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Should We Follow The Heart Or The Mind? Here Is The Difference

It's a constant battle between the mind and the heart. We are tempted to follow through with bad decisions and justify them through the heart even when it feels like our brains are yelling at us to stop. We give people chances even when our mind decides that they don't deserve them. The heart often wins, but sometimes it shouldn't.

Do you think your "self" is located in your heart or in your brain? Here is how to chose.

They Inform One Another

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Emotions and thoughts are not separate entities. Instead, they are always intertwined in their expressions through a holistic brain. In fact, they constantly work together as a team to help us make sense of ourselves and the world around us.

However, both the mind and the heart each have their flaws. So maybe rather than ask if we should put one above the other, we should ask how we can bring out the best both and have one warn the other.

Where Is The Self?

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There is a bunch of research trying to find the answer to whether we locate our sense of self in the mind or in the heart. It seems as though it's a question of whether we see ourselves as independent or interconnected with other people.

For example, those who live in places with a collectivist culture like India are more likely to find their sense of self in the heart. On the other hand, Americans who give a lot of value to independence might be more likely to locate their sense of self in the brain. Which one do you relate to more?

Memories Long For Taking Risks

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The funny thing about the heart is that even when it gets hurt, it wants to take the risk again. That's because it remembers the things that made us feel. That's how we feel alive. Even when that feeling was painful, it was often preceded by our most beautiful memories.

It seems like the memory isn't affected by logic as much as we would like to think. Instead, it tips the brain over to impulsive decisions, or decisions that just make sense, hoping that those are the ones we will cherish and remember most.

Determine Your Current Emotional State

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As tempting as it is to listen to the heart over the brain, you must be careful. When you think on your feet, your thoughts are more influenced by your emotional state. This is not the case when you're thinking slow and able to taking the time to evaluate with logic.

For example, if you're in a bad mood, you might miss out on an opportunity that would benefit you.

The Heart Can Be Damaging

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In the same way it works when you're in a bad mood, if you're in a good mood and need to make a risky decision, you might react impulsively and make the wrong decision based on your emotional state at that moment only, and regret it later

Basically, listening to your heart, especially if you're under any kind of time pressure, can hurt you and have damaging consequences. That's why it's best to not make hasty decisions in the heat of the moment.

The Heart Speaks More Languages

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The benefit of the mind is that it is formed with years of experience and accumulated knowledge. Yet, knowledge is not the same as wisdom. Knowledge is based on facts while wisdom uses the heart to determine what to do with that knowledge.

The heart and the mind not only speak different languages, but the heart also speaks multiple languages. It's able to interpret and evaluate numerous perspectives.

Find A Way To Blend Both

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It turns out our sense of self is truly a blend of logic and emotion. Things are rarely ever black or white so both are needed to navigate the grey and make an informed decision. Use the wisdom of the heart combined with the knowledge of the mind so that your emotions don't cloud your judgment.

Think of the heart as the king, with the mind as the king's adviser. When making a difficult decision, the king might ask his advisers for advice or send him out into the world to gather information, but in the end, it's the king that makes the final decision.

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The Strength Each Zodiac Finds When Grieving A Loss

Grief happens in different stages and there's not necessarily a right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people can't face it right away and keep themselves distracted while others spend the first couple of weeks crying in bed thinking that they'll never feel better.

Grief isn't only felt death. They say that a break up activates the same pain receptors and stress hormones experienced when a loved one dies, so grief is really about any kind of loss for someone or even something like a job that was valued. It can have lasting effects that become traumatic when coping is not eventually dealt with in a healthy way. Luckily, each zodiac sign has character traits that give them a unique strength when dealing with grief. What's yours?

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Aries: Their Straighforwadness

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Aries doesn't care to sugarcoat and avoid the hard truth. They prefer to act in the heat in the moment and cut right down to the chase. You know that when Aries go for a night out, they won't be shy away from their dancing their heart out. They take that same explosive energy wherever they go. When they're grieving, that's all they feel and they let themselves face it head-on until they can come to terms with it.

They may feel a lot of anger at first or a lot of sadness, and they may not deal with that component calmly but having the strength to be straightforward about their grief is what helps them let the feelings pass and move on.

Taurus: An Ability To Escape

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A Taurus likely won't grief right away and try to keep their chin up. They might even try to console others first because the distraction helps them escape. When they're not helping others, they're going to want to disappear for a while, taking themselves on solo dates and watching movie marathons. They'll basically do anything to distract themselves and escape the pain.

However, their ability to escape is also their strength. It gives them a reason to keep going and eases them into adapting to a life without the person they lost gradually.

Gemini: Seeing The Good

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Gemini will do their best to resist their grief. They would rather stay positive to cope. However, the more they avoid what's really on their mind, the more likely they are to be moody. However, when they chose to accept grief, they manage to always find a silver lining.

Their strength is in choosing to celebrate a person's life instead of mourning their death. To them, the end is not a loss because if they never had it in the first place they would have missed out on a lot.

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Cancer: Emotional Intuition

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​Cancers have the ability to be completely in tune with their emotions. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and it's no different when they're grieving. They are not afraid to let themselves cry it out from the second it happens even if they're not sure if they could ever stop.

Cancers' intense emotion is their strength. They're able to manifest them into whatever channel they desire which means that when they get through the painful part, they'll go through the healing with the same intensity.

Leo: Coping Internally

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Leo doesn't feel the need to have a pity party and crying circles. Odds are they won't show their pain publicly but that doesn't mean that they're not dealing with it.

Leo's strength is in coping in the way that feels best to them in the moment, privately. They're not looking to repeat what works for others, they want to find what works for them. They spend a lot of time analyzing exactly what is making them sad and lean deeply into their emotions.

Virgo: Order And Logic

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Virgo can't come easily in terms of loss and death because they can't completely make sense of it. Their need for logic and order and can make them feel completely out of control when grieving. However, it is that same need for control that makes their strength.

Once they get through the initial shock, they ground themselves by creating their how-to guide for coping. They make step by steps lists of how to heal and keep busy with to-do lists meant to help them grieve in orderly ways.

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Libra: Rationality

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When Libra deals with grief, it can become more rational than usual. Libra is able to accept loss and death as unavoidable parts of life so it sees no point in fighting it. Instead, it spends its energy on adapting to a new life without what it is that it lost.

While sometimes Libra takes extreme measures by completely erasing parts of their lives that held the memory of what they lost, their strength is becoming a self-containing equalizer of emotions. Eventually, they even out their grief too.

Scorpio: Manipulation Through Empathy

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​When we hear the word "manipulation" we tend to think of its negative connotation. But manipulation by definition is an ability to purposely mold. For Scorpios, manipulation isn't just getting what they want out of others. When grieving, they're able to manipulate their sadness with intention.

This comes in different forms. For instance, by spending time with animals, children, or loved ones, they're able to manipulate feelings of protection and love that heal both themselves and those around them.

Sagittarius: The Hunt For Happiness

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​Saggitarius is driven by a genuine desire to find happiness. When they're first grieving they may feel lost and helpless as they no longer see a path to happiness.

Yet eventually their ambition kicks in and fuels them with the desire to fight their pain. They don't avoid their emotions and instead try to find ways to turn the negative ones into positive ones and be as happy as possible until they can become fully happy again.

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Capricorn: Maturity

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Capricorn tries to be mature about the way they handle grief, and finds it unhelpful to spend days in bed or to get angry. As an earth sign they feel connected to a higher being and can see the bigger picture.

They understand that loss will hurt for a while but that with time they will get past it, so they do their best to go through the motions until then, each day becoming easier than the last, until they're fully themselves again.

Aquarius: Living Back Memories

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Capricorns don't need external validation and motivation because they find it within themselves. They know the difference between what they can and can't control. They know they can't control a loss but they know that no one can take away the memories they created before they no longer could. So they chose to focus on what they can do.

They keep memories alive through pictures. They reconnect with people from their childhood or they pick up passions they left behind. This way, they connect back with themselves instead of caving to the loss.

Pisces: Just Keeps Swimming

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Pisces just need to be reminded that no matter what happens and how bad it is, the world keeps going and so they need to be able to keep up with it. Usually, they can get to this stage before falling down a spiral. Instead, they chose to lose themselves in ways that feel beautiful to them.

They chose to keep swimming. They indulge in self-care methods like watching movies or spending quality time with others. Their strength is in jump-starting their healing process and their motivation to keep moving forward.

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