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The 4 Main Reasons Why People Cheat

We are not here to justify cheating, one of the biggest forms of betrayal that a relationship can experience. However, whenever cheating happens, it can have detrimental effects that leaves the couple wondering how the whole thing can be avoided. There is often a lack of closure and walls are broken that can take years if ever, to be built back up.

While we cannot prevent, or control a cheater, understanding why happens is a reminder that it happens to the best of us. The most that we can do is to understand it as to not blame ourselves when we fall victim to it.


Feeling Neglected

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The way cheaters often justify their actions is by expressing that they craved attention. They often echo that they were experiencing unmet needs and couldn't resist the opportunity to fill that void.

What they fail to mention is that they often also didn't communicate their feelings before they act on them. They simply can look for ways to get attention from their partner rather than simply look for it elsewhere.

Out Of Revenge

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While two wrongs don't make a right, unhealthy coping mechanisms can push people to want those who hurt them to understand their pain. They feel as though they can only get over their pain by punishing their partner and making them feel it too.

They become so blinded by anger that it becomes too late to save the relationship when they discover how far they took their revenge.

Narcissistic Traits

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​Some people can't even explain why they cheated. They feel as though they had a right to it, and show no guilt or remorse. In fact, they might even turn the tables to blame their partner for their cheating.

However, when narcissism is the cause, cheating is actually a sign of low self-esteem. Narcissists tend to feed their ego through the validation of others, and often just the one from their partner is not enough. This causes them to have serious commitment issues.

Situational Factors

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One of the most common justifications by cheaters is " it was just a one time thing, it didn't even mean anything." Some cheaters act out of character in certain circumstances. Maybe they were drinking, or were travelling and were outside of their element when they were faced with temptation.

They got caught up in the moment and didn't take in what they were doing until the guilt set in after the fact.

Nothing To Do With You

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The most important lesson if you get cheated on is that it has nothing to do with you. You didn't miss the signs, or let it happen. You couldn't have prevented it, and you couldn't have controlled somebody else's decision, so there's no point in blaming yourself.

Instead, accept that the journey is now theirs, to discover why they allowed themselves to fall into this pitfall. Then let them deal with the consequences.

Astrology

The Strength Each Zodiac Finds When Grieving A Loss

Grief happens in different stages and there's not necessarily a right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people can't face it right away and keep themselves distracted while others spend the first couple of weeks crying in bed thinking that they'll never feel better.

Grief isn't only felt death. They say that a break up activates the same pain receptors and stress hormones experienced when a loved one dies, so grief is really about any kind of loss for someone or even something like a job that was valued. It can have lasting effects that become traumatic when coping is not eventually dealt with in a healthy way. Luckily, each zodiac sign has character traits that give them a unique strength when dealing with grief. What's yours?

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Aries: Their Straighforwadness

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Aries doesn't care to sugarcoat and avoid the hard truth. They prefer to act in the heat in the moment and cut right down to the chase. You know that when Aries go for a night out, they won't be shy away from their dancing their heart out. They take that same explosive energy wherever they go. When they're grieving, that's all they feel and they let themselves face it head-on until they can come to terms with it.

They may feel a lot of anger at first or a lot of sadness, and they may not deal with that component calmly but having the strength to be straightforward about their grief is what helps them let the feelings pass and move on.

Taurus: An Ability To Escape

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A Taurus likely won't grief right away and try to keep their chin up. They might even try to console others first because the distraction helps them escape. When they're not helping others, they're going to want to disappear for a while, taking themselves on solo dates and watching movie marathons. They'll basically do anything to distract themselves and escape the pain.

However, their ability to escape is also their strength. It gives them a reason to keep going and eases them into adapting to a life without the person they lost gradually.

Gemini: Seeing The Good

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Gemini will do their best to resist their grief. They would rather stay positive to cope. However, the more they avoid what's really on their mind, the more likely they are to be moody. However, when they chose to accept grief, they manage to always find a silver lining.

Their strength is in choosing to celebrate a person's life instead of mourning their death. To them, the end is not a loss because if they never had it in the first place they would have missed out on a lot.

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Cancer: Emotional Intuition

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​Cancers have the ability to be completely in tune with their emotions. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and it's no different when they're grieving. They are not afraid to let themselves cry it out from the second it happens even if they're not sure if they could ever stop.

Cancers' intense emotion is their strength. They're able to manifest them into whatever channel they desire which means that when they get through the painful part, they'll go through the healing with the same intensity.

Leo: Coping Internally

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Leo doesn't feel the need to have a pity party and crying circles. Odds are they won't show their pain publicly but that doesn't mean that they're not dealing with it.

Leo's strength is in coping in the way that feels best to them in the moment, privately. They're not looking to repeat what works for others, they want to find what works for them. They spend a lot of time analyzing exactly what is making them sad and lean deeply into their emotions.

Virgo: Order And Logic

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Virgo can't come easily in terms of loss and death because they can't completely make sense of it. Their need for logic and order and can make them feel completely out of control when grieving. However, it is that same need for control that makes their strength.

Once they get through the initial shock, they ground themselves by creating their how-to guide for coping. They make step by steps lists of how to heal and keep busy with to-do lists meant to help them grieve in orderly ways.

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Libra: Rationality

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When Libra deals with grief, it can become more rational than usual. Libra is able to accept loss and death as unavoidable parts of life so it sees no point in fighting it. Instead, it spends its energy on adapting to a new life without what it is that it lost.

While sometimes Libra takes extreme measures by completely erasing parts of their lives that held the memory of what they lost, their strength is becoming a self-containing equalizer of emotions. Eventually, they even out their grief too.

Scorpio: Manipulation Through Empathy

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​When we hear the word "manipulation" we tend to think of its negative connotation. But manipulation by definition is an ability to purposely mold. For Scorpios, manipulation isn't just getting what they want out of others. When grieving, they're able to manipulate their sadness with intention.

This comes in different forms. For instance, by spending time with animals, children, or loved ones, they're able to manipulate feelings of protection and love that heal both themselves and those around them.

Sagittarius: The Hunt For Happiness

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​Saggitarius is driven by a genuine desire to find happiness. When they're first grieving they may feel lost and helpless as they no longer see a path to happiness.

Yet eventually their ambition kicks in and fuels them with the desire to fight their pain. They don't avoid their emotions and instead try to find ways to turn the negative ones into positive ones and be as happy as possible until they can become fully happy again.

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Capricorn: Maturity

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Capricorn tries to be mature about the way they handle grief, and finds it unhelpful to spend days in bed or to get angry. As an earth sign they feel connected to a higher being and can see the bigger picture.

They understand that loss will hurt for a while but that with time they will get past it, so they do their best to go through the motions until then, each day becoming easier than the last, until they're fully themselves again.

Aquarius: Living Back Memories

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Capricorns don't need external validation and motivation because they find it within themselves. They know the difference between what they can and can't control. They know they can't control a loss but they know that no one can take away the memories they created before they no longer could. So they chose to focus on what they can do.

They keep memories alive through pictures. They reconnect with people from their childhood or they pick up passions they left behind. This way, they connect back with themselves instead of caving to the loss.

Pisces: Just Keeps Swimming

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Pisces just need to be reminded that no matter what happens and how bad it is, the world keeps going and so they need to be able to keep up with it. Usually, they can get to this stage before falling down a spiral. Instead, they chose to lose themselves in ways that feel beautiful to them.

They chose to keep swimming. They indulge in self-care methods like watching movies or spending quality time with others. Their strength is in jump-starting their healing process and their motivation to keep moving forward.

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