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The 6 Behavior Rules That Build Resiliency After a Brutal Breakup

Pave The Way To Celebrate Being Single

As we near Singles Day, we need to start celebrating being single, but to do that we need to get past the brutal breakups that have scarred us. No matter how badly someone hurt you, they gave you an opportunity to build your resiliency.

The more resilient you become, the less you'll even care because you'll understand that their toxicity and negativity is a reflection of them, and a projection of their struggles. You, on the other hand, have power. You know how to take a brutal breakup and turn it into a celebration of your new single life if you can stick to these 6 behavior rules. They're difficult but mighty.

The 21 Day No Contact Rule

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It's funny to think about it, but even after the worst of breakups, after a few days have gone by, people will tend to stop looking at the bad, and get lost in only good. This is why so many people in toxic relationships get back together after short breaks, convincing themselves that their lapse in memory and rose-colored glasses will somehow overshadow the core issues that caused them to break up in the first place.

It takes 21 days to break a habit, just like it takes as long to create a new one. 21 days will allow you to break out of the need to text and call them while throwing logic out the window, and force you to look inwards and get used to life without them.

The No Rebound Rule

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​Whoever said that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone, had some issues they needed to work through. That's a recipe for codependency and projection, and nothing else. You need to actually take the time to be alone after a brutal breakup.

A rebound may put a bandaid on your pain but it'll just delay your confrontation with the inevitable. Except by then, you're also risking hurting a third innocent party that you just happened to involve in your moment of weakness. Getting through this without the comfort of another relationship will surely build your resiliency.

Do Not Repress, Instead Assess

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​The breakup is a cathartic experience where you can step back and view things more clearly than you did when you were in the relationship. Do you know why people stay stuck in toxic relationship patterns and then blame it on a curse that keeps on attracting bad guys? It's because the easiest way to deal with a brutal breakup is to repress it.

Rather than deal with the pain it's causing, people are drawn to the quickest fix mentality and just want to put it behind them. To build resiliency, after each breakup, you need to actually work back in time and assess where the relationship went wrong, acknowledging both their part and yours so that you can learn how not to repeat the same mistakes.

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Build Yourself Up From Scratch

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You may feel lost after a breakup that follows a long-term relationship. It's like you forgot how to even be a person because you fell into the comfort of a two-person routine for so long. Maybe you even forgot your preferred lifestyle because you were just living according to someone else's dictated one for so long.

The only way to build a new routine is to build a new self. Try new things and find out what it is that you like, and not because someone else does. You'll find that this breakup changed you, so you may not necessarily find yourself in the same spot you were before you entered the relationship.

Release The Victim Mentality

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Yes, bad things happen to good people. The quicker we can accept that, the faster we can move on from it. We can sit there and dwell, immersing ourselves in other people's pity, including the pity we feel for ourselves. Or we can take accountability for our reactions to someone's else toxic actions.

No matter how brutal the breakup, and how badly someone goes out of their way to hurt you, you won't be able to control them, but you're in full charge of what you do about it.

Treat Yourself And Indulge

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​You're single now and in that there's so much freedom. The breakup may linger and the scars may never fully heal, but at least you're completely free. You don't need to take into account someone else's schedule or finances because it is all completely up to you. So what are you waiting for?

Go indulge for a little bit. Allow yourself a treat to celebrate all the experiences you have been through, all the resiliency that you've built, and the ways that you take trials and errors and turn them into growth.

Love Is More Than Kisses And Butterflies

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In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

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Uplifting

Homeless Man Found Long-Lost Sister After 20 Years, But That Wasn't Even The Miracle

You know what the best part of hardships is? It's the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how dim, or even nonexistent it may seem for a while, it's always there, waiting for you at your destination.

Logan's story didn't see the light for a whole 20 years, which for the young man was a whole lifetime. Yet, he didn't let life's hardest tests get him down and he always held on to the hope of finding that light, till one day he did. He thought reuniting with his lost sister would be the light he was looking for this whole time. Except his sister was already living with her own family at that point...

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Life Was Hard From The Very Beginning

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Logan's hardships started from the day he was born. For whatever reason, his parents didn't feel fit to raise him, so he was put up for adoption when he was just a toddler. Not all kids get lucky and get adopted when they get put in the system.

Unfortunately for Logan, no family wanted to keep him and he was sent from one foster home to the next until he reached the age of 18. Considered an adult, he aged out of the system and had no choice but to become homeless. All he had ever wanted was a family but instead, he grew up his whole life feeling alone.

A Social Worker Who Cared

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Fortunately, all it takes to make a difference in someone's life is finding one person who cares. For Logan, it was his social worker. Once his 11 years in the foster care system were up, Logan's caseworker was determined to find him a good place to live. So far, all his living arrangements had been temporary, and he had never had a place to call home. For a time, Logan even lived in his car.

Looking carefully through his files, they discovered that Logan actually had a biological sister named Shyann who was already living with a good family. The caseworker hoped and prayed that the family would also take an interest in Logan, so she called up Shyan's adoptive mother.

Logan Was Deemed To Be "Toxic"

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The caseworker was hoping Robert and Ara Hunt, Shyanna's parents would welcome Logan but that wasn't the case. The family already had 3 adopted children and they were afraid that Logan would disrupt the dynamic that they had created for their family.

Logan's sister was 12 years old at the time and the family was afraid that her biological homeless brother, who was living in a car, would be toxic to their family. In an interview, tey explained: : “We wanted nothing to do with him. We didn’t know anything about him. We were afraid.”

A Television Segment That Reflected The Truth

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You wouldn't think that television is where you'd find the truth and have your whole perspective changed but that was the case for Logan.

The Hunt family saw a local television segment about Logan's journey out of foster cre and it completely changed their mind on the young man. That piece changed the father Robert Hunt’s mind about the 18-year-old. The father said in an interview: “I was just knocked down. I think I’m a pretty good judge of character, and I saw the good character in him."

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From Tragedy To Blessings

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Up until then, Logan had known nothing but rejection. He told USA Today how the constant rejection that his life made him feel “empty” and “alone," and he felt as though he had “nothing to look forward to.”

Right when Logan thought his life couldn't get worse, he got into a car accident. Yet, he had no idea that this tragedy would turn into a blessing too. Ara went to go visit him in the hospital, and she ended up bringing him home with her. He had no idea another miracle would be waiting for him at her home.

Happily More After

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Logan went back to meet his sister and her newfound family thinking the reunion itself would be his miracle while he recovered from the accident. He believed his stay with the family would be temporary just like all his past ones.

As he bonded with the family, Logan fit right in. It didn't take long before the Hunt family performed a second miracle and decided to start the process of adopting Logan! It was finally Logan's chance to reach the light of the end of the tunnel and become part of a family just like he always wanted.

New Beginnings

Logan's life at almost 20 years old was just starting. After 13 years of temporary living arrangements, he finally found his forever home. It turns out that hope and patience were all he needed and the universe had a plan for him all along.

These kinds of stories can happen to anyone. You might think you're never going to catch a break, but there's a light waiting for you too. Are you still searching for your life purpose? You won't believe what the science of Numerology can reveal about you

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