A primary trait of self-autonomy is determining what we feel comfortable with, what we feel uncomfortable with, and casting the latter aside when we can so it no longer intrudes on our mental health. We learn to set boundaries so those things don't encroach on our space and we can move about our days feeling safer for it.
That makes it sound much easier than it truly is, though. Setting boundaries is tough work! It takes a lot of personal development to get to the point where you feel you can do so safely.
However, some of us are more predisposed to easily setting boundaries, which may have to do with our zodiac sign.
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Line In The Sand
A key component of a successful relationship is setting proper boundaries. This goes for any kind of relationship by the way, not just romantic. You should have boundaries with your family and friends also, lines you won't cross and topics you won't touch on. Maybe you have these without even knowing it, as not all boundaries need an explicit declaration for them to exist.
Just saying you should have them doesn't make that easy, though. Some people really struggle at setting boundaries, either lacking the confidence or the knowledge of how to go about it.
A Natural Gift
There are also those who don't struggle with boundary setting at all. Being good at setting boundaries comes with experience, conviction, and maybe a little something extra, like your zodiac sign.
That's right, your sun sign can actually play a role in how good you are at setting, enforcing, and handling personal boundaries. Some signs really shine in this area of life; their personalities and core traits strengthening their ability to recognize when something is too much for them and shutting it down right then and there.
Specifically, there are three signs that are exceptional at setting boundaries. Maybe we can learn a little something from their strength.
Taurus' reputation for being both direct and stubborn makes them absolute experts at setting boundaries. They have no issues drawing a line and sticking to their side of it, nor do they mind enforcing it should someone try to step over it.
They really value control over their life and refuse to let others encroach on their personal time. If they don't want to hang out on a given day, they'll tell you, which makes them a valuable friend, as you'll never be left guessing when it comes to whether or not they really want to be spending time with you.
Patience To A Point
They're also patient in their enforcement rather than aggressive and rarely ever break their calm demeanor. They can forgive a transgression or two done out of ignorance rather than malice. They're happy to correct others and remind them of the boundary they set, and only from there will they begin to judge your character should you continue to step out of line.
One too many strikes and you just may be out though, as Taurus has grown to have no issue cutting people out of their life if they continue to be disrespectful. They don't appreciate having their time wasted or toyed with.
Scorpio's closed-off nature comes less from a strong sense of independence and a desire for time alone like Taurus but more from a desire to protect themselves. Scorpios are known for having soft, loving centers surrounded by a tough set of walls; walls they spent years carefully building so that no one else may cross them without their explicit permission.
That all means that they're great at setting boundaries. They prefer to hold people at arm's length so they don't get hurt, masters at keeping their secrets and privacy extremely close to their chest.
In this instance, though, these boundaries might be a little too much. Yes, they're good at creating and enforcing them, quick to clap back at anyone who even considers trying to push against them in any way, but they tend to be a little extreme. Scorpios sometimes get so caught up in keeping themselves safe (or so they think) that they go way overboard and wind up becoming reclusive.
Having healthy boundaries is not a bad thing, but 'healthy' is the keyword there. Learning when these lines have gone too far and recognizing when people are trying to break them for your own good will help prevent you from secluding yourself entirely.
Aquarius is swift and decisive about their boundaries. They pick them up and set them on the fly, immediately recognizing when something is too uncomfortable for them and putting a stop to it then and there. They have zero issues with reminding people about their boundaries and rarely give second chances to those who break them.
Aquarius is calculated in how they handle their limits and refuse to feel ashamed for applying them when needed.
Sometimes, though, Aquarius can get a little too managerial about their boundaries. Their sign is ruled by the planet Saturn—which is actually the planet of boundaries and limitations—so it makes sense that they allow these limits to play a large part in their lives.
The issue arises in Aquarius' own pride in these boundaries. They put a lot of stock in them and thus tend to forget to reanalyze them. Instead of loosening or letting go of some that don't serve them anymore, they let them stack up, sometimes even contradicting one another. Boundaries always need revisiting. People change, and as such, so do our limits!
Far From Hopeless
If you aren't one of these three signs, or you generally feel like boundary-setting is not a skill you have, it's not impossible to learn.
Building up the confidence to correctly identify and declare boundaries is no easy feat! It takes a lot of time and a lot of trust in your own judgment, but you owe it to yourself to at least try to strive for more solid footing in the area of boundaries as it's what will help keep you safe and happy in the long run.
Safe, But Free
Also, if you are one of those three signs, that doesn't mean there's no improvement to be had. As mentioned with Aquarius, sometimes the boundaries you set can get away from you and, as mentioned with Scorpio, leave you more closed off, unwilling to try new things.
Just because you're good at a certain social skill, that doesn't mean you should let others fall to the wayside because of it. Draw your lines, keep yourself safe, but also don't be afraid to move or break your own rules if it'll grant you the wisdom of new experiences.
If you're looking for more information on your life and your individual sign, then you'll need your own zodiac reading. We're each on our own unique path and what some struggle with this season, might not be applicable to you too.
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