The 5 Types Of Betrayal That Are Just As Destructive As Cheating
Relationships don't always just end based on one catastrophic event like cheating. Sometimes it's a series of events, repetition, a shakey foundation, or simply a different kind of betrayal.
While cheating is quite horrible and often impossible to come back from, there are other things that feel just as bad. it's any action or act that wasn't done with the best intentions, that damages trust, loyalty, and the commitment of love a couple once made to each other.
Refusing To Compromise
Relationships are supposed to be based on mutual effort. That means that to create an equal power dynamic there will be times when each partner will have to put the needs of the other first.
Part of love and compassion is recognizing when to step back and make the other person feel good. That means that always imposing your own way and needs is a form of betrayal.
A significant other should never feel like they have to "earn" their partner's love. A genuine relationship is based on love and forgiveness. It's also based on taking accountability.
A real form of betrayal is one a person is made to feel like they don't deserve to be loved just for being who they are but that they have to consistently work at pleasing their partner.
Taking Advantage Of Vulneravilities
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If your partner trusted you to share their vulnerabilities or insecurities with you, then the last thing you should do is use them against them. Even if during an argument you notice the influence of these vulnerabilities, there is a time and place to bring up your concerns from a genuine place, rather than use it as ammo to prove our point.
This can be even worse when it's used to simply put the other person down.
Not Keeping Promises
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A couple should be able to rely on each other. This applies in both small and big ways. It means being on time, it means respecting boundaries and it means that if someone changes their mind about a promise they once had made, they communicate through it.
It's okay to change your mind but it can feel like lying when you promise one thing and then just not do it for whatever reason. Partners should be able to count on each other and keep some level of predictability in their trusting relationship;
Not Making The Relationship A Priority
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Having friends and hobbies is important but it can't always come first. We often get caught in life's pressures or work a demanding job that takes a lot of time away from home. We may not mean to neglect our partner but this lack of quality time can end up betraying the entire relationship.
A couple needs to take the time to bond, grow and keep on creating memories so that even if the relationship doesn't work out, they can find solace in knowing that they tried their best.