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The Key To Tricking Our Brain Into Happiness With The Law Of Attraction

In the kind of world we live in, we may get too overwhelmed to find a reason to be happy. This can make it difficult to manifest with the law of attraction as we're not vibrating on a high enough frequency to attract what we truly desire.

So, we're faced with two options. We can either take control of our minds and wire them ourselves or we can let the hardships of the world act as a distraction and wire our brains for our us. While it may seem difficult, the key to gaining control and tricking your brain into happiness, even when you're struggling, lies in the following steps.

Make Your Bed In The Morning

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There's a special power with having clean and tidy bed each morning. Have you heard the expression that "if you want to change the world, start off by making your bed?"

William H. McRaven once explained that when you make your bed each morning, you've already completed your first task. You're setting the tone for the rest of the day by showing yourself that you can accomplish this task, just like you will accomplish the next, and the next. This elicits a sense of pride in you which triggers all the happy feels.

The Mind Changes With The Brain, For Better Or Worse

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Think of happiness as something that you can control. It's been shown that the flow of chemicals that you send to your brain can change your whole mood, and there are many ways for you to send them. For example, people who consciously practice gratitude, send higher flows of positive chemicals to the brain like dopamine.

The same thing can happen with physical activity or reading, or basically any other activity that you enjoy doing. This activated neural activity can start to sculpt the brain into lasting effects.

The Controlled Use Of Attention

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Attention is like a spotlight, so depending on where you shine it, you can trigger different feelings. If you focus on negative energy and shine your light on all the things going wrong or that you don't have, you train your brain into feeling hopeless and helpless.

On the other hand, if you shine your focus on what you do have, on what is going well, and on what you look forward to, you train your brain into feeling happy and hopeful.

Plant Your Happiness, Literarily

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The universe gave us the great gift of nature for a reason. However for many of us that live in the city, we can miss out on nature's calming and high vibrating frequencies. So, create your own indoor garden. Not only will it be pretty to look at but, it will affect your brain.

Did you know that a 10-month study found that flowers are a natural mood moderator and trigger our brain's "happy" chemicals? Those include all three main happy chemicals like Dopamine, Serotonin, and Oxytocin. One reason could be our association of flowers with happy events like weddings, spring, or gifts of love. Plus, their green colors, and released oxygen can help us feel concentrated and less stressed.

Force A Laugh Or A Smile

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It may seem silly, but even if the last thing you feel like doing is smiling, forcing it can trick your brain into feeling happy. They say if your muscles say that you're happy, your entire being will start to see the world positively.

The same goes for laughing. In fact even giggles can reduce stress and positively impact our mood. This works in the same way that using our facial muscles to form a smile can trick our brains into thinking we're happy. So find a good comedy or surround yourself with your funniest friends!

Intend To Make Good Experience As Intense As Possible

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If you're walking past a pretty field or if someone goes out of their way to open the door for you, these things may seem small but they can have a big impact if you let them. These small things act as a reminder of the kindness and goodness still in the world. They make us feel good in the moment.

Recognize these moments and rather than brush them off, savor them for as long as possible. Write them down if you have to. This will intensify the experience, and let the good feelings they brought sink into you so that you can carry them with you.

Practice Meditation

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Practicing meditation can seem boring or even hard with a racing brain at first, but as the name suggests, it requires practice. Once you let your mind travel out of your body, even if it's for a short while, you let go of all stress and negativity. Once you come back to the room, you don't bring it all back with you.

Instead, the meditation session focuses your mind on stillness. It leaves you feeling relaxed and concentrated which can rewire your brain's processing and allow it to feel happier!

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Death And Breakups Trigger The Same Unbearable Pain, Except For This One Crucial Difference

There is a false believe that true, intense grief is only experienced during the loss of a loved one to death. However, more and more we're realizing that any kind of loss can be grieved, even if it's just a breakup, Grief in all its stages, is experienced is whenever a person faces a life changing loss from intimate relationships, losing a job, a house to a fire, having to relocate, you name it. However there is still one major difference between death and breakups that make breakups even more painful.

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Depression From Loneliness

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Psychological studies have spent a long time trying to understand the pain receptors that are activated during grief. They found that the loss of a loved one has specific depression symptoms, primarily loneliness, which then leads to other depressive symptoms.

In both kinds of losses (death or breakups), the grieving person has to relearn how to be in the absence of someone they shared a bond with and gave a lot of time to. Not being able to see them anymore, whether by circumstance or choice, can feel really isolating and lonely.

Constant Triggers In Routines

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One of the hardest changes experienced in these losses is having to readapt to a whole new lifestyle. The longer the relationships before the losses, the harder it is to accustom to a daily life alone. A routine that was once taken for granted, or even mundane stops making sense, leaving the griever with a shattered sense of self.

Sometimes it's the smallest reminders that cause the greatest pains like having to go to the grocery store alone or walking past the favorite restaurant of a lost loved one. It's quite difficult to build a life from scratch.

Both Kinds Of Grief Impact The Physical Body

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Both breakups and death can take a toll on the physical body. A grieving person will often experience trouble eating, trouble sleeping, low energy, and even panic attacks. Not to mention that each one of those systems will lead to its own effect like trouble sleeping will lead to headaches, nausea, and an ability to concentrate. These symptoms create a vicious cycle of pain.

The feeling of loss is not just emotional but also physical, which makes sense when thinking that the person we lost is no longer physically there. The creates a longing for their physical body to be able to hug it or feel its warmth once again.

A Loss Of The Future

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One thing that breakups and death have in common is that no one really plans for them or can predict when they happen. No one enters a relationship thinking that it's just going to end. Usually, long-term plans are made together and when the person we made them with is gone, so is the hope we had of the future we had. Not only do we grieve the loss of that person but the loss of the future as well.

it becomes hard to live for tomorrow having no idea where it now leads ad it. Grief then creates a void and the grieving person feels like it's walking aimlessly, now lost in the vastity of the world. It takes time to then find hope in a new future.

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The Major Difference Between Death And Breakups: Ambiguous Grief

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We have no choice when it comes to death. It's the inevitable part of our existence and we have no control over its timing. When we lose someone to death we have no choice but to say goodbye and continue knowing that they no longer are a part of our world. However, a breakup is a choice. This is a lot harder to express because even when we say goodbye, we then have to continue living knowing that the person we lost still walks among us, but that we no longer have the privilege of sharing life with them. The grief of a breakup is not only in having to say goodbye to a relationship that's now over and a person that's gone, but also in having to watch that very same person live on with us.

Grieving someone that is still alive in that way is known as ambiguous grief. It means that we're experiencing a loss because someone has changed or disappeared and are stuck in limbo between hoping that everything will return to normal and trying to grasp that life as we know it is also fading away.

Abandonment Grief

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Experiencing grief can come with a complicated set of abandonment issues. Suddenly this person we had trusted to always be with us is gone, leaving us to figure life out alone. However, the abonnement is scarring when it is experienced through rejection. A breakup can actually feel traumatic and tap into insecurities and anxieties that date all the way back to childhood.

Suddenly we start expecting everyone who loves us to then also change their mind and leave us. In an attempt to protect ourselves from feeling that loss again, we can never attach fully again, and simply feel incomplete for a long time.

A Breakup Feels Like A Threat To Survival

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Another reason that grief from a breakup is worse is that the brain processes the loss of a partner as a threat to survival This triggers biological changes because it gets the body ready for self-defense. In a state of emergency, It increases heart rate and blood pressure, decreases appetite, and increases oxygen to the brain to put the body on high alert.

It can even start over-analyzing experiences from the past to learn and prepare for the new perceived danger. This all makes the person feel like they have become obsessed with their ex, and that the only way they'll survive and feel better is if they can go back to the source of their attachment, and get their ex back. When they fail to, it worsens their abandonment anxiety.

Leads To Revenge Or Planning To Get Them Back Are

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We as human beings are wired to connect. From the moment we're born we develop a deep need for attachment. As we get older we find people we connect with and attach ourselves to them. The attachment is even stronger when part of an intimate relationship as it becomes a primary attachment. When it's suddenly cut off, all the energy that was invested with it has no place to go and completely disrupt the biology of the brain.

To cope with this kind of grief, people resort to one of two methods before reaching acceptance. Either they try to execute revenge, which is just another way to keep holding on to the attachment while projecting their pain. Or, they desperately obsess over trying to get their ex back. Thankfully, the healing process and the stages of grief eventually all lead to acceptance.

It's Okay To Feel Pain, Because There's An End in Sight

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We don't blame you for being frustrated with the pain that relationships bring and wanting to stick with what's comfortable but if you're longing to break the cycle click here to find out how. if you're looking for more information on how grief takes its toll on you specifically, then you'll need your own zodiac reading.

We're each on our own unique path and what some struggle with might not be applicable to you too.

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