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The Most Common Lies Men Tell In Relationships, Including The Good Guys

We're sorry to say this but even the good guys tell white lies sometimes. Does that make it okay? Not necessarily but sometimes it's just easier to hide behind small lies then to upset the one we love. Some men even have the best intentions when they lie and they simply are trying to make you happy.

Little do men know, women are often two steps ahead and have already caught them in their lies. So big or small, we recommend relying on truths always, to continue to build trust.

"I Would Never Lie To You"

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Ironically this is the most common lie. If they need to go out of their way to tell you that they wouldn't lie then they're already lying. Everyone tells lies sometimes.

Actions speak louder than words and if they're honest and truthful person, it'll show rather then them have to say it.

"I'm Not Like The Other Guys"

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What does this statement even mean? What is the standard? How do we define "other" guys? Each man is unique with their own history, and personality but in the end, they're also all the same, in the sense that they're just human.

So by saying that they're not like the other guys, it's not you they're trying to convince, it's themselves that they're trying to prove this to. They're trying to convince themselves that they can stand out and earn you love.

"I'm Stuck In Traffic"

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Men often resort to this line when they're being forced to meet you or attend an event they really don't want to. They'll find every reason possible to arrive fashionably late so that they can minimize their time there.

That way they can justify their tardiness without upsetting you but still say that they went. However this starts to become problematic when they're late to important events like meeting your parents for the very first time.

"Sorry I Missed Your Call"

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What really happened is that they heard the phone ring, saw it was you calling, and then watched the phone continue to ring because they simply didn't feel like dealing with it.

Men often use their time away from home as an emotional break as well. This is their time to rejuvenate their energy and keep a certain level of independence. They figure they will deal with whatever it is that you need when they get home anyway.

"You Look Great In That Outfit"

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Men know to chose their battles and critiquing a woman on her outfit is not one that they want to get into. First of all, they were already ready half an hour ago and they just want to leave. They know very well that if they say they don't like your outfit, that you'll spend another 20 mins trying to chance.

Second, they feel like this question is a trap and they should only validate how you already feel about the outfit. As they should, because it only matters how you feel about it anyway.

"It's Just Hard To Plan Right Now"

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This line is of many that men will use to get out of making plans in advance. They often feel too overwhelmed and uncertain about the future to make promises that they might not be able to keep. They would rather answer with "maybe" than say yes and dread it all the way till then.

Men often fear commitment and are focused on the present. Some simply prefer procrastinating or waiting till the very last second to make a decision.

'I'm Sorry"

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The absolute most common lie that men tell women and perhaps the worst. Whenever a man messes up, he will just say I am sorry and hope they are forgiven. The problem is, most of the time men are not actually sorry - they are just sorry they got caught. This is just an easy way out for them.

It makes it look like they're taking accountability but really they're just telling you what you want to hear so that you can just get over it.

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Death And Breakups Trigger The Same Unbearable Pain, Except For This One Crucial Difference

There is a false believe that true, intense grief is only experienced during the loss of a loved one to death. However, more and more we're realizing that any kind of loss can be grieved, even if it's just a breakup, Grief in all its stages, is experienced is whenever a person faces a life changing loss from intimate relationships, losing a job, a house to a fire, having to relocate, you name it. However there is still one major difference between death and breakups that make breakups even more painful.

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Depression From Loneliness

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Psychological studies have spent a long time trying to understand the pain receptors that are activated during grief. They found that the loss of a loved one has specific depression symptoms, primarily loneliness, which then leads to other depressive symptoms.

In both kinds of losses (death or breakups), the grieving person has to relearn how to be in the absence of someone they shared a bond with and gave a lot of time to. Not being able to see them anymore, whether by circumstance or choice, can feel really isolating and lonely.

Constant Triggers In Routines

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One of the hardest changes experienced in these losses is having to readapt to a whole new lifestyle. The longer the relationships before the losses, the harder it is to accustom to a daily life alone. A routine that was once taken for granted, or even mundane stops making sense, leaving the griever with a shattered sense of self.

Sometimes it's the smallest reminders that cause the greatest pains like having to go to the grocery store alone or walking past the favorite restaurant of a lost loved one. It's quite difficult to build a life from scratch.

Both Kinds Of Grief Impact The Physical Body

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Both breakups and death can take a toll on the physical body. A grieving person will often experience trouble eating, trouble sleeping, low energy, and even panic attacks. Not to mention that each one of those systems will lead to its own effect like trouble sleeping will lead to headaches, nausea, and an ability to concentrate. These symptoms create a vicious cycle of pain.

The feeling of loss is not just emotional but also physical, which makes sense when thinking that the person we lost is no longer physically there. The creates a longing for their physical body to be able to hug it or feel its warmth once again.

A Loss Of The Future

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One thing that breakups and death have in common is that no one really plans for them or can predict when they happen. No one enters a relationship thinking that it's just going to end. Usually, long-term plans are made together and when the person we made them with is gone, so is the hope we had of the future we had. Not only do we grieve the loss of that person but the loss of the future as well.

it becomes hard to live for tomorrow having no idea where it now leads ad it. Grief then creates a void and the grieving person feels like it's walking aimlessly, now lost in the vastity of the world. It takes time to then find hope in a new future.

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The Major Difference Between Death And Breakups: Ambiguous Grief

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We have no choice when it comes to death. It's the inevitable part of our existence and we have no control over its timing. When we lose someone to death we have no choice but to say goodbye and continue knowing that they no longer are a part of our world. However, a breakup is a choice. This is a lot harder to express because even when we say goodbye, we then have to continue living knowing that the person we lost still walks among us, but that we no longer have the privilege of sharing life with them. The grief of a breakup is not only in having to say goodbye to a relationship that's now over and a person that's gone, but also in having to watch that very same person live on with us.

Grieving someone that is still alive in that way is known as ambiguous grief. It means that we're experiencing a loss because someone has changed or disappeared and are stuck in limbo between hoping that everything will return to normal and trying to grasp that life as we know it is also fading away.

Abandonment Grief

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Experiencing grief can come with a complicated set of abandonment issues. Suddenly this person we had trusted to always be with us is gone, leaving us to figure life out alone. However, the abonnement is scarring when it is experienced through rejection. A breakup can actually feel traumatic and tap into insecurities and anxieties that date all the way back to childhood.

Suddenly we start expecting everyone who loves us to then also change their mind and leave us. In an attempt to protect ourselves from feeling that loss again, we can never attach fully again, and simply feel incomplete for a long time.

A Breakup Feels Like A Threat To Survival

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Another reason that grief from a breakup is worse is that the brain processes the loss of a partner as a threat to survival This triggers biological changes because it gets the body ready for self-defense. In a state of emergency, It increases heart rate and blood pressure, decreases appetite, and increases oxygen to the brain to put the body on high alert.

It can even start over-analyzing experiences from the past to learn and prepare for the new perceived danger. This all makes the person feel like they have become obsessed with their ex, and that the only way they'll survive and feel better is if they can go back to the source of their attachment, and get their ex back. When they fail to, it worsens their abandonment anxiety.

Leads To Revenge Or Planning To Get Them Back Are

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We as human beings are wired to connect. From the moment we're born we develop a deep need for attachment. As we get older we find people we connect with and attach ourselves to them. The attachment is even stronger when part of an intimate relationship as it becomes a primary attachment. When it's suddenly cut off, all the energy that was invested with it has no place to go and completely disrupt the biology of the brain.

To cope with this kind of grief, people resort to one of two methods before reaching acceptance. Either they try to execute revenge, which is just another way to keep holding on to the attachment while projecting their pain. Or, they desperately obsess over trying to get their ex back. Thankfully, the healing process and the stages of grief eventually all lead to acceptance.

It's Okay To Feel Pain, Because There's An End in Sight

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We don't blame you for being frustrated with the pain that relationships bring and wanting to stick with what's comfortable but if you're longing to break the cycle click here to find out how. if you're looking for more information on how grief takes its toll on you specifically, then you'll need your own zodiac reading.

We're each on our own unique path and what some struggle with might not be applicable to you too.

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