The 6 Behavior Rules That Build Resiliency After a Brutal Breakup

As we near Singles Day, we need to start celebrating being single, but to do that we need to get past the brutal breakups that have scarred us. No matter how badly someone hurt you, they gave you an opportunity to build your resiliency.

The more resilient you become, the less you’ll even care because you’ll understand that their toxicity and negativity is a reflection of them, and a projection of their struggles. You, on the other hand, have power. You know how to take a brutal breakup and turn it into a celebration of your new single life if you can stick to these 6 behavior rules. They’re difficult but mighty.

The 21 Day No Contact Rule

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It’s funny to think about it, but even after the worst of breakups, after a few days have gone by, people will tend to stop looking at the bad, and get lost in only good. This is why so many people in toxic relationships get back together after short breaks, convincing themselves that their lapse in memory and rose-colored glasses will somehow overshadow the core issues that caused them to break up in the first place.

It takes 21 days to break a habit, just like it takes as long to create a new one. 21 days will allow you to break out of the need to text and call them while throwing logic out the window, and force you to look inwards and get used to life without them.