone Is Gaslighting You

You've probably heard the term "gaslighting" before and know it's a major red flag in a relationship. Maybe you think you would know if someone was treating you that way and wouldn't tolerate it. But it can actually be really hard to recognize when someone is gaslighting you. Gaslighting is extremely manipulative and creates an environment in which the victim does not trust their own judgement.

Beyond that, the signs that someone is gaslighting you may be subtle and start slowly. So, what can you do to make sure that you're not being gaslighted and manipulated? Avoid being in a toxic relationship and learn the red flags of gaslighting.

Here are 6 subtle signs that someone is gaslighting you:

1. They belittle your achievements.

They don't get excited for your achievements or accomplishments. They act unimpressed and make you feel bad about being excited.

Maybe you get a promotion at work or a raise and come home excited to share the news only to be met with negativity and disgust. They might say things like, "Oh, I thought you would've been in that position years ago," or "It's about time you got a raise, maybe you can start carrying your weight a little more around here."

When you're proud of something, they flip the situation to try and make you feel bad for it.

If this is happening to you, please channel your inner Alpha woman and move on from the relationship.

2. They're always right.

They're always right, and you're always wrong. Period.

It doesn't matter if you're washing dishes the "wrong" way or remembering details from an argument, you'll never be right around them (even if you are).

They try to make you feel bad about wrong, like you're less of a person than them for doing things differently. And if you argue with them about being right? They'll guilt you for it and act like you're being mean and a "monster."

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3. They don't support your happiness.

When you're in a good mood, they do something or say something to bring you down. They create an environment that fosters negativity, sadness, loneliness, and self-doubt. You may feel happy when you're away from that, but as soon as you get back to them, your mood drops.

Being with someone like this is like the opposite of being with your soulmate. Don't let them steal your happiness any longer.

4. They attack your decisions.

They second-guess every decision you make and make you feel stupid about it. They may angle it in a way that's seemingly from a place of positive intent. They may even act like they're second-guessing you for your best interest.

They want you to rely on them and not trust yourself at all. If you spend too much time with someone like this, you may start to second-guess your own decisions and question everything that you do.

5. They judge everything you do.

Everything you do and say is met with judgement and negativity. After all, you can't do anything right in their eyes and they're constantly judging you for it.

6. They think they can validate you.

They work hard to get you to a place where you feel like you need them to validate you. You don't trust yourself and may feel like you can't do anything right. Your own partner doesn't trust you to do anything right, why should you trust yourself?

Since they're always correcting you and questioning your every move, you start to take your decisions and thoughts directly to them. Instead of checking in with yourself and validating yourself, you check in with them and seek their approval and validation.

They make sure the control is in their hands.

Breaking free from gaslighting.

Your self-esteem may take a huge hit if you're in a partnership with someone who's gaslighting you for too long. This relationship dynamic can cause a lot of emotional scarring and trauma.

The best thing to do if you're in a relationship and being gaslighted is to gracefully remove yourself from that situation. Recognizing the unhealthy patterns is the first step to breaking free from gaslighting.

Don't be afraid to reach out to friends or family for support. While you may be conditioned to go through your partner for everything, it's important to get a 3rd party involved to support you so your partner can't manipulate you as easily as you exit the relationship.

It can be hard to break free, but it's so much better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person.

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Spirituality

How To Be More Confident In Just 5 Minutes, Try It

We're Not Born With It

We weren't born confident. Confidence is a quality we need to cultivate by thinking outside of the box and refusing to live only to please others. Think back to when you were a child. You didn't need to be confident then, you simply cried when things didn't go your way. But, as you grew up, you start to notice the impact of how others see you and you become self-conscious. We're the ones that give power to others by letting what they think to dictate our confidence when really it's how we feel about ourselves that will radiate confidence.

That's why all it takes to be more confident is five minutes designed to rewire your thought pattern to bring the attention back where it belongs.

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Strike A Power Pose

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Guess what? No one is confident all the time. Not even those who have a full makeup and hair team every single day. The key is knowing how to switch confidence back on when it seems fleeting. You can actually trick your own brain.

Go into a room where you can be alone. It helps if there's a mirror. Then extend your arms up in a "V" shape. Stand as tall and as big as you possibly can. This is called the Victory stance and is a power pose. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart ad your chin up, and stand there in silence for two whole minutes. It might feel awkward for the first 30 seconds, but it'll fix your posture, bring a smile to your face and restore your confidence. Take that power out the door with you by keeping your head held high and your body standing straight.

Maintain Eye Contact

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Eye Contact is arguably the most powerful form of communication. When interacting with others, looking them in the eye makes them feel seen and acknowledges every word they say. When you keep your gaze fixated on them, after a while you genuinely stop noticing everything happening around them, and in a way you make them feel like the only person in the world.

You can do the same thing to yourself. Stand by a mirror and stare straight into your own and watch the world melt away. Remind yourself with the intention that at this moment all that matters is you. Everything else is on hold because to face it, you need to first check-in with yourself. You have all the power to make that happen because you love yourself, you have a purpose, and you matter. Remember who you are and ground yourself.

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Lose The "Ums"

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A confident person articulates and speaks with intention. Instead of blurting out whatever comes to mind, show assertiveness by taking a second to think before you speak. Not only will this help you lose the ums and uhs but it will make what you say seem more valuable. the same goes for awkward giggles at the end of a sentence.

Laughing when you're done is like saying that everything you just said was a joke and completely discredits you. You can practice this even as you think. Train your thought patterns so they flow.

Relive Your Most Glorious Moment

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This step is most beneficial at the moment right before you're about to be in the spotlight. Close your eyes. Think of the last time that you were proud of yourself in a situation. Remember how you felt, what you said, and why you did it.

Remember how successful you were and how capable you are of creating such success. Imagine all the details of that last moment of success and take the confidence it brings you into your next glorious moment.

Recreate Your Environment

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Do you know why some people who spend their days in offices aren't happy no matter how much money they make? It's because of their environment, constantly being in front of a screen and between four walls. Some research shows that taking even just two minutes to walk in greenery can completely change your mood. Remember that happiness is confidence so you want to be stimulating your brain and its perception of the world in every way that you can.

Whenever you're running low on confidence go and connect with nature, or experience a new place, or just change your environment to somewhere that makes you feel good and watch how it changes your mood. This then will reflect in how you present yourself to others.

Reframe Your Breath

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​When you're anxious and experiencing low self-esteem, your breathing physically changes. You start breathing heavily, and faster. The more shallow your breathing becomes, the worst you feel.

Instead, try breathing deeply with intention. Stand up and breathe in for five seconds, completely filling your diaphragm, and then breath out for another five seconds. As you take control of your breath, start visualizing a future where you are in control. Tell yourself "I breath in peace and I breath out anxiety" If you do this for a couple of minutes, you should feel relaxed and in control afterward.

Stop Chasing Someone Else's Ideal

If you're looking for a sign on whether you need a change then you're here for a reason. This is your sign.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what your universe has to say about you right now. Understand your purpose and your potential so that you can take control of your emotions, your life, and your future by clicking HERE. The time to become your most confident self is now!