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The Destructive Mind Games Toxic People Love To Play

Don't be Fooled Into Thinking You're The Exception

Mind games are the most destructive of all manipulation tactics. They have the power to completely destroy a person from the inside out. By the end, that person has no sense of worth, confidence, purpose or direction. They become co-dependent on the relationship of the very same toxic person who shattered them through mind games.

Don't be their next victim. Power is knowledge. If you can recognize the signs then no toxic person will ever be able to destroy you.

A Hunger for Control

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Toxic people can't live without feeling in control, it's basically like food to them so they will hunt for it at any cost. It usually is gradual, like at first, they'll want to choose what you eat for dinner and at what time then the next thing you know they have a say about what you wear and what job you should take.

They're just hungry for power and they need to feel like they will always have the last word. To do so, they'll find ways to "punish" you when you don't give them what they want such as by shutting you out or making you feel like your decision-making skills are nonexistent.

The Guilt Trip Game

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This is another game that is all about power dynamics. Toxic people need you to feel inferior so that you're easier to manipulate and so that they could feed their ego. Ironically, toxic people are great at playing the victim. They might even cry in front of you to get you to feel bad for them and be the one to apologize.

They want you to feel like they would be lost without you so that you feel too guilty to leave them. They think that by always guilting you, you'll cave and they'll never actually need to take accountability.

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The Constant Critique

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Toxic people will use critiques to shame you about being the person that you are and eventually bring you down. They'll slowly take away anything that makes you feel good so that you feel like you have nothing but them. They'll tell you that you're not good enough and should just be happy with what you have.

They'll critique the way you look and do things so that you need constant validation. They'll make it so that you start to believe that their opinion is the only one that matters, even above your own.

The Feeling Denial, Or Gaslighting

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Toxic people will completely deny you your own feelings and recollections so that they get rid of any guilt or need to apologize. Instead, they'll tell you that you're too sensitive and can't take a joke. They'll make you feel dumb for not understanding what they actually "meant". They'll disqualify you by retelling a completely new version of events that makes you question your own memories.

Really what happened is that they insulted you and you called them out, but they couldn't handle it. Sometimes it's because they can't even confront themselves and accept that they're being a terrible person.

The Bait And Switch Blame Game

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You'll know you're in a bait and switch game when you've been arguing about something that's upsetting you, and rightfully so, then all a sudden you're defending yourself for something completely irrelevant. Turning the tables on you like that is a deflection method that puts you in the hot seat instead and takes the spotlight away from them.

Their reaction to what you did three years ago may even be more extreme than whatever it is that you initially had brought up, just to cancel you out. All the sudden everything is your fault, again.

The Rollercoaster Game

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Katy Perry made a song about it once singing "you're hot then you're cold, you're yes, then you're no" and she probably had no idea that she was describing the epitome of a toxic relationship. Healthy relationships shouldn't be filled with ups and downs, they should be constant. While arguments are normal and even sometimes necessary, the way they're handled should be calm and they should be solved through effective communication.

Blow-ups that turn into screaming matches, then are followed by intense makeup sessions are signs of toxic manipulation. Be wary of a person who can change their behavior in a matter of minutes, without warning. This is a mind game that makes you constantly walk on eggshells and monitor your behavior.

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Horoscopes

December Energy Reading Reveals Blind Faith And Challenges Old Ways, Here's How The Year Is Predicted To End

December Horoscope Brought to you by our friend Kelli Fox at Astrology.TV

A Solar Eclipse in freedom-loving Sagittarius ensures that the first week of December is tinged with optimism, excitement and adventure. The eclipse is square Neptune, however, so right from the start there's a sense that all is not quite as it seems. When Mars squares Jupiter on December 7th, the perils of over-optimism and blind faith start to become more obvious.

Venus' conjunction to Pluto on December 10th is an intense reminder of the power of emotions, and provides something of an emotional reset. With Mars arriving in Sagittarius on December 13th, however, the desire to push ahead with wide-ranging plans is overwhelming. Fortunately, on the same day, Mercury moves into cautious, prudent Capricorn, providing some intelligent backup to this dare-at-all-costs energy.

The fun-loving Gemini Full Moon on December 18th gets people into the festive spirit, but when Venus turns retrograde the following day, dating, new romances and unstable relationships may need a bit of a rethink.

The solstice on December 21st sees the arrival of the Sun in Capricorn, grounding and centering us all just ahead of the final tense Saturn-Uranus square this year, on December 24th. This is quite angry, frustrated, hostile energy, very much not in keeping with festive spirit. Expect the old ways to be challenged to the core.

The second Venus-Pluto conjunction in two weeks on December 25th is a real pull yourself together moment, emotionally, and helps us to keep moving forward through the tumult.

After the overt tensions of the holiday period, 2021 is set to end on a much more spiritual and peaceful note, as Jupiter returns to mystical Pisces on December 28th.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Aries

You arrive in December full of energy and raring to go – and with an urge to change things up. The Solar Eclipse in your adventure zone on December 4th underlines your need to rip up old routines and try something new. However, too much of a good thing can be your undoing, as when your ruler Mars squares an over-exuberant Jupiter on the 7th. Try to keep realistic feet on the ground.

As much as you want excitement, your career status is on your mind too, especially when a Venus-Pluto conjunction mixes money and power on the 10th. Mars moves into your adventure zone on the 13th, urging you again to rip up the rule book, but on the same day Mercury glides into your career zone, helping you to approach the situation rationally.

You'll finally start to feel some festive spirit on December 18th during the fun-loving Full Moon, but watch out for regrets in love or money the following day when Venus turns retrograde.

The holiday period itself is dominated by the final Saturn-Uranus square of the year on December 24th, which highlights your frustration over how money holds you back from your dreams. It could be something of an ill-tempered festive season for this reason, although the second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th does encourage emotional reflection.

Look to the arrival of Jupiter in your spiritual zone on December 28th for more clarity over your future goals and how they may align with your spiritual path. As 2022 dawns, you'll find a way to become more authentic in your career.

Taurus

Look to early December if you want to create meaningful change in your life; the Solar Eclipse on December 4th in your self-improvement zone is a good opportunity. However, take care not to prioritize work over love when Mars squares up to Jupiter on December 7th. All things in moderation.

The Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th is a good time for a heart to heart talk with your lover, ahead of Mars' arrival in your passion zone on December 13th. This influence turns up the temperature, increasing intoxication but also adding jealousy and spite. Mercury arrives in your philosophy zone on the same day, so try not to take things too personally.

The Full Moon in your money zone on December 18th hints at festive over-spending and the repercussions of this. When your ruler Venus turns retrograde the following day, you'll want to rethink your spending plans.

It may be the holiday season, but the final Saturn-Uranus square of the year falls on December 24th and puts your career front and center – along with self-doubt over your path and your abilities. This is a very uncomfortable feeling and could mar your holiday plans; the second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th, however, enables you to see how an investment in training or education will help you reach your goals.

As 2021 fades, you'll feel more and more drawn towards other people. Jupiter arrives in your social zone on December 28th, setting the scene for many meaningful friendships in the year to come.

Gemini

December begins with your relationship front and center, particularly during the Solar Eclipse in your love zone on December 4th. This could make or break a partnership; although events may feel like a shock either way, deep down you know matters will unfurl in the right way.

When Jupiter squares Mars on December 7th, unrealistic expectations at work may cause a lot of tension and upset. Look to the Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th for important financial news which will help to consolidate what you want from your work.

Mars moves into your love zone on December 13th, which is excellent news for a jaded relationship as it increases fizz and passion – however, be aware that it also adds to your argumentative streak. Use the balancing influence of rational Mercury arriving in your passion zone on the same day to help keep things calm.

The Gemini Full Moon on December 18th finds you in your element, partying, having fun with friends and meeting new people. Venus turns retrograde the following day, however, so be aware that any romantic misdemeanors may not stay secret for long.

Vague fears and worries seem to come out of nowhere during the final, very tense Saturn-Uranus square on December 24th, and your confidence is sure to take a battering. However, the second Venus-Pluto conjunction the following day reminds you that you are free to take back control of your life at any time.

Set your focus towards your career as 2021 fades. Bountiful Jupiter arrives in your ambitions zone on December 28th, so you can look forward to many opportunities in the new year – allow your confidence to shine once again.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Cancer

If you've been under pressure recently, a minor health scare could be the wakeup call you need, especially during the Solar Eclipse on December 4th. Listen carefully to your body and use your intuition to notice any problems arising.

When Mars squares Jupiter on December 7th, a flirtatious dalliance may turn into something much more serious; if you're already in a committed relationship, the Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th highlights issues of power, control and secrecy, so handle with care.

Mars' arrival in your health zone on December 13th is brilliant news for starting a new health regime and prioritizing your positive wellbeing. With Mercury arriving in your love zone on the same day, you'll get plenty of support from your partner.

The Full Moon on December 18th is in your privacy zone, so you may want to seek some quiet time away from the festive madness. Indeed, when Venus turns retrograde in your love zone the following day, you'll want to spend as much time as possible locked away with your lover.

The final Saturn-Uranus square of the year takes effect on December 24th in a very un-festive show of defiance, temper and vitriol. Unfortunately, this impacts how others treat you, and you may find yourself being unfairly humiliated, singled out or bullied. Fortunately, a second powerful conjunction between Venus and Pluto puts you firmly back in control, backed by your partner, and restores your self-esteem on December 25th.

You'll feel a fresh sense of optimism as 2021 fades. The arrival of Jupiter in your adventure zone on December 28th promises a year ahead of exploration, new experiences, personal growth and joy.

Leo

Expect a boisterous start to December, with you feeling keen to get into party mode early. However, the Solar Eclipse in your fun zone on December 4th highlights an issue where too much fun and too little responsibility may create drama.

There could be issues in your family relationships too, especially on December 7th when Mars squares Jupiter and pits your blood family against your love relationship. Take control of the narrative by refusing to allow bickering and feuding; the Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th will help with this.

You can get back into the festive swing of things on December 13th when Mars arrives in your fun zone, and since it's accompanied by the arrival of Mercury in your organization zone on the same day, it looks like you can work and play in equal measure.

Watch out for some highly strung emotions in your social life on December 18th, however, when a potent Full Moon shows who you can rely upon and who you cannot. Venus turns retrograde the following day, prompting you to prefer your own company for a while.

As festivities get closer, the third and final very tense Saturn-Uranus square this year takes place on December 24th, setting your career ambitions directly against your love life. There could be some difficult decisions to make here, but hold out until the following day if you can; the second Venus-Pluto conjunction will then make it easier for you to understand your choices.

Once emotions calm, you can look forward to an optimistic 2022. Bountiful Jupiter arrives in your passion zone on December 28th, promising much love and greater self-awareness too.

Virgo

December opens with a dose of family drama, courtesy of the Solar Eclipse in your family zone on December 4th. There could be a domestic emergency of some kind, or simply an explosion of tension among loved ones. Keep communicating, and refuse to allow your family vision to be de-railed, especially when Mars squares Jupiter on December 7th.

When Venus conjuncts Pluto on December 10th, you'll start to feel more in control of what's going on at home, and when Mars arrives in your family zone on the 13th, you can start to move forwards once again. At the same time, Mercury moves into your fun zone, so lighten the atmosphere with some family games, days out or celebratory meals.

As festivities get closer, your career will be on your mind – the Full Moon in your career zone on December 18th highlights something that needs your urgent attention. You can use this energy to get ahead of colleagues who are busy enjoying themselves. Venus turns retrograde in your fun zone the following day, however, so be careful not to become all work and no joy.

Personal organization is an issue on December 24th when the third and final Saturn-Uranus square creates enormous tension and frustration. If you have changed family tradition for the festive season, or otherwise switched up routines, you can expect some fierce opposition. Fortunately, a second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th occurs in your joy zone, and reminds you of the love behind your family bonds.

You'll experience a sense of peace and serenity once Jupiter moves into your love zone on December 28th, setting the scene for a much more harmonious 2022.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Libra

Don't be surprised if early December feels a bit chaotic. The Solar Eclipse in your communication zone on December 4th speaks to lost or misunderstood messages. You may try to fudge your way through the confusion, but the Mars-Jupiter square on December 7th creates tension when too many risks are taken, especially with money. Slow down.

Venus' conjunction with Pluto on December 10th is better news, hinting at the resolution of a long-standing family matter. Mars moves into your intelligence zone on the 13th, along with Mercury's arrival in your family zone, so this is a very good period for a win-win approach to family and personal matters.

It's all good, solid progress, but a little bit lacking in excitement. The Full Moon on December 18th highlights your restlessness; you may feel an urge to travel, or even to turn your back on the life you have in favor of pastures new. Most people won't act on that urge, of course, but when Venus turns retrograde the following day, you may still feel rather taken for granted or put upon.

This lack of spontaneity and fun rears up again in dramatic style on December 24th, courtesy of the third and final Saturn-Uranus square of the year. This could lead to a somewhat hostile atmosphere at this most festive time – but hang on in there. Just a day later, on the 25th, a second Venus-Pluto conjunction calms matters and reminds people of their loyalties.

With the festivities over, you're in a very business-like frame of mind for the start of 2022. Optimistic, expansive Jupiter arrives in your everyday work zone on December 28th, giving you time in your schedule to take on more.

Scorpio

Be prepared to reign in your festive spending early this year – the Solar Eclipse in your money zone on December 4th is likely to bring some shocks and surprises. Work on understanding that the festive season is about more than just gifts and expensive entertaining.

At home, older family members may not approve of your life choices. When Mars squares Jupiter on December 7th, this conflict may be painful, but it's important that you stay true to yourself. Use the energy of the Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th to anchor your authenticity.

On December 13th, Mars moves into your money zone, driving you to find new ways to expand your income stream. This is a great time for thinking about a new business venture or for using your creative talents to earn extra income – Mercury arrives in your intelligence zone on the same day, so you have all the tools you need.

The Full Moon on December 18th occurs in an intense psychological area of your chart, so you may feel guilt and blame over something which you could not control. When Venus turns retrograde the following day, make serenity and peace a priority, rather than socializing.

Deep-rooted family trauma may surface again on December 24th, when the last of this year's painful Saturn-Uranus squares takes effect. It could be an uncomfortable festive period, but know that you are not alone or unsupported. When Venus conjuncts Pluto for the second time on December 25th, you will be able to make your voice heard.

The atmosphere lightens considerably as we head to 2022. With joyful Jupiter arriving in your fun zone on December 28th, emotions subside, and you can finally start to relax and chill out.

Sagittarius 

It's all about change this December, and never more so than during the Solar Eclipse in your own zodiac sign on December 4th. Take a long hard look at your life, and at where any surprises occur, for cosmic messages about what needs to be fixed.

When Mars squares your ruler Jupiter on December 7th, your innate need to teach others may backfire. The Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 10th confirms that your values are powerful, but now is not the time to lecture others.

When Mars arrives in Sagittarius on December 13th, your natural enthusiasm and joie de vivre come to the fore, and you will find people taking more notice of what you have to say. At the same time, Mercury's arrival in your values zone helps you reach people who share your ideals.

Don't neglect your personal life, however. The Full Moon in your love zone on December 18th is good for rekindling romance in a relationship where the spark had previously faded. Venus turns retrograde in your values zone the following day, so have some heart-to-heart talks about where you are headed together.

When Saturn squares Uranus on December 24th, for the final time this year, it's all about intellectual freedom for you. You'll want to speak out strongly on certain issues, but this will simply spark controversy and discord. Wait until the following day, when Venus again conjuncts Pluto in your values zone – much better energy for getting your point across.

There's a more peaceful and less combative vibe on the way as 2021 fades. Your ruler Jupiter moves into your family zone on December 28th – expect your domestic dreams to take flight as the new year begins.

Take a quick zodiac reading here to find out what the universe has to say about you right now.

Capricorn

Expect some very weird dreams, strange paranormal experiences or spooky happenings early in December, particularly around the time of the Solar Eclipse in your spiritual zone on December 4th. Interesting times!

Unfortunately, in your social life, things are running less smoothly, particularly when Mars clashes with Jupiter on December 7th – you may feel very let down by a friend or unable to trust someone. When Venus conjuncts Pluto in your own zodiac sign on the 10th, you may want to put your foot down and move on from that relationship.

Mars' arrival in your spiritual zone on December 13th coincides with Mercury's arrival in your own sign. Together, these influences drive you forward with spiritual exploration and you'll find yourself on a quest for answers. Don't allow your pursuit of logic to rule out more magical answers, however.

The Full Moon on December 18th is in your everyday work zone and highlights your distaste for the annual work shut down period. With Venus turning retrograde the following day and the arrival of the Sun in Capricorn during the solstice, you're content to be a lone wolf at work while others play.

However, expect some conflict over money when Saturn squares Uranus for the final time this year on December 24th. It seems that you're either risking too little or risking too much. Look for the second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th for some insight.

As 2021 fades, you'll feel full of bright ideas and enthusiasm for new projects. With bountiful Jupiter arriving in your ideas zone on December 28th, it looks set to be a 2022 full of innovative promise.

Aquarius

There could be some drama in your community around December 4th when the Solar Eclipse brings shocks and surprises. Revelations, in-fighting in a community project, or simply unpleasant truths about friends may be revealed, with quite some fall out to navigate.

Primarily, however, your mind is on your career, especially on December 7th when Mars squares Jupiter and leaves you unsure how far you should push your ambitions, or where you should draw the line. Be very careful about manipulating others for your own gain, especially when Venus conjuncts Pluto on December 10th.

On the 13th, Mars arrives in your social zone, increasing your desire to party, socialize and mix with other people far and wide. You're a genuinely friendly person, but with Mercury arriving in your secrets zone on the same day, you should be careful of your privacy around very new friends.

Still, it's a fun and pleasant period, with the Full Moon on December 18th in your party zone, promising a much-needed session of relaxation and joy. Venus turns retrograde the following day in your privacy zone, so make the most of good company while it's around.

On December 24th, Saturn squares Uranus in a very un-festive showdown over your identity and freedom. Some members of your family clearly have or had issues with who you are, perhaps stretching long into the past, and the time is ripe for old resentments and bitterness to surface. Look to the second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th to allow you to put people in their place and emerge stronger than before.

Happier times are ahead, and more abundant times too; Jupiter moves into your money zone on December 28th, promising much good fortune and an expanded income in 2022.

Pisces

Unexpected events in your career are connected to the Solar Eclipse in your ambitions zone on December 4th. These events may be welcome or very much unwelcome, but will put you on the spot and force some fast decision-making. Hold your nerve.

When Mars squares Jupiter on December 7th, you may struggle with long-distance relationships or work, and you may also find that work is simply eating way too much into your personal life. Make a point of spending time with friends on December 10th, when Venus conjuncts Pluto, and re-assert your power over your free time.

When Mars shifts into your career zone on December 13th, you'll feel more in control over your direction. Mercury arrives in your social zone the same day, increasing your charm and ensuring that you can do well in interviews, tests or other important meetings.

The Full Moon, however, falls in your family zone on December 18th, so you are reminded not to become so consumed with work that your loved ones feel left out. Try to strike a better balance.

Your self-confidence may take a dip when Saturn squares Uranus for the third and final times this year, on December 24th. This is very difficult energy, creating a lot of self-doubt and angst for you. Rely on the love and support of family and friends to boost you back up again, particularly during the second Venus-Pluto conjunction on December 25th.

The good news is that joyful, positive, optimistic Jupiter sweeps back into Pisces on December 28th. It's been a difficult year for you, but you head into 2022 with a sense that everything is finally going your way.

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